How To Use Foreplay To Spice Up Sexing With Your Lover 

By Ange Fonce


Is it true that real sexing is all about an Earth-shattering climax wherein foreplay plays no role? 

Is it possible to play by rules in the game of love? 

In this article we explore the Art of Foreplay!

It may start with the morning tea you serve your lover in bed and progress into a passionate rendezvous by the evening that eventually escalates into sexing bliss in the night. 

If you have not guessed it yet, I am talking about the naughty acts before sexing that are commonly referred to as foreplay.

Since time immemorial, tales of making love have abounded with instances of immaculate foreplay that is considered to be the most fundamental part of best sexing and its boundaries stretch much beyond mere skin to skin seduction. 

Is Foreplay actually overrated? 

Is it true that real sexing is all about Earth-shattering climax wherein foreplay plays no role? 

Love making is considered as one of the most intimate ways to get close to your partner. 

During the sexing you are with your lover and have prepared yourself to forget all the other worldly worries and have set your mind to attain the ultimate experience - foreplay allows you to do exactly the same. 

It is not only restricted to bodily pleasure, and it is the moment when both of you dedicate your selves to each other.

For me, foreplay starts the moment your eyes meet and the energy is there in sexing tension.

It does not necessarily mean kissing, hugging, licking, touching etc., it has to do with anything that allows both partners to set the scene, much before you undress and it may be a combination of some acts or a mixture of all; it all depends on the way you want to treat your partner.

Foreplay is an experimental phase as that smouldering dance that builds sexing tension and anticipation up to full sexing intercourse and that extra time spent seducing a lover are nothing less than true bliss.



Foreplay Makes Love Last


In the beginning of a relationship, lovers mostly cannot get enough of each other. 

This has more to do with just chemistry... it stems from mischievous petting and touching! 

The first few years of togetherness are filled with steamy showers and lovemaking... yet have you ever wondered why it fades later?

Making love in the beginning is very hot because of the touching and caressing... read foreplay. 

Making out is foreplay.

Seduction is foreplay.

Yet how often do people who have been married for ten or more years make out or seduce each other? 

They seem to just hop into the sack, aimed to achieve an orgasm and lovers forget that orgasm is only a brief part of making love.

"Me and my wife are married since last thirty years, but still find the passion and desire we once experienced on our honeymoon. Love making is a holistic experience. To achieve maximum pleasure and to arouse your spouse to the peak level, both the partners need extra spice and that is attained via foreplay. All it takes is a bit (or more) of efforts to set the mood and ignite your partner's passion,"

Shares Gavin Barret name changed on request, a 54-year-old brand manager.





Men From Mars And Women From Venus?


Foreplay is the most critical part of sexing. 

An average woman needs about 45 minutes of sensual intensification to reach an orgasm and while I agree that a hot and fast wild sexing has its own moments, the simple truth is women need a little more time as women are emotional creatures, and that is why they like, enjoy and often need foreplay and this has held true since ages, for men sexing tends to be a stress reliever, and for women they need stress relief in order to be romantic so if their partners take the time to listen, comfort and cuddle them, there is nothing more valuable and more gratifying.

Foreplay is the one thing women cannot get enough... errr okay, there are a few other things as well. 

Janice S name changed on request shares her woes... 

"My boyfriend is in love with quickie sex. He gets some sort of kick out of it. A long, passionate lovemaking session is just not his cup of tea. By the time I get ready for sex, he is over with it. It's painful, annoying and I feel used. I would any day prefer a longer foreplay than the main course of the sexual act itself."

Unlike their male counterparts, women are not raring to get down to it. 

This is because their bodies need the lubrication required for sexual intercourse and their emotions dictate the same to them and they need to feel a sense of closeness and mutual respect with their partner and all of this can be achieved through foreplay, which will also help the woman in question feel desired and if you simply want to jump her bones, she will feel like a tool or a machine.

So, ladies and gentleman, the verdict is out... even while you hustle and bustle and cannot find time to spin around, it would be good for your relationship if you learn to please each other.

