Do You Know Happiness Is A Choice?

"When one door of happiness closes another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." ~ Helen Keller

What if I told you that you have the ability to decide if you are happy or not?

You would probably say that I am crazy: 

1. I am not crazy 


2. Happiness is a choice.

You cannot depend on someone else to make you happy. 

That is a lesson I have learned time and time in my  own life. 

I realized that I could not rely on others as my source of happiness. 

I learned that my happiness depended on me and not others actions. 

I learned that you have to choose to be happy.

You can choose your emotions. 

True happiness comes from within, it cannot be forced by outside forces. 

So How Do You Choose Happiness? 

The same away you choose to smile or choose to wear a certain outfit. 

You choose it because that is what you want to experience in your life.

You want to buy a new pair of shoes so you choose a pair that you like and feels good. 

You would not buy a pair of shoes that you do not like or that do not fit well, right? 

So why do we keep choosing emotions and feelings that do not serve us well?

Well, most people do not realize that you can choose feeling happy over feeling angry or upset about something. 

It is not wrong to feel angry or upset and dwelling on it and letting the anger simmer for too long can have negative results.

Choosing to be happy after you realize your anger has shown up (or even choosing to be calm) can be beneficial. 

You end up acknowledging your anger and moving on instead of harbouring those emotions until there is a flare up. 

You choose your feelings, no one can do that for you. 

If you let others get to you, influence your emotions - you are giving them power over you. 

When others cause you anger or pain, you are giving them your power.

What about those who irritate you or make you mad? 

You have the power of choice and most times you react out of anger. 

Instead of taking a mental time out and knowing that what that person said is about them,  you unconsciously choose to react. 

The reaction is usually out of anger or fear. 

It is a re-action, not an action.

How Do You Stop This Behaviour? 

You need to keep your feelings in check and not react automatically to what is thrown at you. 

You need to think your actions out instead of just reacting to what someone says or does. 

Reacting is responding to someone else's actions. 

What you need to do is act on your own accord and not let the actions of others influence you. 

By doing that you stay conscious of your own thoughts and feelings and not let what others do to us affect your moods.

Remember that you can always choose happiness. 

At first it will be difficult to just switch your thoughts and feelings from anger, self-doubt, or fear to joy and happiness. 

And it is only a thought away. 

Do not dwell on what happens to you unnecessarily and realize what is causing you to feel that way. 

Realize that thoughts, feelings and emotions can change. 

Then move on and choose to be happy.

Everybody really knows what to do to have his or her life filled with joy. 

What Is It?

Quit hating people... Start loving them. Or at least respect them and accept them as they are. We are ALL living on this spinning planet in the Universe together.

Quit being mad at people... Start liking them. No one is perfect, we ALL make mistakes in life and when we are smart, we learn from those mistakes and improve ourselves.

Quit being negative... Quit being filled with fear. Yes the World can be a harsh place, and you can deal with negative situations in a positive way.

Quit thinking about yourself... Go out and do something for other people. He who gives Greatly receives Greatly in return.

Everybody knows what you have to do to be happy.

And the wisdom of the test lies in these  words...

"If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them." ~ Anon

You do have a Choice!

Ange Fonce

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