Men are often living in constant frustration... a lot of it is psychological... some of it is sexual. 

First off... we as men are being made to think that being with a woman... or sleeping with a woman is a privilege... it is a gift from them to us... and we need to work hard to be worthy of of this... privilege... otherwise it is hand lotion... and Internet porn sites for you.

I personally find this state of mind to be incomprehensible... that is a big word for that beginning with “B”... yet I will keep it clean and say..."what a load of old beliefs."

It still stuns me that so many men honestly think that they need to push... beg... and trick women into giving them WHAT WOMEN WANT already... a Man to be a MAN... and the biggest source of frustration for the man who wants to learn the path of the Masculine Man is ... not wanting to BE a "player."

This comes from many places really... it has its roots with women who talk down the... "player"... as a heart breaker... a jerk... a man-about-town with no scruples... yet consider this reality... an everyday average man... or woman can be a REAL heart breaker!

Then there is the stereotype of the player like Quagmire on... "The Family Guy." 

Giggidy, giggidy, gig-gi-dy! 

He is a one-dimensional stereotype... then there is the... “wild man womaniser”...  in all the movies that needs to be taught a lesson by a wilful woman who eventually... "tames him"... and he declares his undying love... there are so many of those dumb-ass movies out there today... and who is... “stereo typing”... who here?

The... "player"... does not exist at least... not in the way you are probably imagining him. .. because in so many ways this is a female fantasy created by the media... along with the same trashy plot lines of half the romance novels out there.

Girl meets guy.

Guy is a wild bad boy.... The Player.

Girl has torrid romance with guy.

Girl breaks up with guy.

Guy discovers the error of his.. "player"...ways... and wants girl back.

Girl tames guy.

Ange throws up.

Look... men that sleep around with a lot of women... and recklessly hurt them are FEW... and far in between... and please note... this is something I do NOT condone... or encourage as a... “Courting Coach".. in fact... this cardboard stereotype of the... "player"... is just an urban myth... the reality is there are far more... “clueless”... men out there who do not know... “how”... to RELATE to women... let alone ever be a... “player.”

Remember in... "The Matrix",,,when Neo was jolted out of his own reality by the boy who bends the spoons in front of him... that does he tell him? 

"There is no spoon."

You have a new way of thinking...

"There is no Player."

The sad truth of the matter is that...

1) Women LOVE the company of men who can actually give them pleasure from sexual tension... which is not the same guy that is the "nice guy" who bends over backwards to provide for them.

2) Women can sniff out the player in a minute... and if they really WANTED to avoid him... they would. 

Nobody held a gun to her head to make her sleep with him... she desired it more than he did... in most cases.... so back to the frustration... and fear that men have for the player myth... most of your frustration is in feeling powerless... powerless in meaning... "lacking power"... or feeling you... "have no power."

I remember reading a quote...

"Why do women always have the upper hand? I never have the upper hand, I have NO Hand!"

Men who do not understand the mating game of male-female interactions often fall into a pit of self-doubt that leaves them on the frustrated end of things... so frustrated in fact... that his decision making ability is radically impaired... And that has a knock on... "effect"... for ALL his activities in life!

He starts to think that if he pays for drinks.. and dinners that she will find him..."romantic"... no... as a matter of being a man... you cover the first meet up as good manners... that is a given... after that,,, you are... “measuring”... her... to see how she responds.

He starts to think that if he compliments her... or tries to impress her... that she will be attracted... and decide he is a logically good choice for a boyfriend... no... give compliments when they are authentic... and genuine... that she has... IMPRESSED... you... she will know then it is REAL compliment... and your are not giving her fake bullshit.

He starts to think that if he becomes the OPPOSITE of the... "player"...  that will make her want him... question... what player?

What are you trying to be the opposite off here?

Tell me something... what is romantic about a man who does nothing but kiss arse all the time?

ANSWER...  Nothing.

And that is what you are doing when you pander to a  woman... you are giving her everything she DOES NOT want... you are just another... "sausage"... like every other sausage that walks up to her saying... "do you want a piece of my sausage?"

