Love it or hate it. Anal Sex done right leads to "Mind Blowing" whole body Orgasms!

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Anal sex is one of those things about sex, you either love it, or you hate it. 

There is very little in between. 

Most men and women have tried it at some point, and a fair few of them will never dare again despite their hankering to be one of the "lucky ones" who love anal sex. 

The reason for this avoidance is clear...

Pain and Pleasure. 

If there was no pain, there was probably intense pleasure. 

Hence, love or hate. 

It is true, that while you are trying to "get it right" there are likely to be some painful moments, practice makes perfect and it is the ability to maneuver yourself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.

So what do men and women love and hate about anal sex so you can enter the situation sufficiently informed and ready to rock your world.  


For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it is considered naughty and it provides some variety to viginal sex. 

Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away. 

The taboo, naughty status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. 

Once tried, however, anal sex can quickly lose its appeal for women (and some men). 

Here I will discuss some of the reasons why women and men love or hate anal sex.


Let us start with the positives...

Because anal sex feels sooo good!

Men and Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. 

It is different in sensation and it does not feel like anything else he or she may have felt before.

It is deep sensation inside, for a woman it is not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. 

The rectum, once it is ready, literally swallows the penis up and cannot get enough. 

The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground.


Although her "A" spot is her vigina.

Her "A" spot is stimulated through her rectum wall by the thrusting of the penus. 

And when you stimulate her clitoris and/or vagina with your fingers while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. 

She will experience very intense anal orgasms.

And a little extra tip here.

I use a finger vibrator on my 3 rd finger and finger fuck my lovers pussy with my fore and index finger.

But this is practical in certain positions.

Because anal sex is naughty.

Both men and especially women love to be a little bit naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you can do completely privately, and nobody will ever know you were naughty except you and your lover. 

Which is part of the fun. 

It is also often a "first time for everything" type of activity which can also be nice, doing something you have never done before, ever. 


Now for what can go wrong.

Because done badly, anal sex hurts.

Anal sex is not easy to master when you have not done it before. 

For a man it may seem straight forward, you slip in - out.

But it is not this simple. 

Women hate anal sex primarily because it hurts. 

It can cause cold sweats, shivers, extreme agony, and a massive chemical release into the blood stream that causes pain. 

This is highly unpleasant for her instead of experiencing pleasure.

But she may endured anal sex because...

A) She wants to like it.

B) She wants you to like it. 

If you are not very careful, if you do not warm her up properly, ie, lots of foreplay and intimacy.

If you do not go slowly enough, you will more and likely hurt her. 

This really minimizes your chances for trying anal sex again. 

Always be your best and most loving with her, so you both enjoy great pleasure and intimacy.
Because she is worried about a mess.

Anal sex is obviously a hot spot for mess. 

The idea that you could penetrate her butt and come out in a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for her before it has even happened, and for this reason she may avoid anal sex altogether. 

Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell beautiful that to have something ruin her hard work can be mildly devastating. 

Worrying about mess can be alleviated by using an anal douche before engaging in any anal play. 

Try taking a shower together too, and make sure her bowels are emptied at least an hour before starting.

Lubricant is essential.

The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant, so it is imperative that you use a good quality lubricant in all your anal adventures. 

It is advisable to use a silicon-based lubricant because they tend to last longer and do not dry up very quickly like some water-based lubricants do. 

ABSOLUTELY do not use sticky petroleum-based products like Vaseline, as they clog up the walls of the rectum and are much too sticky.

Tease her.

It is very important that she is very turned on before you even go near her butt. When she is turned on, her body is much more open to you than if you she is only mildly turned on. 

She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. 

Then, when you start to touch her closer to her anus, she will respond with moans and groans instead of a tense grimace. 

Rub her body all over with oils, relax her, love her, adore her, and caress her. 

Get her to the point where she is begging you for it, and do this without putting a single thing in her.

Tease, Tease, Tease. 

Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools you have, use it to your advantage. 

Condoms and hygiene.

Disease can be passed through unprotected sex and this includes anal sex. 

The wall of the rectum is very thin and permeable. 

However, using condoms can be better for both partners, for other reasons.

Women may not like to have a bottom full of semen, which quite frankly is a fair call. 

After the disruptions of anal sex, the semen mixes with the contents of the rectum and it can get a little "upset" in there. 

Using a condom avoids this trouble. 

Condoms may also protect the penis from any stray fecal matter, though this is generally not a problem, and if it does occur can be washed off easily with no harm done. 

Men may like to wear a condom so they last a bit longer as the condom desensitizes the penis somewhat, and allows for longer lovemaking. 


Do not ever put your penis into a woman’s body without her express permission. 

Do not treat her body like a scoring device. 

She is not an object for you to ejaculate in or on, and if she is kind enough to share her beautiful butt with you, treat it with respect and be happy you were allowed close enough to breathe her in at all. 

