Social Courting Technique To Avoid The Friends Zone 

By Ange Fonce

"Ange, I've been reading your articles for little while now, and I'm really excited about getting this part of my life handled. I have a question that I'd like to ask about first dates.
I asked a girl I know out, and she accepted. The problem is, I don't have any clue where to take her.
Any ideas where I can take her out a date and what I can buy her. I am thinking of getting her flowers and a meal?"

Gary... Bristol UK

This is one of the questions I get quite frequently about ideas for first “meet ups” and I think it is because guys suspect on some level that taking a woman on a traditional "date" is NOT actually the best way to create attraction with a woman these days... times are changing.

I personally do not do this myself when getting to know women or a certain women I am wanting to know about.

Here is why...

By starting off with a "let me buy you something" frame right at the start, you have just created the worst starting point for building a possible relationship with a woman.

What you are communicating is this...

"I'm not really good enough for you, so I will resort to bribery and cheap tricks and get you to think I have got real value to offer you."

Think back to when you were younger and some other kid tried to buy his way into being your friend?

You could smell the desperation, insecurity and it either turned you of or you took the "freebie" and walked away.

It is even worse when a woman senses this from a man and make no mistake she will be happy with the freebies and you will be a "nice" sweet guy and let us be "friends."

So why do guys still do this flowers-and-dinner program, even though it does not work?

First off... it is the option that takes the least amount of effort and thinking on a guy's part. It is the "lazy man's" approach to courting women and occasionally, it DOES work and not in the way that you think.

You see if a woman does not have very many prospects wanting to "date" her or is stuck in her own  "La La Programming" as I call it where she is waiting for her knight in shining denim to come sweep her off her feet or her "twin flame” or "soul mate" she will fall for that stuff.

Women spend a lot of time fantasizing about what their ideal man and relationship will be and she has got a lot of her ideas about dating from those fairy tales and romance novels and high-quality women who are attractive on all levels do not lack for attention and they see this kind of "buy her flowers" behaviour all the time from guys. And it ALWAYS runs out of gas somewhere around the third meet up or so when she is wondering if you have got the balls to be a MAN for her. 

ALL women want more than just a "provider" they want a Man who is exciting.

She can see this program start before you even put the disc in the drive... that is why these "dates" almost always end with a "let's just be friends" from her.

She wants to know...

Will you be able to make her FEEL good?

Will you be able to show her some FUN?

Will you be able to take the lead and CREATE interesting experiences and adventures for the two of you?

And ultimately will you be Man enough to take her and "ravish" her!

Women do not want gifts.

They want exciting EXPERIENCES.

They want to be swept away in an exciting storyline where she is part of something fantastic and cool.
Women experience the world emotionally!

So let us get back to the question...

When it comes to courting I say that you should not go on "dates."

The very word brings to mind a bunch of pre-programmed behaviour what I call the "interview" that usually ends with you dropping a woman off and hoping you will get lucky and you may score a second date or that most painful dreaded experience for most men... "lets be friends."

Do not play this game it is expensive soul destroying and ultimately kills your confidence and leaves you feeling bad about women and yourself in general.

Masculine Men never play to get lucky. It is not about probability it is about ACTION and RESULTS.

And if you have the right system  right mindset it is all predictable.

Here is what you do when you go out with a woman...

Think FUN...

What could you two do that would leave her so thrilled that she would tell all her friends the next day about this "incredible man" she has just met?

Reverse-engineer the excitement.

Think of the result you want to achieve and work backwards to figure it out.

Here is one of the things I like doing...

I invite her along on a shopping "adventure."

This idea is cool because... well hey it is shopping I am not likely to buy anything from the stores and most women enjoy shopping and it is fun because it is an adventure we do not know where we will end up.

I could also take her on an exploration of some excellent hiking trail or we will do a scavenger hunt, looking to find things to make a weird modern sculpture.

The meet up should cost just about nothing and it more than makes up for any lack of gift-giving in electric CHEMISTRY that you create from the sheer fun of the event.

You are not just taking her out to ask her where she works, what she does, where she is from etc, etc.

You are taking her out of her boring life and showing her a fun time that she will not soon forget and that is all that any woman wants.

Doubt it... ASK her?

Then you can do the dinner thing later on some other time once you have figured out whether this girl is someone appropriate to allow into your life.

Remember  a "meet up" is not an event where you are "proving yourself" to the woman, that is the old program, that is SO 20th century.

This is your ADVENTURE where you get to see if this girl is cool enough to add to your lifestyle and deserves to experience what you have to offer.

You need to start thinking... 

"Does she qualify?"

Instead of “How can I GET her"

This difference in thinking is what separates the average guy from the Masculine Man, it is the next step to incredible success with women.

I have explained often in other articles I have written the inner game mindset of the man who is confident and has women in his life all the time.

You know this man... chances are you would like to be this Man.

Being the kind of man that attracts women and keeps them is not hard at all, it just involves learning a few new skills.

How do I know that?

Because when I was learning how to do this I went through all the books and CD's and videos, some of it was okay and most of it was junk and then I got into the Science of Men - Women and Attraction that takes you another level.

There are really only two ways to learn something... trial, error or finding a teacher, a mentor.

Trial and error takes years and years and usually the results take even longer to get, if you ever do.

Finding a teacher is the fast-track, the easiest method because you will get the exact information you need to win this game the FIRST time.

All SUCCESSFUL Men have have a Mentor....Teacher who is a SUCCESSFUL Man himself.

Success breeds Success!

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

Ange is an Dynamic Personal Development Coach who works with those men and women who want to personally develop their confidence, relationships, health and wealth!

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