The 3 Communication Mistakes Women Make With Men  


By Ange Fonce


Do you ever find that your boyfriend or husband does not listen?

Oh... and that he does not talk much to you either?

Which leaves you to wonder... if he does not talk or listen... how in the world are you supposed to have a real relationship?

Here is the thing... you can have a man want to share more about how he thinks and feels with you. 

If you know a few simple words that will really get through to him and make a difference.

Men actually do enjoy connecting and sharing... yet only when THEY feel inspired to do so.

If you are tired of the UNCERTAINTY and DOUBT that comes from not knowing how the man in your life really feels and why he is so disconnected and you would like to create a deeper level of CONNECTION and UNDERSTANDING... then it is time you knew the SECRETS of how to be the one woman a man will love opening himself up to and listen with an open heart.

Okay so lets get on with this article.

There are 3 critical elements that you MUST HAVE between you and a man if you want a loving... lasting and secure relationship.

Ready?

Here we go...




Element 1... An Intense Level Of Attraction


Call it "chemistry."

Call it a spark.

Call it whatever you like and if a man does not "feel it" for you when it comes to this chemistry and attraction... then NOTHING ELSE you say or do will matter and I mean NOTHING ELSE matters.

You can try and say all the right things.

You can think about him all the time.

And you can do amazing things for him that no other woman could ever know to do for him in his life... yet if that gut level ATTRACTION is not there that tells him deep down inside that he HAS to be with you tonight and every other night... then there is not much you can do to change his mind or make him feel differently and really and truly want you.

A man MUST feel a level of attraction for you that goes DEEPER than the physical attraction... that feeling that comes and goes and can seem so "real."

Unfortunately lots of women make 2 mistakes when it comes to attraction with men that keep them from ever being able to get past those critical early courting stages where a man will become more emotionally attached and involved with a woman.





These 2 Mistakes Are 


Trying to get a mans interest and attention by using the fast... fun and easy approach to create physical attraction inside a man... which never does last.

Not knowing how that deeper level of what I call "Emotional Attraction" works inside a mans mind that will make him want to emotionally open up and engage with you... these mistakes are the two most common and certain ways to make sure your love life will go nowhere fast with men... even when you have the best of intentions and just want to find a great man to love and love you back.

There is a simple truth you need to know...

If you do not know how attraction works for a man and how it works differently than how it works for most women... then you are going to end up running in circles trying to do what you think will work and in your attempts at getting a man to like you and want to be with you... you are going to end up pushing him away since he will see you as desperate... needy... clingy... controlling... manipulating or just plain overly emotional.

The worst part is... there are a lot of really great smart women who actually know on a conscious level about these mistakes... yet they just cannot help and make these same mistakes over and over anyway... yet some women seem to have a more natural knack for talking to men... getting their interest and having men see them as "cool" and desirable... they have a way of being able to AVOID these mistakes and are NEVER seen as desperate... too needy or generally UNATTRACTIVE when it comes to how they act and feel on an emotional level around men.

The good news is that you can become a natural at creating that deeper and more LASTING ATTRACTION with a man and here is how...




Element 2... Emotional Engagement


I probably do not have to tell you that most men are not experts at seeking out and understanding your feelings... instead most men start to actually TUNE OUT the woman they are with when they start to sense or see a lot of emotions they do not understand... our natural response is to withdraw from intense emotions that can lead to conflict with a woman.

Now let me ask you...

Do you know what it is that makes a man open up and be excited to really LISTEN to you and UNDERSTAND what you are feeling and going through... instead of shutting down when he sees how you are feeling inside?

And do you know what makes a man see your desire to talk and share your feelings as evidence that you are emotionally unhealthy and the kind of woman who would only be more trouble and irritation than she is worth?

Here is something that might blow your mind...

Did you know that you can say the exact SAME THING to a man at different times and you will get completely different responses from him?

And this is not just because of his mood... the reality is that there is one significant thing that makes all the difference in the world when it comes to how a man sees... feels and RESPONDS to the way you talk and share with him and that is the level at which he is EMOTIONALLY ENGAGED with you when you are talking.

Let me explain...

One of the most common ways that women end up accidentally causing a man to close off and WITHDRAW from them is when a man does not know about... see or understand what a women is going through and feeling and then the woman gets MORE UPSET and frustrated with him at the fact that he does not seem to see or respond to her and so SHE closes off.

I know this is something you have experienced over and over with men and made some of the same mistakes again and again in each situation... something happens between you and a man and you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach you just cannot ignore and you know that something is "off" and not right and it sends your intuition and your imagination running... as the flood of emotions hit you, and you FEEL what is going on throughout your body... you want the man to both see and understand why you would feel this way...

And you want him to UNDERSTAND you and the way that you are feeling and of course this is not at all what most men are going through in their emotional process.

He is often thinking... 

"I have NO IDEA why she is acting this way or what it is about and I do not like it and it feels awful... what is her problem and why is she freaking out so much... what a nightmare I want this to go away."

Long story short... what started off as a misunderstanding and a situation where you simply did not feel good about something in the moment and you wanted him to see it and respond, turned out to be something that caused a huge DISCONNECT between you two.

And your emotional experiences led both you AND him to feel distant and frustrated with each other in a way that kept you from being able to be close and feel ENGAGED in your feelings together.

Of course on the other hand if you know how to COMMUNICATE with a man and you know how to get him to LISTEN and RESPOND to you in a positive way that shows that he hears and APPRECIATES your feelings... then these entire situations actually become moments where you and a man GROW CLOSER and learn more amazing things about each other that build your love and attraction.

