In this article.. I would like to talk to you about the most important skill you can possibly develop with women... can you guess what it is?

No... it is NOT banter... it is not storytelling or "conversations threads" as I call them... not Kino... not being skilled at approaches... and certainly not sneaky techniques for dates... phone numbers... or sex... it is difficult for me to admit... it is not even the ability to develop truly DEEP rapport with a women.

I have listed some skills here... and you could probably think of several more... and which is the MOST important?

Stick with me... I am going somewhere with this... what do you think it is?

Go ahead... come up with an answer... do not worry... there is no wrong answer... and this is not really a trick question... got it yet?

Okay great... whatever you came up with... you are right... you are right because you imagined a common situation... and then thought of the skill that would be most useful in that situation... and it was personal to YOU.

If you imagined being in the supermarket and seeing lot's of women that you never talk to... then approaching them... in the daytime would be the most important thing... if you imagined being out with a woman... without a real feeling of connection... then deep rapport would be the right answer... if you imagined having a friendly relationship with a woman you just met... then creating "attraction"... with physical awakening... through playful touching would make a lot of sense.

You get the idea... any of the skills I listed above are effective in certain situations... and not as much in others... in fact... that is true for ALL skills you could develop with women... except for ONE in particular that I will mention in a moment... bantering with a woman... who is already attracted to you... yet feels a lack of trust will get you nowhere... actually it will take you BACKWARDS... the more you banter the harder it will be to develop deep rapport later.

Escalating physical touch with a woman who is already feeling uncomfortable... will NOT give you great results you want either... ESPECIALLY if she just needs you to respect her space for a bit before she can open up to you... as is often the case with some women... it is pretty frustrating if you think about it... the truth is that ALL the skills you develop... can TURN AGAINST you if you use them in the wrong way... or especially when you use them at the wrong time... this was pretty frustrating to me when I first became aware of it.

If there was a way to make all the skills you have work exactly the way they are supposed to... and to NEVER work against you... THAT would be the BEST thing to learn... and I like learning to be as simple as possible... could it be that the most important skill you could possible develop with women is the skill of observation?

The skill to just "read" what going on inside them... so that you can be sure what you had planned to do next is congruent with what she is feeling?

The skill to know WHEN you should touch her to create a physical connection... or when to add a little bit of banter to lighten the mood... the truth is that knowing... "what to do now"... is WAY more important then knowing how to "do it well"... it makes sense if you think about it... after all... the right thing to do is almost always the thing she WANTS you to do deep down inside... whether she is consciously aware of it or not.

If you can be just be aware of what that is... it often does not matter whether you are doing it perfectly... or even whether you are doing it well... if she WANTS you to do it... she will cut you a little slack... if you are not quite as smooth as you would like to be... on the other hand... you can be the best person at banter in the WORLD... and it still only going to work against you... if the woman really just wants connection... so how do you develop this elusive skill?

Simple - You Focus On It.

By focus... I mean you need put 100% of your attention on reading women... that means you are not talking to them or any one else... or doing ANYTHING other then pay attention to every little sign that a woman is giving off... you see... I have spent a lot of time watching... studying interactions... between men and women... and practising the art of observation is so important... I also spend A LOT of time pointing out different types of reactions to men... so they can recognize them later... and the good news is... you DO NOT need to buy a product or take a workshop to practice... you go out to any public place and just watch men and women interact,... and make a commitment to do nothing and watch for a while. 

If you have a friend... tell them what you are doing... and only let them come if they are interested in doing the same thing... women are especially GREAT to bring along for this kind of exercise... getting some guidelines on reading body language is great as well... and ask your self questions about how the woman is feeling.

Does she like him?

Is she uncomfortable?

Are they a couple... or friends... or are they just meeting for the first time... if you do this a few times a week.. you will be AMAZED at how much you were missing... keep it up and pretty soon you will find yourself in a conversation... bantering away... touching a woman at every opportunity... and something AMAZING will happen... you might notice that even though she is smiling... she is not totally comfortable... and is drawing away from you... except this time you will notice it before it is too late.

All you need to do know is say...

"I'm sorry, am I making you uncomfortable?"

That is it... she will immediately relax... and start to open up... because YOU have developed what truly is the most important skill you can have with women... OBSERVATION... and she will reward you for it.

Now go watch the interactions between men and women... relax... observe... learn... and enjoy.

As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. 

Average men and women know only the rules. 

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are truly Passionate and DYNAMIC Lovers!

Yours Sincerely



Ange Fonce


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