Foreplay can actually rock your love nest and learning how to execute it will be your key to sexing success. 




Here Are A Few Tips


1... Be creative

Unfortunately, for a majority of us, the perception of foreplay is merely kissing and petting... forget dimming the lights and nibbling on your partner's neck do not overlook them completely, just briefly and try on edible lingerie, nibble on aphrodisical foods or soak in a warm bath with aromatic oils.

2... Do not rush things

One of the most important things to remember about foreplay is to focus on everything and the so-called bull's eye of the body... you can go near them, yet do not focus on them let the act of arousal build gradually and ff you rush right in for the end zone, the game will be over before you even knew it so take it slowly and concentrate on being the best kisser your partner's never had; treat every area of the body as an erogenous zone and touch and kiss often-neglected areas such as the neck, throat, inner arms, stomach and eyelids before moving on further.

3... Foreplay is not exclusive to men

Thought seducing a woman is a man's contractual obligation? 

Well, it is time to dump the myth because women can also resort to foreplay and focus less on touching his hand, biting his lips, invading his private space and other feminine foreplay techniques, men respond favourably to visual stimulation, so try wearing a garter belt, slipping into those sexy heels or trying on the lacy lingerie.

4... Fantasise

Many of the most effective pre-play techniques happen before you even get your partner's clothes off as it can start with a voice or text message sharing your deepest desire and fantasy with your beau... even if you choose not to share your deepest, darkest desires, start using fantasy to get yourself in the mood for a rocking climax.

5... Pamper your partner

Know it or not, some women can even be brought to an orgasm through a sensual foot massage... an erotic massage will sensualise and wake up new parts of your spouse, increasing the scope of pleasure as to giving an intimate massage is to keep it sensuous, which means taking breaks between touches to lick and kiss your lover.

Teese and perform a fabulous striptease for him or her and make sure you are wearing something slinky under your clothes and pep up your love den by making sure it looks seductive with dim lights, scented, aroma candles and fresh bed and bath linens and have a fridge stocked with champagne, wine, beer, chocolate, strawberry, grapes and other aphrodisiacal foods to feed your lover and put on some sultry instrumental music and sway to them.

7... Seal it with a kiss!

Deep tongue kissing is one of the many formulas to turn you both on and as a matter of fact, couples like deep tongue kissing because it mimics sexing so instead of using the kiss as a two second start up, use it as a lingering moment to share your passion and if you do not feel kissing is one of your stronger skills, work on it as there are lots of tips available and one of the key points to keep in mind: men prefer wetter kisses with more tongue action than women.

8... Choreplay

This one is just for the men out there so you want to spice up your love life? 

Grab a mop! 

Start by cleaning the kitchen, helping her with the dishes or preparing for next day's breakfast because women are put in the mood for love-making when their stress and work load is reduced so once you shoulder more of the domestic work load and actually get her in the mood, use some of the above tips to make your typical foreplay moves even better.

9... Foreplay 24-7

There is no such thing as the perfect foreplay and there are no defined rules, time and techniques to set the ball rolling because foreplay is all about giving pleasure and creating anticipation so give your partner a long, lingering goodbye kiss in the morning, instead of a usual peck and send a suggestive email from work... foreplay is a 24 hour a day thing so use mental stimulation to make your lover yearn for you.

10... Oral Action

Do not jump to conclusions, we are talking about communication here as foreplay starts with words irrespective of your gender, complimenting your lover is a sure shot way of not just breaking the ice, also making the other person admire you so tell your partner about something in your life that really excites you, or if you know him or her well enough, tell a story that will attract them even more.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on this article?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




Ange Fonce

1... A person with a penchant for Science... creativity... books... writing... communication... fitness... sexing... sexuality... human relationships... psychology... physiology and any other area involving heavy use of the Intellect.

2... A bright person and Intelligent!

3... Ange is an Author and Dynamic Peak Performance Personal Development Coach... Sexologist and Intimacy Coach who works with those men and women who desire to personally develop themselves and their relationships to become creators of their own life... relationships and wealth! 

4... As ever always leave a man or a woman all the better for knowing you. 


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