Opening Your Mind To Sexuality And Intimacy 

BY Ange Fonce

The subject of sexuality is extremely exciting and somewhat intimidating to many people.

After all, what is in a word?

Let me now add two simple letters to that word.

Do you know what those two simple letters are?

How about I add a "B" and an "I."

We now have the word "bisexuality."

There is a kind of stigma connected to the word "bisexuality" in our societies and religions.

Let us clear up this common confusion. Imagine what most people's reaction would be if you were to say... 

"I am bisexual."

Try it few times just for fun.

Their reaction will be similar to the phrase... 

"I am gay." 

And their response will probably be a weird one. However ridiculous their reaction may seem to you... well, it is what it is.

Let us discover how things really are.

First, we put aside all those hypocrites who are shocked by someone even mentioning bisexuality in their presence.

This magazine "Intimate Communion"  is not for them.

If you come here and keep reading means that you are interested in your personal development and you realize that most interesting things lay exactly right behind the illusory fence of concepts that society puts up for masses. Particularly when we are talking about sexuality, sexing, courting, and relationships. And, because of the society-induced fear of the word "bisexuality" - even those who may benefit from discovering the truth might be scared away.

So let us first make clear what bisexuality means.

Ask any woman you know a question...

"Are you bisexual?" 

She will answer "NO" right away. 

Unless she is highly self-aware, open-minded and free-willed women who is comfortable with her own sexuality. The type of women I particularly like and admire. My Type of Woman.

Now change wording and simply ask another woman...

"Are you attracted to women in any way?"


"When was the last time you kissed a woman?"  

Do not even bother asking if she ever kissed a woman because SHE MOST PROBABLY HAS.

Anyway, the answer to your question will be "YES."

So there is definitely some degree of miscommunication present. It is useful to understand "bisexuality."

Let us leave aside labels for a few moments and look at what is totally "everyday" things for women to do with each other:

To be playful and gentle

To touch each other a lot

To hold hands

To kiss (all degrees of passion depending on the situation.)

To stroke each other's hair

Many young women love to imitate lesbian couple by kissing and dancing passionately with each other in bars or clubs.

They do it mainly to get attention and validation from men and that is a different story.

To put it short: in daily life when opportunity arises, women will do things that look definitely bisexual for most men. For women it is just the way they behave with each other.

Men on the other hand are quite distant from each other physically. Handshake and some rough hugs is the most you ever see them doing even when they are drunk.

So let us come back to the word "bisexuality" and use it just for the sake of clarity.

Let us use the acceptable scientific definitions so we can see what statistics tell us. 

Scientists call the behaviour when a man or a woman is admiring the body and the beauty of their own gender BI-CURIOSITY.

Attraction May Be Of Various Degrees.

For example...

It may include the actions if opportunity arises to physically caress and kiss.

Many men and women are simply scared of such a feeling in themselves becuase of society and religious induced fear, so they only may have life-long fantasies about such an occurrence. It would be good for them if their dream would come true and that would depend entirely on their courage.

Do not forget that society and religions does not approve you having courage in such an "inappropriate area."
BI-CURIOSITY gradually becomes BISEXUALITY when person is clearly attracted sexually and emotionally to his or her own gender. She or he is still attracted to the opposite sex as well.

Bisexuality can also be of various degrees and start with someone having occasional sexual contacts with their own sex all the way to being sexually and emotionally in a full-blown relationship with a person of their own gender.

Men and women who are only attracted to his or her own sex the behaviour - sexuality is called homosexuality.

There is a whole layer of fascinating scientific evidence that sheds some light on the facts I just described above.

Statistics indicates that about 75 to 80 % of all adult females fall into bisexual or bi-curious category. And that is a figure I would support from my own personal experience as well as professional coach and sexologist. The degree may vary from simple curiosity all the way to living with female partner.

Woman can live with another woman or court preferably women and still be very much attracted to men.

About 7% of women are homosexual and have no sexual or otherwise attraction to men.

About 15% of women are so called "straight" or strictly heterosexual and have no interest or curiosity whatsoever towards other women.

And the rest fall in between bi-curious to bi-sexual.

Men on the other hand exhibit a some what different behaviour.

Men are either homosexual about 10%.

Bisexual about 10%.

Or they are strictly heterosexual... 80%.

They might have experimented with other men during their youth and that is where it stayed. They are not attracted to men and they have no interest in sensual touch or admiration of other men's bodies. 

Interesting that on the figures below there is a clear opposite mirroring between male and female dynamics.

Think Of Masculine - Feminine Polarities Here.

Masculine (male) is aggressive, dominant, penetrating and does not tolerate competition.

Feminine (female) is nurturing, encompassing, receptive and inclusive.

Note... I have observed in single sex couples that the polarity of Masculine - Feminine is at play, with one partner being the more dominant and the other other partner being the more submissive Feminine.

And interestingly as Science delves in exploring and understanding "sexuality." This divide that is supposed to exist according to beliefs. Of a clear cut heterosexual bias. Is not true. Especially when it comes to "female sexuality." Many, many women are "bi-curious."

Bisexuality is predetermined by this kind of energy.

Obviously, most women have bisexual tendencies and are afraid to give into them because of negative social - religious programming. Next step in development of their sexuality is to embrace their feminine sexuality, release the breaks slowly and carefully, and TRUST in themselves.

For A Woman...

It will be very enriching and eye-opening experience to discover what other women can give you if you push borders of your comfort zone. 

You can only benefit from it as a Woman.

Many of my girlfriends (past and present) have been into other women and they all confirm that there is so much for a woman to discover, to enjoy, and to grow both emotionally and sexually when she chooses to explore her bi-curious side. 

Recently I observed and... well, actively participated in one of my female friends becoming an empowered and active Bi-lady. It took some eye-opening coaching and social deprogramming with "field training" for her to realize how much she was really into it.

For A Man...

Next step for a man is to grow up and to drop jealous reaction towards your woman being with other women.

If you choose polyamory or any other kind of open relationship you are going to enjoy a wonderful new world of emotions, and sensations you never knew existed. When you really love someone, you are interested in developing his or her potential to the fullest, right?

This applies to both women and men.

If you release yourself, you will find a whole world out there waiting for you to be discovered. Could you ever guess that when your girlfriend or wife is casting interested looks at attractive girl passing by she might be imagining all three of you in one bed?

Let us take it a step further.

She could share her intimate fantasy with you and you could venture into new sexual adventure together. No more jealousy and no more guilt. You will enter the state of total understanding and acceptance of human nature based on mutual respect, trust, and acknowledgement of one's own sexuality. So building and sharing a deeper trust, understand and "intimacy" of each other.

You can keep reading and guessing or you could join other inspired men - women and couples who enjoy their renewed relationships and go beyond their old society-induced boundaries.

Do you want to know more?

And if you are struggling with sexing and sexuality issues and you would like help.

Please do Contact me.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

Ange is an Dynamic Personal Development Coach who works with those men and women who want to personally develop their confidence, relationships, health and wealth!

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