Intimate Communion" Dating, Relationships & Sex Questions.

"Why Can't I have Multiple Orgasms?" "Sexually Abused As A Child" And "Long Rang Loving"


Hi and a warm welcome this edition of "Intimate Communion" Dating, Relationships & Sex Questions.

Man is my e mail inbox getting busy these days with you questions. I am getting them from all over the world now.

Not that I am complaining, far from it. 

I feel honoured to receive your e mails asking for my advice, that is very "special" to me

That the readers of "Intimate Communion" trust my expertise and advice.

And that is something I really "value!"

So may I say a Big "thank you" to all of you who write to me.

I "appreciate" your trust!

In this edition I have got an important tip about giving women MULTIPLE orgasms...A serious comment/question about an article I wrote a few months ago about women who were abused when they were younger and how it can affect your relationship...And... hm... let's call it "long range loving"

Let's get started...

QUESTION From Roxy

"hi Ange my name is Roxy and i have a serious problem that is getting me a bit down. I can only cum once when i am having sex with my partner, this is getting me down because when i do cum i dont realy want to have sex any more and want my boyfriend to just hurry up and get it over with. I feel as though i am a man who can only cum the once i want to have multiple orgasms and keep going please help im open to any advice or tips.
Thanks"
-R

Roxy...USA

MY REPLY:

Hi Roxy,

Thanks for writing to me and your message.

First of all, you CAN come more than once. You just haven't done it yet, and it may take some work to get there. You should be very careful when you start adopting beliefs about what you can't do.

But that's NOT really your problem here...I'll get to that in a minute...

I should tell you also that it's more COMMON that after a woman has her first orgasm, that the second and third come more EASILY...but don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you... it is not very unusual for the opposite to be true (as in your case).

When it comes to the way human sexuality, variety is the rule, not the exception.

I'm going to guess, without knowing much about your particular situation, that you are likely to experience multiple orgasms by experimenting with having g-spot and/or deeper cervical orgasms.

Unlike the clitoris, which can become painfully sensitive immediately after orgasm (for some women), the G spot tends to become increasingly available for pleasure.

If you've never experienced a G-spot orgasm and you feel like you've tried it and it didn't do much for you, the GREAT NEWS is that you don't have to give up.

There are studies that show that if you are persistent about stimulating the right area when you are highly aroused, that over time, G-spot sensitivity increases and you will probably eventually be able to have G-spot orgasms.

But this is not really the problem that I think is most worth dealing here.

The problem is that you are not enjoying sex after your orgasm and that you are impatient for it to end. And that means that you are missing out on the BEST PART of sex.

Now I have no way of knowing, based on your short e-mail, WHY you are closed off to this BEST PART. That is work for you and your boyfriend...

But the best part of making love is the intimacy that is shared between you.

And while that may sound like la-la, fairy tale stuff... consider this:

Virtually every man that reads my articles, are not reading it to improve his OWN orgasm... he is reading it to give his PARTNER greater pleasure.

Turns out we can get our selves to come just fine without you ladies.

And most women feel the same way - that there is HUGE pleasure in satisfying their PARTNER.

Now, to get that pleasure you've got to TUNE IN to what your partner is experiencing. You've got to get emotionally, or at minimum, PHYSICALLY connected and present with him.

If you are just enjoying your own fantasy in your head and getting purely selfish physical sensation within your own bubble, you won't experience this... and you will be missing out, as I say, on the BEST PART.

Here's what I suggest for you...

Start trying to tune into your partner during love making. Start breathing with him and maybe even try holding eye-contact.

See if you can feel his arousal in your body.

After you come, instead of getting bored, give the sexual act your full and undivided attention. See if you can find what is delicious and wonderful about HIS desire and HIS pleasure.

If you stop trying so hard to achieve your own orgasm, you may find that it will happen anyway. In fact, it will happen sooner, and far more POWERFULLY.

Consider the possibility of creating "intimacy within passion."

If you tap into this intimacy, there's an excellent chance that not only will you have profoundly more pleasurable sex and more powerful orgasms... you just might surprise yourself by having another... and another... before you are done.

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

COMMENT I received about my free eBook "How To Avoid Destroying The Intimacy In Your Relationships." Which includes a chapter about "Bad Relations And How To Avoid Them."