Do not ejaculate inside of her if requested not to. 

You maybe totally "Ravishing" her.

But DO NOT abuse her.

Respect that she is trusting you to "surrender" herself to you.

Anal sex like any form of sex can be a "transcending" and "ecstatic" experience for you both to share in intimacy.

Don’t slam, jackhammer or be forceful either. 


Always use lube.

Always wear a condom if requested to without acting like a baby. 

Do as you are asked at all times and communicate, anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you. 

Gender presumptions and anal sex

When a heterosexual couple thinks of anal sex, it is generally man-in-woman anal sex. 

To get a good understanding of what it's like and how to improve your performance, it is necessary and helpful for you to open your mind to the possibility that anal sex is not something that only you do to your female lover, but something that you could do to each other. 

Scared yet? 

Do not be. 

If it is good for the goose, it is good for the gander.

And men have thier "G" spot about 2 inches inside their rectum.

Nature has a sense of humour. 

Anal sex takes a lot of practice to perfect, and experimenting with one another is a fantastic way to deepen your intimate connection and enhance your sex life and relationship. 

It does not have to involve sex toys. 

You can use fingers, tongues, oils, lubes, and any number of other things. 

Experiment, and let your own body, your energy be loved. 

It will pay off.

Anal sex is many things to many people. 

Do it right, and you will get to do it again. 

Do it wrong, and you may be doomed forever. 

Well, probably not forever but until she forgets how bad it was the first time around.

How to Prepare for Anal Sex

Before anal exploration, make sure your bowels are empty. 

Take a shower and soap all around your anus. 

Just this simple prep should leave you feeling clean enough to explore. 

If you do not feel quite clean enough yet…

Try an anal douche. 

The StreemMaster and Disposable Enemas are great products for keeping your bowels fresh and clean.

These products just rinse out your rectum, rather than forcing you to have a bowel movement.

A couple of warm water rinses and your anus will be cleaner than the day you were born! 

Begin exploring your lovers anus and its pleasurable nerve endings with your fingers or a toy before you attempt anal sex. 

Always use a bunch of thick lube like KY Jelly or Maximus when you explore your anus, as the anus does not lubricate naturally. 

You really cannot use too much.

When you insert your fingers or a toy into your lovers anus, let your lover relaxing their sphincter muscles. 

I know, this sounds a lot easier than it is. 

When you are the one being pnertrated, a great way to isolate your sphincter muscles is to think about tensing them up. 

Clench the muscles you would use to keep from passing gas, then release. 

The more you clench and release, the more relaxed your ass will become. 

Relax and bear down when something is being pushed inside you. 

The key to enjoyable anal sex is a relaxed anus (and all that lube). 

When you feel relaxed and like you are ready to be penertrated anally, go for it. 

If you prefer, you can choose a position where you control penetration, such as you squatting or kneeling on top. 

Another gentle position is the spooning position, where both partners lie on their sides. 

Have you lover apply plenty of lube to his penis before entering. 

A condom is advisable, as the bacteria from your anus could give him a UTI.

Sex positions 

NOTE: All these positions are GREAT for both Anal and Virginal sex.

For starters, anal sex positions are a lot more adventurous than just pulling off the porn star doggy style. 

In fact, doggy style can be one of the least enjoyable positions when you first start off with anal sex.

The Curled Angel

A side by side "spoons" position is a great way to start, especially if the woman bends and stretches her upper legs away from her body, as this automatically begins to open the external sphincter a little.

So get your man to lie down behind you and bend your bodies together. 

This position is great because you will both be pretty relaxed (which is key to your enjoyment of anal) and he will be able to reach around to your other important parts like your breasts and clitoris.

The Double Decker

You can also flip the side spoon on it is back too. 

In the Double Decker position you can both start off in your spoon and then move your bodies towards the ceiling. 

You will still have the closeness that you want from classic spooning sex but something a little different.

Plus as the woman you will get a bit more control from being on top.

Afternoon Delight

If you get a bit bored with simple spooning then you can try this variation. 

Afternoon Delight sees the man at the same position but you as the woman turn onto your back at a 90 degree angle and let him enter you from there. 

Again your anus will be at a wider, more relaxed angle so sex will be easier. 

He will also be able to reach the all important parts of you, and you can give his balls some extra attention too. 

The Clip

Apart from being a little more effort, there is no reason not to enjoy getting on top of your partner. 

Not only do they get an eyeful, you as the woman have more control and are even more likely to orgasm in this, win.

The Clip lets your man have access to your clitoris, and for you to intensify your pleasure by arching your back leaning away from him.

Women on top positions give women more control so they may be able to position themselves in a way which gives maximum stimulation to the clitoris. 

In some positions, the stretching of the skin and muscle around the anus offers some pull on the clitoris which is stimulating but this requires experimentation.

The Rocking Horse

Control is especially important for anal sex, as this is such a sensitive area it is crucial that you have some control of what is going on down there. 