Are you starting to see where I am going with this... women WANT MASCULINE MEN with that edge of a... "player"... not the ..."jerk bad boy”... or the kiss arse... "nice guy"... you can be... "nice"... without being a creep.

A Woman wants a man that excites... and turns her on.... that knows how to talk to them in challenging... and exciting ways... "Connects"... with her in her FEMININITY! 

The Man who is a... "Dichotomy"... to them... is a mystery they want to seek... and find out about... women are naturally "CURIOUS!"

When I say... "want"... and this is the most confusing portion of the mating game is that most women say they want one thing... and really want another... and this confuses a lot of men... let me help you with this dilemma:.. never always give a woman what she SAYS she wants... only give her what gets both of you the RESULTS you both need.

WIN WIN!

That means... "Leadership"... a Masculine Trait...  leading... and serving your woman... it doe's not mean being a selfish... self-centred... bullying arsehole... or being a spineless passive/aggressive nice guy either.

In any social situation there are those who win because they have a strong enough trust in themselves... and those that lose because they bought into the beliefs... and frame of another. 

READ THAT AGAIN...

"In any social situation there are those who win because they have a strong enough trust in themselves... and those that lose because they bought into the beliefs... and frame of another."

When you give a woman what she wants... she realizes that you are buying into her viewpoint... and reality... when you give a woman the gift of participating in YOUR strong reality... you will get results... you... "Invite"... her into YOUR WORLD!

So when a woman asks you if you are a player... she is not asking that at all... she is asking you a question that is designed to smoke out the fakes who are acting all macho... and really have no Masculine core at all... and she smells it by your answer.

"Are you a player?" - "No, why do you say that?" 

BZZZZZZZZT!!!!... wrong answer.

"Are you a player?" - "Yeah, I'm a bad mutha... let's go to my place ..." 

BZZZZZZZZT!!!!... wrong answer.

Some of you might think that after what I have just said that she wants a player means that you should tell her you ARE a player... WRONG again... it is not really that confusing to figure out what the real answer is... think of it this way... what is the most frustrating thing a woman does to you when you ask HER a question?

ANSWER... When she ignores you... or refuses to give you a straight answer. 

Read that again... and remember back to a time when this happened to you.... you might have asked her something about her job... or some other dull... and uninvolved question... do you remember that hollow sensation when you feel like you are being pushed aside... and lowered in social status... that you can be IGNORED?

There is nothing more powerful than a carefully placed... "void of attention"... or knowing when... and how to IGNORE with Masculine Power... not to taunt her... or upset her... when she asks you if you are a player... you ignore her … and keep on BEING THE MAN YOU ARE!

And if you want a... "tip"... and you want to reply to this question... this is what I do...  I do not rush...  I look her firmly in the eye....Smile... and just say this...

"I am a Man, I have no need to be anything other than Myself!" 

Then say nothing else... just smile at her... and gaze into her eyes... and wait in silence... I guarantee you... she will speak first... women are NATURAL CURIOUS!

Then I can take the conversation in any direction I want too.

You ever see an actor in a bad movie... and think... 

“Man.. this guy SUCKS!”

Now... can you imagine what an actor like Denzel Washington... or  Robert DeNiro would do with those exact same words?

These men come from the power of their frame... and skill with creating their own reality... that is what a great actor does on the screen... he just embodies the essence of that character so completely... you are totally drawn to them... anyone that does anything REALLY well is just coming from a powerful Mind Set... and Confidence system.

So let me help you continue this path of learning... I work with you to help you understand the frame... The Mindset of the Modern Masculine Man... his CONFIDENT Mind Set... his Social... Seductive... and Relationship Skills from His Masculine Energy... I will help bring out the REAL you that is attractive to women... and helps YOU build a Great Life for Yourself.. 

Now Contact me.

Welcome to a new way of thinking... and break away from the old limiting conditioning!

Do not wait for opportunity... MAKE IT.

As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you.

Average men and women know only the rules.

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are truly Passionate and DYNAMIC Lovers!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

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