Can You Have A “Ladies Man” As a Loyal Loving Partner? By Ange Fonce
Posted by ANGE FONCE on Sunday, February 8, 2015 Under: DYNAMIC RELATIONSHIPS For Men & Women
Can You Have A “Ladies Man” As a Loyal Loving Partner?
By Ange Fonce
I think it is important to mention at the outset of this article...that I am in no way RECOMMENDING that you spend your time trying to “convert the players” of the world while there are plenty of "emotionally mature" men to choose from.
What makes these men interesting and worth taking a look at... is “decoding the motivations”... that make it impossible for them to stick with “sexual fidelity”... and “loyalty” to a female partner... and then root out what that means about men in general... and your relationships.
Players are unfaithful to women because of their need for “validation.”
These are men who are good at “seducing” women... usually they are very handsome... often very charming... or sometimes they are men with a very uncommon amount of money or power... and use those qualities to "wow" the women they go after.
Yet... there is will always be another side of them that is powerfully “insecure”...
About their job
About their relationships with peers or other men
About their education or intelligence
About their own fitness as a long term partner
And... almost universally... if you sit and talk to a "player"... you will discover that they had a father who was impossible to please... they were never "good enough"... because of this... they feel that their “masculinity” was never “validated”... and the clearest path to "masculine validation”.... to being a MAN in our biological wiring is through sex.
Of course many men transcend their biological impulse... I call that Masculine Maturity.
If you predicted... based on all of this... that a man is more likely to be “dis loyal”... when his “male pride”... takes a hit... you would be 90% correct... a man is much more likely to seek out “extra marital romance”... if he has lost his job... feels... “marginalized at work”... or in his “family”... or is feeling “emasculated” by age... often called the “mid life crisis.”
Now Here Is The REAL BIG NEWS... What will almost "guarantee" that any man will "cheat" and be "dis loyal" to the woman he is with... or “getting” with... is when he feels “marginalized”... or “emasculated” by YOU... his lover and partner... especially sexually.
Now of course there are “men of integrity”... who would not “cheat”... or be “dis loyal” under any circumstances... if in the case above... he feels “marginalized”... or “emasculated” by YOU... he will simply "exit the relationship" first and seek sexual satisfaction and “enjoy” other women... elsewhere afterwards... because he no longer "enjoys"... being with YOU!
I think you can begin to see the lessons you can learn by studying what makes a man a "player" and especially in figuring out why such a man might change his ways... so can a “player”... finally settle down because he found a woman that met his "sexual appetites and tastes... ?"
Here is the CRUCIAL part... Players often have MANY women in their lives that meet that description... what ultimately makes the difference for a man who is a player... to a man who will be “loyal”... is meeting a woman who ACCEPTS him... as HE IS... and this goes for the VAST majority of men too... players and none players alike.
For a man... this feeling of not being “judged”... of feeling that it is okay to be himself... even the parts that include calling breasts jugs... or finding schoolgirl uniforms a turn-on... is a “deeply positive experience"... for him... the feeling of being “totally accepted” and free to be yourself... especially from the woman who you are crazy about... is the kind of “powerful validation” that can help a man find his “internal centre”... so that he no longer NEEDS that “sexual validation” from the outside.
I have a male friend... and I name no names here... who was most certainly a “ladies man”... then he meet a woman who was divorced... very attractive and had two children from her previous relationship... well he “charmed" her... as was his way... then I noticed he started to change... and the day he sat in my office and said to me...
“Ange... I am going to marry this woman.”
To say... I blinked... more than once... would be an understatement... ten years later plus three children of his own with her... he still totally "adores" her now.... as he did back then... what did she do... to WIN him?
Read On... Important Note Here...
There is a world of difference between giving a man "acceptance" and making him feel comfortable to be himself... and just giving him everything he wants... there is nothing wrong with telling a man "no" if he wants something that you do not feel comfortable with... the question of HOW you say "no" is very important though... an insecure woman will say...
"No... because you are sick to want that."
"No... and can you please explain to me why an adult man would want such a thing?"
She is threatened by his desire... and threatened by her own unwillingness to give him what he wants... will he go get it some place else now?
And so she needs to justify her "no".... she needs him to see that she is RIGHT.
In the case of my friend and his now wife... there are many things that he has asked for that she has had to say "no" to... including sexual things.... yet... he is absolutely “committed” and “loyal” to her... “adores” her and will not stray... why?
Because he considers her... his BEST FRIEND.
And the reason for that is because he feels UNDERSTOOD and ACCEPTED for who he is... she has never made him WRONG for his desires... and NEVER tried to CHANGE him... so obviously compatibility plays a part here.
Now... in your own relationships... is there any place where this idea of accepting a man... even when the answer is "no"... could bring more love and better sexual chemistry?
Of course... and to be fair... women want "acceptance" too.
A woman wants to be able to express her “sexuality” without being labelled “easy”... and she wants to be able to withhold her sexuality at times without being labelled “frigid”... even if either of these positions disappoints her man... and this is not a game of...
"I will only like you if you like me first."
Acceptance and “understanding” is a gift that can only be given or withheld by the giver... and It is always yours to give... and it is one of the most “desirable qualities” in a partner... both in and out of the bedroom.
And, yes... from my own personal and professional experience... I feel it is one of the fundamental keys to insuring your partners “sexual fidelity”... and “loyalty”... for a lifetime.
Trusting... "loving"... “understanding” and “accepting”... he or she as they are... not as you want them to be... is the “key” to opening up real “intimacy” in a relationship.
As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you.
Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!
They are truly Passionate and DYNAMIC Lovers!
Yours Sincerely
Ange Fonce
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