But on top (literally) of you and your man having top-notch pillow talk, you can also take matters into your own hands. 

The Rocking Horse requires your guy to sit cross-legged and lean back to support himself as you straddle him. 

This variation of woman on top allows for more intimacy between you both as well as greater sensations for your clitoris as you grind up against him.

Reverse Cowgirl

One of the most popular positions for anal sex is the Reverse Cowgirl. 

Not only are you on top and so can take him as deep as you like, as fast or slow as you like, but he will also be able to see everything that you do. 

Both of your hands are free to explore each other, so no sensation should go unmissed. 

So get into the Reverse Cowgirl position, make your man lie down with his legs together, turn away from him, bend your legs and straddle him.

The Amazon

If you want to add something extra to your sex life then my tip: use props. 

The Amazon position adds a little spice into your bedroom routine without being too ambitious. 

It also allows you that well needed control while positioning you perfectly for orgasm. 

Make sure you keep those feet on the ground no-matter how good it gets, you will need the anchorage for more bounce!

The Basket

With the Basket sex position you can mix up the depth of penetration whilst having anal sex. 

The depth will be initially set by you and you can also control the motions. 

Leaving your partner free to caress your breasts and bum.

The Hinge

Now you moving towards the realms of doggy style with The Hinge. 

In this position you are still on top of him as though you were in Reverse Cowgirl but this time you lean forward onto your forearms and rest one leg between his. 

This is also a great position if you need him to pay a bit more attention to your clitoris and he can have full access to your bum - exactly what you are both after. 

Doggy Style

So here we are, finally at Doggy Style. 

Pleasurable experience is divided on this one, especially from a lot of women. 

As anal sex in this position can be quite painful for women as they have the least control and thrusting can be uncomfortably deep but at the same time, the position is also great for your orgasm. 

Anal penetration in the doggy position (which brings the vagina and anal passageways into closer proximity) when done right by the man.

A woman can experience an amazing orgasm plus lots more orgams from her "A" spot.

The Magic Mountain

The classic position that you think of when picturing anal sex is with a man taking a woman from behind. 

And although this can be tricky to master, the fact that the man is in total control can be a massive turn on for a woman. 

So if you want to take it even further then why not angle your pelvis even deeper with a few pillows just like The Magic Mountain. 

The Fan

The Fan gives an extra dimension to anal sex with a slightly different angle to penetration.

Instead of kneeling, your man stands as you bend over a surface like a desk or table and he enters you from behind.

This position really allows for him to pile on the attention to your anus beforehand too so you can relax and enjoy yourself.

The Glowing Triangle (One of my favourites.)

Now here come the more intimate anal sex positions, a little face to face action with the Glowing Triangle.

Most people would not think that traditional missionary sex would be high on the list for anal sex but actually missionary, and versions of, can be incredible for some bum fun.

It is possible, with patience and practice, to achieve face to face positions, including having the woman on her back with the man on top.

However, it helps to have the legs apart and raised and bent, or raised above/over the man's shoulders or wrapped round his waist, bent and resting against her own shoulders.

The Reclining Lotus

The Reclining Lotus allows you both to really connect whilst you're having sex and gives you both a great angle for the whole experience.

Opening those legs of yours will really have an effect when you are having anal sex.

So if you can handle it then my advice is go for it - but proceed with caution. 

You really need to trust your partner.

The Splitting Bamboo

Getting your leg over is the aim of the game full stop. 

So this position is a great one to try. 

He gets to look at your whole body while he is inside you and you get to feel a more intense sensation without being total overwhelmed by his penis. 

The Cross

The Cross is another great position for anal sex.

Simply lifting a leg can make a whole lot of difference. 

With this position you lie down on your back and let your guy edge towards you pinning your leg down using his own.

He then lifts your other leg up and slides in between them. 

Just be careful with this one as he has a lot of control so make sure you're ready for it.  

The Side Kick

The Side Kick is one of the more sensual positions for anal sex. 

The key to anal (apart from plenty of lube) is for your muscles to be super-calm down there. 

This position allows him to get the kick out of being able to enter you from behind as well as massage your body all over, releasing all your tensions. 

The angle does not allow for penetration to be too deep so it is one of the better positions for working your way up to full doggy sex.

The Ape

Another good position is when the couple both sit back on their heels, with the woman's back to the man's front. 

The man has his legs beneath him and the woman may be most comfortable with her legs apart, on either side of the man's legs .

From this position she can lower herself on to the man's penis and have control of depth of entry and thrusting.

So there you have it.

Anal Sex!
The best piece of advice I can give you is to make sure your lover is hot for it before you start. 

Then both of you can really enjoy each other!

As ever...

Always leave a man or a woman all the better for knowing you. 

Average men and women know only the rules. 

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

For Love, Passion and Intimacy...

Ange Fonce


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