Sexing Intimacy and The Art of Touching Skin on Skin 

By Ange Fonce

There is almost nothing in life that can give you the same kind of just pure pleasure as putting your hands on a womans skin and having her touch and caress yours.

Everything about great sexing involves touching and really mastering the subtleties of touching is one of the best ways to really explode the ideas of just how amazing sexing can be.

The thing that I really love about the idea of touching a woman is that the pleasure travels in both directions she gets the pleasure of feeling your hands on her skin and you get the pleasure of feeling her skin with your hands and when you are both really in tune with that exchange of pleasure it can be absolutely awesome.

So I want to share some simple techniques for touching a woman that will give her the chills and make her flush with excitement and drive her wild with hot wet desire.

There are a few important keys to touching that can let her know INSTANTLY that you know exactly what you are doing and get her powerfully aroused.

The first thing you MUST know if you do not already is that WOMEN LOVE TO BE TOUCHED.

Touch is very important to all humans and for women being touched gives her strong feelings of approval and it is a powerful reward to a woman when you touch her and it can instantly make her feel great.

And if you have ever struggled with changing her bad mood or tried to communicate that you want to get back on track after a fight with your woman and found that words just kept being misunderstood and making things worse...

Try touching instead.  

You will be amazed at how much you can communicate to your lover through your hands when words just keep screwing things up.

When your pride is in the way of your mouth saying the right things your hands will cut through that crap and tell her that regardless of the logical disagreement you still care about her.

For the majority of women touch is always a pleasure and a treat and I probably do not need to mention this and just in case I will put in the disclaimer that the touch we are talking about is appropriate to the relationship and by appropriate I mean a female friend might love it if you rub her shoulders and might be uncomfortable with something more romantic like caressing her hair and cheek.

I am going to talk about touching in a romantic context whether it be on a first meet up or with your partner of 20 years.

Touch Her More

However much you are already touching your lover... you can do it more often.

I cannot emphasize enough how much more of an emotional connection and bond can be formed by this incredibly simple action.  

Women link many feelings of sexuality... love and trust with the sensations that are aroused in them when a man puts his hands on her it can make her feel both sexually excited and safe at the same time hormonally it makes her body release certain chemicals into her blood that make her feel more attraction and more comfort with the man that she is with.

If your relationship is going through a rocky period and you were considering couples counselling TRY THIS FIRST.  

Try it out I know that it is as effective as it is simple.

How is that for the simplest tip ever?

Try Touching Her Like This

There are particular types of touching that women find more romantic... more sensual and more arousing than others.

The problem is since all women are different you are going to have to do some experimenting to find out which ones she responds to most.

The key is to really tune in to her and notice how she is responding and that tuning in or Paying Attention that I always talk about is actually the really important part of this tip and it will guide you to touch her in the way she likes and also will cause both of you to become present together in the moment.

Most men suffer from a huge lack of creativity in touching... they always do it the same way and probably the way that worked on their first girlfriend or the way they think they are SUPPOSED to do it based on something they once heard and getting out of that box will open a huge new world of sexing opportunity for you.

Try these...

Use the very tips of your fingers and run them very very lightly so that it is almost a tickle anywhere or everywhere on her skin...  try it out inside her wrists and up to her elbow pits for instant chills.

Stroke her gently and not tentatively with the entire face of your hand... try running it up her back... her neck... her legs... arms or the side of her face and just hold her firmly like a firm manly handshake as this can be such a powerful feeling for a woman.  

Just place your hand on her shoulder... the back of her neck... her thigh... arm or hand and just hold her and let her feel your masculine strength just do not obviously squeeze hard enough to hurt her and if you do this right she should feel the tenderness and protectiveness behind your touch.

Cup her with your hand and stroke gently with your thumb this combines the first idea of gentle finger tips with the last one of holding her firmly... I particularly like to hold the back of her neck and then ever so gently stroke her cheek with my thumb while looking into her eyes.

Also try holding the back of her head and stroking her temple or hold her arm and stroke her shoulder or her thigh and stroke her knee and add eye contact to all of these and she will melt make use of your fingernails super gently or scratching and experiment with gentle pinching and pulling...try this on everything from her shoulder blades to her labia and clitoris.

