Relationship Questions To Build Connection
Ange Fonce & Dalija Vujec

Why are relationship questions so important?

Because... communication is the key to any successful relationship. From dinner conversation to pillow talk, these questions to ask are perfect for connecting with your significant other in a meaningful way.

Even the most head-over-heels-in-love couples sometimes run out of things to say. Do not worry — that is normal. After all, when you spend so much time together, it is easy for the conversation to run dry.

Use these questions for couples to ignite new discussions so you can keep your relationship fresh and exciting.
First here are some simple rules to follow...

1. Make Every Question Count

When it comes to relationship questions, quality is more important than quantity. The goal of asking these questions is to get meaningful answers that help you improve your relationship. Do not just ask one and move on. Dwell on the answers, and make it a point to hash things out until you are both on the same page.

2. Be Kind And Understanding

There may be times when you do not like the answers you get. If that happens, try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Instead, seek out solutions. If you are both committed to making the relationship work, communication is an absolute must — even when it is tough.

3. The Setting Matters

Some questions should be saved for special places. For example, you may not want to ask your partner how they feel about having kids while they are on their lunch break at work. If you are going to ask a big question, make sure you are in the right environment.

4. Timing Is Everything

Even more important than where you are is when you are. For instance, if you are in the car running late for an appointment, it is probably not the best time to start asking relationship questions. Pay attention to the intricate nuances of your relationship, and ask relationship questions at opportune times, when it feels right. Always make sure there is plenty of time for the resulting conversation to take place uninterrupted.

Relationship Questions

These are some of the best relationship questions because they cut to the chase. These are some of the important questions that you need to ask as the relationship progresses. Some are about the future, some help you get to know each other better, and some are for helping you to improve your relationship.

Some of these questions can be heavy-hitters. Make sure the mood and setting are right and do not ask too many in one sitting. Make sure you pay attention to the answers you get from these relationship questions and be ready to engage in in-depth discussions. When the lines of communication are open, you have the potential to strengthen your relationship.

1. What Are Some Annoying Habits Of Other Couples That Irritate You The Most?

This question is super useful because it indirectly asks what types of behavior they find annoying. So do not do those things.

2. What Kind Of A Parent Do You Think You Would Be?

Even if you have no plans to have kids, this question can tell you a lot about them.

3. If You Are Having A Bad Day, Would You Want Me To Leave You Alone Or Spend Time With You And Cheer You Up?

Next time they are having a bad day, remember their answer.

4. Would You Say That I Understand What You Are Feeling?

If not, ask them how you can improve that dynamic.

5. How Content Are You With The Amount Of Non-Sexual Affection In The Relationship?

It is important to check in with them from time to time to make sure they are happy.

6. The Two Of Us Are Hitting The Great Outdoors. What Would You Prefer To Spend The Day Doing?

Use their answer to plan your next outdoor adventure together.

7. If You Could Ask Me Anything And Have Me Answer Truthfully, What Would It Be?

Be prepared for some open, candid discussion. Do not ask this question unless you are ready to give honest answers.

Relationship Conversation Starter Questions

These conversation starters are perfect for sparking some dialogue. After all, sometimes words are going to escape you — sometimes at inopportune moments. Keep these relationship questions in the back of your mind so you can pull them out as needed. You never know when you might have a long car ride with nothing to say.

Here are 5 of the best relationship conversation starters:

1. How Would You Want To Spend A Special Day With Each Other?

Simple and sweet. This is your cue to plan a date.

2. Do You Think Celebrating Valentine’s Day Is Corny?

Even if he or she says yes, buy them a gift anyway. Better safe than sorry.

3. Do You Remember The First Thing We Said To One Another?

Reminiscing about old times is a great way to rekindle those early feelings from the 'getting to know you' stage of your relationship.

4. What Is The Best “Relationship Advice” Someone Has Ever Given You?

This question helps you to understand how he or she approaches the relationship. Take the advice to heart.

5. Are You Happy With The Amount Of Us-Time And Apart-Time We Have?

Happy couples are not always together 24/7. It is crucial that you strike a balance between not enough time together and too much. Use this question to find the sweet spot that works for both of you.

Get To Know You Relationship Questions

When you are in the early stages of a relationship, you are still getting to know each other on a more intimate level. These get to know you questions provide insight into your significant other’s personal life. They give you information that you probably would not find out unless you asked. Sometimes being direct is the best approach.

Use these questions to ask a potential partner as you get to know them sparingly. You do not want them to feel like they are being interrogated. Keep it light and easy, and work these relationship questions into a conversation when it feels natural.

!. Are You Friends With Any Of Your Exes?

If they are or not, you may want to be wary of moving forward, as there is probably a reason.