It is really in your hands to do this so if you want to know a lot more about the process of "Emotionally Engaging" with him... then Contact Me and I will Coach you to help you learn these deep methods of "Attraction" to connect with a Man!




Element 3... Effortless Communication


How hard is it to talk to your boyfriend or husband?

Is it harder than you know it should be?

At the core of a healthy relationship is the TRUST and knowledge by both partners that the other is going to listen with patience... appreciation and respect and that there is enough TRUST so that its okay to share the truth of whats really happening in each others lives.

If you do not have open communication... then by definition you do not have HONESTY and if you do not have honesty you do not have a relationship that you can count on as secure... trusting and connected.

Here is something that you might be going through if you are not experiencing the level of open honesty you know your relationship needs...

Do you ever sit there and realize that you and your man share less with each other than you probably share with your friends about how you are both thinking and feeling inside?

Are you ever scared to say what you REALLY think and feel to the man in your life?

And have you ever found out about things that are going on for the man that you are with and what is going on in your relationship from someone else who hardly knows him?

Is not a man supposed to be closer... more open and more honest with you than anyone else about what is going on for him in your relationship with you?

The answer is... YES he is.

You are supposed to be able to be closer and more open and honest with the man in your life than with anyone else and for lots of women it just does not work this way... often times you as the girlfriend or wife are the VERY LAST person to find out what is REALLY going on inside the mind of the man you are with and it is enough to make you want to scream... not to mention the embarrassment that you feel realizing that everyone else might have known what was going on with him... yet you and they just sat there and watched and said nothing... it can make you feel like a real fool.

And you do not have to feel this way... because you and only you have the power and the responsibility to create your relationship and make it what you want.

Especially if you are the one who is more "tuned in" to what might be a communication problem in your relationship.

Want to know something fascinating that makes life and relationships a whole lot easier?

Good communication attracts and inspires good communication in return.

Or to say it another way...

If you are not having the kind of open and honest connection with your man that you want and need... then you have to start to realize that the only measure of how well YOU are communicating is the RESPONSE that you get... it is tough to accept at first and it feels unfair when your boyfriend or husband is not doing his part and once you take RESPONSIBILITY for bringing the right words and the right kind of talking and sharing into your relationship... your relationship will instantly shift all on its own... simply because you have brought more of what your relationship needs.

So here is the question...

Can you take 100% responsibility for the way you communicate to the man in your life?

Then here is your opportunity to turn it all around.

There is something I have learned in my life that I have practised myself and that I have helped hundreds of women use to turn their love life around and that is one simple thing.

Taking 100% PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for creating the kind of COMMUNICATION you want and have in your relationship.




How YOU Communication IS The RESPONSE You Get


Read that again... it could not be more important.

How YOU Communication IS the RESPONSE you get.

In other words... the thing that really and truly matters if you care about having the kind of understanding and emotional exchange that you want... is helping the man you are sharing your thoughts and feelings with actually "get" what you are saying... if you can do that and you invest just a little time helping him understand you... then you are literally HUNDREDS of times more likely to get the RESULT you want from sharing your thoughts and feelings in the first place as often times the RESULT you are probably looking for is simply to feel UNDERSTOOD.

So let me ask you...

What do you think would happen if you decided today to take 100% responsibility for the way in which you communicate and share the very thoughts that sneak up on you and make you feel frustrated and upset?

Would he respond in a new and different way?

I think you would be surprised to find out how he would respond and I KNOW you will like what you found.

One of the challenges when you are in a great relationship is that there is SO much intense emotional stuff happening inside you that your mind ends up literally SWIMMING with ideas and emotions and because you know exactly how each of the things that is going on looks and feels for you inside your own head... you make the terrible mistake of thinking that with a few simple words in conversation... the person you are experiencing these feelings with will instantly "get it" and understand where you are coming from and that is a BIG mistake!

If you think about it and you are honest... even YOU do not know and understand all the feelings... emotions and thoughts that are going through your head... so what chance is there a man will understand you if you do not communicate clearly is way that he can understand?

Point being... 

This mistake of assuming that a man will have an easy time hearing and understanding you if he would just stop and listen to you is made 10 times worse by the fact that men are not often trying to RELATE to what you are thinking and feeling anyway... instead their mind is somewhere else completely and not focused on relating and understanding at that time... especially if you have not invested the time to ENGAGE HIM on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL to help him get in touch with his and your feelings.

What do men often do instead of relating to you and understanding you?

Right  he will try to SOLVE the "problem" he thinks is is going on that is making you feel things so intensely in the first place or he will be trying to get away from the intense feelings and emotions you are going through in the first place because he does not understand them or he is not in the mental and emotional place to take them in and talk to you about them.

There is a SECRET about how to get a man in the right mental and emotional place where he will naturally want to listen... share and connect with you on a more open emotional level and that is by creating what I call Emotional Engagement with a man... doing this can be as simple as rubbing the back of a mans neck gently with your hands as he sinks into a feeling of connection and affection with you or it can be as difficult as trying to explain to him over and over what is going on in your relationship that is causing problems and having him not want to listen or talk to you any more.

If you want to learn the secret to creating this kind of Emotional Engagement with a man and do it quickly and any time you like simply by shifting a few small things about the way you actually talk and communicate with him... when you work with me I will teach you all those hidden Communication Secrets... those who have been coached by me have already learnt those essential relationship skills of how to Emotionally Engage a man and help him be a more responsive listener and partner to you.

And I know... the man in your life will be happy you did and thank you for it when he feels more free and open and honest to talk to you and share more than he has ever been able to with any other woman.

And he will just love that about you.

And practically speaking that completes this conversation.
 
Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




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