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Question/Comment from JB

"It's not always that simple. Some men are not mature enough to understand that. Example I have a female relative who was sexualy abused as a child, age 7 or 8, by a cousin who was 16 to 17 years old.
When she grew up around 17 to 18 years old she told her family about it and they complete ignored it and continued to talk to the cousin like nothing happened.
They all basically dismissed anything she said like it never happened. Later when she got older around 21 to 22 years old, she was coming home from work at night and a group of men passed by her and one of them grabbed her breast. Nothing more happened but she went straight home and told her soon to be husband about it. His answer was she must have done something to provoke it. Society does not want to here that ugly part of life and we are conditioned to ignore it. Some women will bark to no end about their sexual abuse but most don't bother because our society doesn't want to here it."

JB...UK

MY REPLY:

Hi JB,

Thank you for writing to me and your serious minded comment.

I want you to know that I could not agree more.

I would like to think that I did not give the idea in my eBook, that helping your wife or girlfriend get over past sexual abuse was EASY.

It is NEVER easy.

And unfortunately, the story you told about you cousin is incredibly common. It is indeed easier to ignore these issues than deal with them. And in her case, she did not FORCE them to deal with it.

Should they suddenly stop talking to a man that they have known their whole lives based on her story?

Could they even be certain that she was telling the truth?

And, after all, it happened so long ago...It is easier to pretend they never heard it than go through the inconvenience of dealing with it.

This is what I call "cowardice".

It is no more and no less than a complete lack of moral courage.

If your cousin had gone crazy and tried to hurt herself or ended up in a psychiatric ward, they would have been forced to deal with it... but, ironically, HER strength and courage allowed them to remain cowards.

Her husband, for his part, and I will be blunt in saying this guy needs to grow a backbone.

His fear of having to DO something made him behave in the most disgusting way of all:

He blamed the victim.

It is sickening that some men? Are so far removed from what it means to be a "Real Man!"

Now just to be super - clear, I'm not saying he should have gone out and gone vigilante on the guy that grabbed her - but to anything less than supportive of her is not acceptable behaviour in my book.

I am fully confident that you would have done far better in his situation.

Thanks again for sharing your story - I trust it will help others to understand how hard it is in our society for women (or men) who have suffered abuse in their past.

As long as society as a whole keeps turning a "blind eye" to the whole issue of "sexual abuse" many, many women and men.

Will suffer in silence and in my book that is not right or any form of justice!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

And to this final question from Jackson T

QUESTION: An unusual one this!

"hey whats up? i was wondering if you had a tip on how to shoot your ejaculation instead of dribbling it or having it just come uneventful. is there some kind of trick? preparation? or just luck of the draw?

JT...USA

MY REPLY:

Hi Jackson T.

Thank you for writing to me and your message.

Well, I'm not really sure why it's important enough to you to get some range going on your rifle that you would write me an email...

Target practice?

Just to be clear, I'm only kidding. Anything that turns you on that doesn't hurt anyone else is cool with me...

But it's also important to me that you are not letting the pressure of your hose become just another reason for feeling insecure or less masculine. The human mind has a funny way of latching onto just about anything and using it to fuel the self-critical voice... especially when it comes to sex.

However...

Yes! You can increase the volume and force of your ejaculations.

First, start doing PC exercises like "Kegels" to strengthen the muscles down there.

Here's how:

Just squeeze the muscles that allow you to stop the stream of urine when you're peeing. It's the same muscles that make your erection bob up and down when you're hard.

Flex them hard for a few seconds and release.

Do it 100 times, every day. You can also try holding the flex for 10 seconds-- this might be difficult in the beginning.

The great news about doing PC exercises is that it will also give you more control over your erection AND strengthen your orgasms...

And potentially allow you to... um... shoot farther.

Second, the LONGER YOU CAN HOLD OFF before ejaculation when you are having sex, the more semen will build up in your prostate, and the more powerfully you will eject it when you finally do ejaculate. Hold off as long as you can...especially when you feel it building up in there.

Stop and then start again when you have regained control.

Bring yourself close to orgasm and back down again as many times as you can and it will build up more and more fluid.

Good news for your girlfriend, hm?

Going a few days without sex or jerking off will build up more power as well.

Go CLICK this link where I give a full description of how to do "Kegels Exercises" for men.

Have fun. Hope you get a bulls-eye.

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

That's all for this edition. keep your e mails coming.

It usually takes me between 5-8 days to get back to you, as I read all your e mails in person and reply to every one individually.

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And as ever...Always leave a man or a woman all the better for knowing you. Average men and women know only the rules. Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

For Love and Intimacy...

Ange Fonce

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