The BAD BOY And What Attracts Women To Such A Man

I have taken a particular twist in writing this article for "Social Courting" for men after reading through another article posted by a female dating coach. 

It is about "bad boys." 

I picked this paragraph out of her article and then I give my taken on this subject of bad boys.

"Attention all intelligent men, there is a crisis at hand - beautiful eligible women are being swept away by beasts masquerading as real men." 

Now why are women often attracted to bad boys?

First reason, because they are aggressively pursued by them.

What women want is to be wooed and wowed by masculine men. 

Unfortunately, many women who fall prey to  these bad boys - often end up emotionally and sometimes even physically abused by such men.

These so-called bad boys are winning women over simply because they are assertive, confident, cocky, and competitive. 

In itself these are not bad traits as they are masculine qualities.

And then you mix in the other un-masculine traits of a bad boy...

  • Macho
  • Narcissistic
  • Selfish
  • Dishonest
  • Arrogant
  • Abusive
  • Irresponsible
  • Lack of respect
Not exactly mature Masculine traits are they?

They are the traits of the in-mature boy/man.

The bad boy image is not something that any man who values his masculinity and has self respect should ever strive to achieve. 

Once you are labelled as a bad boy, it is a hard persona to shake.

Basically, everyone is walking around like an advertisement for who he or she is. 

First impressions are vitally important. 

If all someone sees is cocky, arrogance and abuse from you as a man - than boom that is your brand.

And you will be stuck with that label, a label that will be very hard to shake off and lose.

I remember a woman I met at a cocktail party who leaned into me, eyed me coyly, and uttered in a somewhat slurred and raspy voice...

"Why is it I always fall for the bad boys." 

She then proceeded to tell me about an arrogant garish man she met at a café in London...

"I was sitting alone enjoying my tea, when James and I met. He looked at me and I melted, he then said... What are you looking at you stuck-up American Bitch." 

That was it she said, in an even more slurred and vacant tone... 

"I was in love." 

For added effect, she feigned fainting.

I found this fascinating, here she was on the surface, a smart, attractive, classy and intelligent women letting her self get into this kind of situation.
If I was a woman and a guy said that to me I would perhaps be speechless, I would certainly not be attracted to him and rather disgusted. 

I have never felt any from of attraction with an overtly bad girl as a man.

Naughty and playful in a woman is cool.

Bad girl?

No thanks, I just do not want all the hassle and trouble that will come with her.

Any way, back to the cocktail party and my drunk American lady...

Her story rapidly deteriorated. 

They ended up being together for 6 months, he treated her horrible and it she finally ended it when he beat her up awful. 

So yes, some women will fall for and stay with bad boys. 

Obviously, these women lack sound judgement about men and have major self-esteem issues.

Which after listening to this particular woman for a while I soon quickly figured out for myself.

Classy on the surface yes...

Self esteem was in the gutter. 

I do not think this is anyone's ultimate goal in a relationship, even if you are only looking for a one night stand. 

I know from my own personal and professional experience that most women do not want to be crudely manipulated and abused by men. 

That is not to say that all manipulation is bad with a woman - it just needs to be subtle and caressing like a masseur- not beaten her into submission like a piece of meat.

Men are so much more alluring when they have a combination of confidence intertwined with that naughty/ funny thing and frosted with a sort of sexy vulnerability. 

The vast majority of women do not want to be with men who are known players. 

Being with a man who is a bad boy/player may give a woman a short term boast of status, until the novelty wears thin and she understands the narcissistic nature of such men and that she means little to him.

The vast majority of healthy women, like well-rounded men that have a bit of a twisted sense of humor, are inherently kind, interesting and versed on political, psychological,spiritual matters and have a mission - purpose in life.

Oh yea, and a bit naughty...

You see, it is all about the fine art of "balance."

Yes, balance is definitely where a lot of men go wrong.

Unfortunately, the imbalance is rarely to the arrogant end of the spectrum. 

It is way over on the wussy end. 

A lot of men mistakenly think that if they can prove themselves as being "nice" to women, that they will just flock to his door. 

And I, along with other smart and aware masculine men know that is not so...

The bad boy often is very attractive to two kinds of women...

The woman with low self-esteem.

Such a woman does not think or feel that she deserves better, so she will take this guy because he takes her like no other man will.
The woman who is a emotional junkie. 

Such a woman needs a heavy dose of emotional turbulence to feel attracted to a man.

She is a thrill-junkie.

She wants the roller coaster ride that he can provide.

A lot of women are, by nature, addicted to emotional intensity. 

It is something that I would call a disorder, actually, when it gets to be unhealthy and destructive to a woman.

Unfortunately there is a lot of women who are this way.

Think about it... 

Women love to shop. 

They call it "retail therapy." 

What is it really?

It is an excuse to give themselves a "happy injection" by picking up a nice new something from the store. 

And then, after the buzz of getting something new has worn off, they find another reason to be unhappy about something else. 

Th cycle starts again, from happy ... to emotional disquiet ... and back again.

If most women were not like this then the economy of the world would collapse!

I know a guy who would joke with women by dangling his bracelet in front their eyes like a hypnotist and say... 

"Loooook... shiny! Pretty thing! Follow the shiny object! Good girl." 

The whole time he is holding it in front of their faces, most of the girls would just laugh because they realize that he is being funny, and the fact is, he is also right. 

Women LIKE flashy visual images. 

Pictures on glossy magazines... flashy commercials... shiny jewellery.

And who says women are not visual? 

It is just for different reasons than men.

Bad boys are like this, too. 

They give women a spike to the vein, a quick injection of excitement and turmoil that will feed their emotional engine for weeks. 

Thankfully, many women mature and outgrow this need, although a lot of girl/women never will.

And there is nothing wrong with being fun and naughty with women.

Naughty MUST be in the mix if you want to spark her excitement and attraction. 

There are a lot of ingredients to the recipe of attraction, and you do not want to miss any of them.

There are a lot of ways to trigger her feelings of attraction, and I have dedicated over 25 years of my entire life learning and understand human nature and attraction between men and women.

That is how serious I am about this stuff.

I also wanted to apologize if I confused you. 

I think I may have, by accident.

I was just thinking about it as I am writing theses lines, when I got to this part of the article and I realized that you might not be aware of everything I have got that can help you out. 

I know that in being a regular reader of Intimate Communion Magazine you must be dedicated to making a better life for yourself.

Because what I do is more than just being Good with Women (and other men!) 

It is also about being a GREAT MAN...


And I have done the work for you to get the information to help you get that better life. 

Not just with women, either. 

More SUCCESS in every way possible. 

  • Better relationships. 
  • Better career. 
  • Better income. 
  • Better Lifestyle.
So you want to know more about being the Masculine Man you want to be.

Then Contact me.

As always leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. 

Average men and women know only the rules. 

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

For Love, Passion and Intimacy...

Ange Fonce


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