And pet her hair I have never met a woman who does not enjoy having her hair stroked... for women with straight hair you can let your fingers run through it and if she has curly hair just stroke so that you do not get stuck fingers and start yanking on knots.

To really send her into orbit start at her neck and use your fingernails to pet upwards into her hair along her scalp then gently slide your fingers back out while gently tugging her hair between your fingers.

You can bring women very close to orgasm with that one.

Feel With Your Feelings

This is of HUGE importance in really being able to rock her world in ways that will make her forget any other man she has ever been with.

The basic truth is a woman can FEEL not just the physical sensation of your hand on her skin also she can FEEL the emotional content of  your touch and I know this sounds a little bit out there and again as always I challenge you to TRY it before you dismiss it.

Because this is really an incredibly powerful truth when you touch a woman while thinking sexing thoughts about her and when you focus that intent into your touch she will FEEL it very strongly and her body will respond to it and that sexing energy will flow from you and into her... likewise when you feel tender feelings of attraction and protectiveness for your woman and you stroke her hair it makes her feel loved and safe.

And there is nothing that will provide you both with a more amazing night of mind melting sexing than when the woman in your arms feels loved and safe.

I know that I am leaving a lot out here and especially this last tip is kind of hard to wrap your brain around yet do not hesitate to get started by trying these tips and you will be amazed that even these simple techniques can make a HUGE difference in how women respond to you sexually.

And if you are in a relationship you will be even more amazed at the positive changes that just tiny bit of information can cause you can go to a marriage counsellor or talk to a therapist or read books on communicating better and there is NOTHING in my experience that improves a relationship more or strengthens the bond between a man and a woman than great sexing and intimacy and women notice the powerful increase in confidence that men get when they KNOW what they can do in the bedroom.

And finally here is a really nice technique and try it!

This one is simple and it will give you great results in the bedroom!

If your woman happens to be the type that likes some romance in her sexing relationship then this technique will make her explode with pleasure.

Bust this out as foreplay or after glow enhancement or as a break between bouts of faster paced action or even while pressed deeply inside her and moving very gently and get yourself into a position where you can really see and connect with your partner...

Some good positions for this might be to have her lie down on her back and then straddle her hips sitting on top of her or if you are inside of her have her lay on her back and sit up on your heels with her hips on your legs

Touch As A Blind Man  

Then take a couple of minutes and commit her body to memory with your fingers.

Imagine that the next time you will meet her you will be blind and you want to be certain that you can recognize her body using only your fingers.

So gently trace every line and curve and note the textures and the depths the curves and the folds. 

Really try to SEE her as a blind man would and enjoy the process and soak her up. 

Remember back when you were in puberty and you would have been willing to chew off your own arm for the opportunity to touch every square inch of skin on a naked womans body in your bed?

Well get back into that mental state and no arm chewing required.

And TELL HER what you are doing... say to her... 

"I want to memorize your body with my fingers."

I am not saying EVERY woman on the planet will like those words yet around 92.4% of them will seriously dig it.

You often will hear me say that not everything in sexing is about the big "O" and in fact too much focus on the goal can cause all sorts of problems and being too orgasm focused can make her feel pressured and make it much harder for her to come at all and make you seem needy and come across as trying too hard to be a pleaser and get you stuck in a rut where you keep doing the same thing over and over because it works for her when actually she is just getting bored and takes much of the fun... spontaneity and intimacy out of sexing.

As far as Dynamic Sexing is concerned being able to bring your partner to climax is not the goal or the end result... it is the MINIMUM requirement as it is the beginning and not the end.

So what else can you be doing if you are not just trying to make her come? 

Well how about trying this one! 

If you are with a woman who does find it difficult to reach orgasm because this technique is so obviously NOT focused on getting her there it might be EXACTLY what she needs to relax and get her mind off of it and then surrender into the experience.

As with many things in life sometimes it is exactly when you stop trying so hard that you get exactly what you want.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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