How To Build The Exclusive Relationship You Want With A Man 

By Ange Fonce

If a man has not talked about being "exclusive" with you yet, then he is still in the "courting" phase with you.

The truth is that most men or most high quality men enjoy "courting" and will not rush into exclusivity or a long term commitment. 

That is unless you know how to talk to a man about becoming exclusive, and you know how to make a smooth transition into a committed relationship without scaring him away by coming across as "needy" and "insecure."

Unfortunately, this is where a lot of women do not understand how things work with men. 

Have you ever had the talk with a man, or tried to define the relationship, or asked him where things are going or constantly dropped "hints?"

I have to smile to myself when I write that last sentence because I am so aware when women are fishing and testing the waters on this subject with me. 

If you are like many women, you have probably found that doing this rarely speeds up a man's desire for exclusivity and commitment. Unless he is a needy man, which can mean he will be all over you. 

And when that happens, if I was a woman... I would be asking some serious questions in my mind about such a man.

As with a high quality man, it may well have the opposite effect... chances are he did not say..

"Wow, you know, you are right... we are so awesome together... we should make things exclusive right this second."

Now... I get that men make relationships feel impossible sometimes... and I know it is not funny when you are seeing a man for a while and you still have no clue what he is thinking and where he sees things headed for the two of you.

The reality is that while you cannot force such a man into commitment... you can lead him into it. 

Just as a man can lead a woman into a relationship... you might not realize this... you have the power to make a man want to be with you for an exclusive... committed relationship. You just need to know the specific words and actions that will get him there.

Women write to me constantly about how frustrated they are that the man they are seeing has not given them a solid indication of where things are going with the relationship or even if they are in an exclusive relationship to begin with. 

These same women will often keep seeing a man, having a physical relationship with him, and becoming more emotionally invested in him even though they feel extremely uneasy about not knowing where the relationship is headed.

I am going to share with you how not to get yourself into this situation in the first place... I am going to share with you how to set things up right from the start so that you and the man you are courting feel great. 

The Importance Of Letting Him Know Where You Stand

Talking about becoming "exclusive" and moving into a relationship where it is spoken that he is not courting other women is an important foundation. Without this foundation... I am sure you have felt that knot in your stomach and that nagging uncertainty that gets in the way of you ever feeling comfortable enough to really open yourself up... you cannot really relax until you know this foundation is in place for you.

The thing is, most men do not understand this about women and about relationships... they do not comprehend that a woman simply cannot truly relax and open herself up to love until she knows she can trust the man she is with and that he is loving and loyal... why?

Because men do not always understand the value of this foundation and feel it the way most women do... if a man is not the one asking you for an exclusive and committed relationship, that means you have to be the one to initiate the conversation... and to be honest most men and women are lousy at this... setting this foundation for a relationship they just fall into it and assume this is what each other wants.

So... now to the how?

Getting The Exclusivity You Want With A Man

You never want to be in a situation where you are asking a man where you stand with him. 

Not only does this put you in a vulnerable position... and it assumes that he is the one in control... and it will actually make him feel less attracted to you. 

Doing this is actually one of the big turn off's for men... and it is a surprisingly common "courting strategy" women take on that I call becoming the convincer.

Men are simply not attracted to women who try and convince them to be in a more serious relationship with them... they are also not attracted to women who feel that they would need to try and convince a man in the first place. 

Instead... men are deeply and naturally attracted to women who live their lives and have certain standards when it comes to interacting with men.

And one of the unspoken standards that is most attractive to a man is a woman who is what I call selective.

How Being Selective Makes Him Want Only You

When a man has an easy time having a woman fall for him, or a man sees a woman acting in a way that says she will not be okay without his love and commitment, then a man is turned off and shuts down on a emotional level. 

This is a man's basic emotional response when he senses a woman needs to move forward too fast too soon.

He senses that the reason she wants to move forward is more about satisfying unmet emotional needs than about true connection and appreciation...and it triggers him to pull away. 

When this happens... a man sees you as desperate for more, and potentially emotionally unstable rather than seeing you as a woman who is stable and emotionally grounded, no matter how things go in that moment.

The truth is that a man wants the woman he chooses to get closer and open up to have a level of control over her life and her emotional state. 

So... when he senses this need for a relationship, it sets off red flags for him... and a Dynamic Masculine Man is certainly aware of this!

On the other hand, when a woman is selective about how and when she moves into a more serious and committed relationship... she is not coming from a place of unmet emotional needs... instead, she is coming from a place of inviting the man to be with her, and at the same time being clear that her life is going to continue forward and be full and rich no matter what a man does.

This attitude is a subtle shift and the response that a man will have to it will make all the difference. 

When a man feels that a woman is coming from this place where she does not need the relationship and that it could be something she knows would make life even better... a man has an entirely different experience.

When a man senses that the woman he is with is also carefully deciding whether or not she should choose him or not... he will step into the space that brings a more committed relationship together. 

So... aside from having the right attitude... how do you show a man that you are selective and trigger this response that will draw him closer to you?

Be The Prize To Be Won!
As I say to ALL my clients... both male and female... develop the mental attitude that you are the prize to be won! 

And when you think and feel that the man or woman... if you are in a same sex relationship... is worthy of winning the prize which is you... you decide to let him or her win you. 

You can do it by saying something as simple as... 

"It is completely your right to see more than one woman at a time... and I want you to know that in order for me to become physically involved with a man, I need to be in an exclusive relationship with him."

Notice that you are not making any demands... you are not displaying any of the neediness that men find unattractive and will take advantage off.

As I explain in the article "How Sex With A Man Too Early Makes You His Booty Call Not His Intimate Lover"... you are letting him know that you have standards and high values that he needs to meet before you decide to choose to be with him.

Making Him Think It Is All His Idea

Here is something I want you to understand...

When you present your needs and boundaries like the way I showed you above... the right man will realize he would be a fool to lose you... the right man will step up to the plate and ask you for the commitment you are after and he will swell up thinking it was his idea all along and that he has won you.

On the other hand... when you are with the wrong man and you communicate your needs and your selectivity... he will pull away and show you what you needed to see in the first place, which is that he was not the right man to begin with, or that it just is not the right time for the two of you. 

In other words... how you handle the exclusivity question will show you a great deal about the kind of man you are with and will keep you from wasting time with the wrong one.

How you handle exclusivity can make all the difference between whether the right man is inspired to devote himself to you or whether he will withdraw and start to lose interest. 

Exclusivity is just one of the tests that come up in relationships with men. 

Keep a look out for a future article called "Non committed stage of a relationship" where I will be going into a very crucial stage for a man when he moves from the "courting stage" to the "commitment stage" with a woman.

Now... if you want to KNOW more about the "deeper skills" of courting, relationships, and intimacy.

Please do Contact me.

As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you.

Average men and women know only the rules.

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are truly Passionate and DYNAMIC Lovers!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce


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