2. Would You Lie To Make Me Happy And Where Would You Draw The Line?

Honesty is the foundation of relationships. Is there such thing as a white lie, or are the ugly truths necessary?

3. What Was Your Favourite Part Of The Year?

This question helps you to understand what makes them happy. Create similar memories with them, yet do not be afraid to branch out too.

4. What Is A Relationship Deal-Breaker For You?

Knowing what turns them off makes it easy for you to avoid those things.

5. Are There Any Times You Feel Lonely, Left Out Or Like I Am Not Reachable Emotionally?

Sometimes working on yourself is essential to the longevity of a relationship.

Caring Questions To Ask Your Partner

These questions to ask your partner have two purposes. The obvious one is that they start important conversations about the relationship, helping both of you to improve your relationship dynamic. These questions encourage you to open up to each other. Honesty is the key to making them work.

The other reason why these questions to ask you're significant other is so great is because they show them that you care. Just the act of asking these types of questions prove to them that you are genuinely invested in the relationship and that you want to make it work. Watch their eyes light up when you ask the first one, and you will be hooked.

!. What Was The Best Moment In Our Relationship So Far?

Listen... how could you make it better?

2. What Are The Biggest Differences Between Us?

Do you complement each other or are you, two separate individuals?

3. What Is One Area In Your Life Where You Feel Like Something Is Missing?

Try to find out how you can help them fill that hole.

4. Do You Think I Can Be Both Your Best Friend And Your Lover?

If you want your relationship to last for the long haul, your significant other should also be your best friend.

Would You Rather, Relationship Questions For Couples

The ‘would you rather’ game is a timeless time-passer. These would you rather questions for couples take the classic concept a step further. By giving them two choices, you make the conversation focused and easily digestible.
The next logical followup to these questions is a simple “why?” 

Encourage your significant other to elaborate on their answers. You may be surprised by how many meaningful conversations can arise from a simple ‘would you rather’ question.

1. Would You Rather Stay In Or Go Out For A Date?

Their answer may change depending on their mood, so do not start staying in or going out every night.

2. Would You Rather Me Cook You Breakfast In Bed Or A Candlelit Dinner?

If you ask this question, you had better be ready to come through with that feast.

3. Would You Rather Travel Around The World Or Have A Family?

What are their priorities at this point?

4. Would You Rather Be Proposed To In Private Or In Front Of Family And Friends?

If you ask this question, you had better have a down payment on a ring.

5. Would You Rather Be Known For Your Intelligence Or Your Good Looks?

Let them know that this is a hypothetical question, of course, as they are already known for both. Remember there is an ego involved here.

Deep Relationship Questions To Ask

When you are ready to take your conversation to the next level, use these deep questions to ask. These are big, powerful questions, so proceed with caution. Make sure you are confident in your relationship, as some of these topics can be divisive. 

If you are going to use these deep questions to ask your partner, be prepared for heavy answers. Asking the question is the easy part. The resulting discussion is what takes effort. Be open, honest, and communicative, and you will find that these questions can strengthen the bonds of your relationship in incredible ways.

1. What Would You Define As Cheating?

You must know each other’s boundaries so you never cross them.

2. Would You Compromise Your Happiness For The Success Of The Relationship?

And if so, is the relationship truly successful?

3. Do You Think Past Relationship Secrets Should Always Be Kept Hidden?

When is too much information truly too much?

4. What Is The One Thing About Me You Would Like Me To Change?

Be prepared for harsh truths, yet also be willing to look for solutions.

5. Do You Think A Couple’s Finances Should Be Together Or Separate?

At some point, you are going to need to figure out the money dynamics in your relationship.

6. What Are Your Biggest Fears About Relationships?

Facing your fears head-on is the best way to conquer them.

7. What Lessons Have You Learned From Past Relationships?

Prior romantic experiences can provide valuable insight into current ones, yet do not dwell too much on the past.
Read through these questions to ask, and pick a few that speak to you and your relationship. Store them in your brain files so you can pull them out when the time is right. 

Pro tip: In a pinch, you can always duck to the bathroom and pull them up on your phone.

Now that you have plenty of questions for couples on deck, the next step is asking them. Bringing up relationship questions can be scary, yet it is worth it. Be bold and ready to communicate, and you will find that every conversation gets easier.

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Coach Ange
Qualified in Person-Centered Counselling, Personal Development, Accountability, Assessment, Strategy Coaching, and Psyco Sex Therapy and training in Advance Relationship Coaching.

Coach Dalija
Qualified in Accountability, Assessment, Strategy Coaching, and training in Advanced Relationship Coaching and completing her ICF accreditation.

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