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Before I get into the meat of this article, I will share with you a story...

Read on...

A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.

Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different.

He called all the young executives in his company together.

He said, “It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO. I have decided to choose one of you.”

The young executives were shocked, but the boss continued......

One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed.

He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story.

She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed.

Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown.

After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.

Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.

Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing.

By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim still did not have anything growing and he felt like a failure.

Six months went by - still nothing in Jim’s pot.

He just knew he had killed his seed.

Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing.

Jim did not say anything to his colleagues, however, he just kept watering and fertilizing the soil - he so wanted the seed to grow.

A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.

Jim told his wife that he was not going to take an empty pot.

And she asked him to be honest about what happened.

Jim felt sick to his stomach.

It was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right.

He took his empty pot to the board room.

When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives.

They were beautiful - in all shapes and sizes.

Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, but a few felt sorry for him!

When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.

Jim just tried to hide in the back........

All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot.

He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front.

Jim was terrified.

He thought, “The CEO knows I’m a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!”

When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed - Jim told him the story.

The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim.

He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives...

 “Behold your next Chief Executive Officer! His name is Jim!”

Jim could not believe it.

He could not even grow his seed?

“How could he be the new CEO?” the others said.

Then the CEO said...

So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.

You are the gardener that brings them to life!

Your "New Year Resolutions" and have you ever kept to them?

The idea of making a "New Year's Resolution" is one of the most tired, old, worn out "traditions" I can think of.

Every January 1st you all make at least one.

And by about January 10th you have all usually given up on it (or flat-out forgotten about it) already.

I have figured out why this is the case.

Simply, it is because the question, "What's your New Year's resolution?" has become as much of a default during the first week of January as asking "how are you?" when greeting someone is every other week of the year.

And like you do for the latter question, you make sure you have a shiny, positive answer ready for the former.

This means, of course, that HAVING an answer is more important than CARING about what you are actually going to do!

Actually, it is a two-part resolution, but bear with me.

First, I resolve to make more resolutions more often, all year long.

That is, I am making a "resolution to resolve".

And going along with that, I resolve to KEEP my resolutions.

Essentially, what I am aiming to do is form a HABIT of intentionally improving every aspect of my being that could use it.

No more "one and done" resolutions that the calendar coerced me into making.

And further, I am going to SHOW SOME CHARACTER and actually DO what I tell myself I am going to do.

Now, what I am about to say may be like dropping a bomb.

I know it seemed like that for me when the "light bulb" went for me about "goal setting and acquiring" I have this on a sheet of paper above my desk in my office.

And I wanted to share this with you.

Here it is...

 

And part of my business is to come through for my clients.

It is very Important, but when I sat and reflected for myself and asked me this question which I often ask of my clients?

The answer was to myself..."Ange, no.you don't always do this!"

So that is when I sat down and wrote to myself this resolution as a constant reminder.

To be AUTHENTIC in everything I do, not only for others but for MYSELF too!

Seriously, the concept at play here is about as binary as today's dateline.

Either I am "A Man of Character whose Actions follow his words, or I'm NOT."

When thought about that way, it's a true game changer for the whole idea of making "resolutions."

After all, "resolution" is virtually synonymous with "promise."

And here's the craziest part of all.

Character, remember, is one of the "Big Four."

So in a very real way, making a resolution to KEEP your resolutions actually IS-in and of itself-a resolution to "get better with women, with men and creating "Happiness" and Achievement in YOUR LIFE!".

See how that works?

Further more, ambition, motivation and passion are ATTRACTIVE.

Now as a man I am going to change focus here.

They are MASCULINE traits, as defined by women themselves.

A man with a goal and a confident plan for accomplishing it in turn inspires confidence in a woman.

So making a "resolution to resolve" fits that persona hand-in-glove.

Wrap up everything we're discussing here and you have got the "Big Four" (masculinity, confidence, inspiring confidence in women,character etc.) covered.

But equally these traits can be applied for women too and Femininity.

Perhaps you were expecting me to give you some "rah-rah" pep talk about how you should resolve to get better with women, with men and goals in your life, like every other personal-development coach is doing today.

And rest assured, I JUST DID.

Far be it from me to disappoint you.

But before I close, I want to share something else with you that is relevant to this conversation, and that you may find as particularly intriguing as I do.

So the very first section of most self help books is this: "List 25 things you would like to do/see/have in your lifetime."

Everyone response tends to be completely unique, which is a good thing.

And there is one amazing thread of commonality between those responses.

Usually, at least HALF of the items on any particular person's list could be accomplished AT WILL and AT ANY TIME!

Were they to get slotted on the schedule and MADE TIME FOR.

I am talking about things like, "take salsa dancing lessons","drive a beautiful car " and even "watch a sunset from beginning to end."

What is on your 25 things to do "bucket list?"

Are there items on there that are as easily arranged in real life as they are dreamed about?

And wait...can you even THINK of 25 items to fill out such a list?

Remember, having the kind of inspired creative life that men and women want to be apart of is a HUGE factor in attracting the highest quality ones.

If you go to your day job, come home and watch the tube, wake up the next morning and do the SAME THING the next
day you are bringing NOTHING to the table.

If that is your lifestyle, you are not LEADING in a way that's ATTRACTIVE to women, to men and if you are really HONEST even to yourself.

He, she can remain bored and uninspired WITHOUT YOU, thank you very much.

So my challenge to you is this...

Why not take the time to write out your own "list of 25" and let that kick start your own "resolution to resolve?"

If you find yourself jotting down stuff you can actually GET DONE if you'd simply make a move, so be it.

Make today the day you get going on those...for real.

And if you find yourself writing down loftier goals that will take some time, ingenuity...that is cool also.

Start putting your ducks in order so those dreams and visions start appearing to draw nearer to you.

Should some of the items on your list involve travel or other experiences that might involve rearranging your expenses a little,start asking yourself whether or not there really is always something more pressing to do with your hard-earned money than the 25 biggest dreams you have in life.

Trust me, there is ALWAYS going to be something that seems in the moment to be a "better" use of funds than taking that trip to Australia.

Furthermore, stare "fear of failure" in the face and boldly stop letting yourself down.

Take that "list of 25" and RUN WITH IT.

Even if you find it contains some typical "resolution" - type tasks to accomplish, that is fine also.

If you need to quit smoking, lose weight AND make more money this year...why stick to one?

Whatever a "resolution to resolve" means to you, by all means consider making that promise to yourself and keeping YOUR WORD!

But just the same, If YOU feel stuck and want some HELP to acquire your GOALS!.

Then please do Contact me.

Ange Fonce

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