How To Tell If Someone Likes And Trusts You

By Ange Fonce

Is it a certain word they say?

Is it a specific question you ask them?

This is one of the most common questions I get when doing coaching calls.

I have my list of things that let me know that the conversation is going well

When it comes to knowing whether or not someone likes and trusts you, people will not outright tell you that they like you and they will, however, unconsciously communicate it through their non-verbal body movements and that is what to look for.

For those who are asking... "What non-verbals do I look for?"

Here are 6 signs that someone likes and trusts you:


Maintaining eye contact


Initiating new conversational topics

Maintaining physical proximity

Mimicking (unconsciously) your nonverbal expressions

When you think about it, it makes total sense because when you do not trust or like someone, the body naturally demonstrates the opposites of these behaviors...

Think about it.

When you do not like someone you:

Do not Smile

Minimize eye contact

Do not laugh at their jokes

Cut conversations short

Increase the distance between you two

Close your body off

Learning this you did not have to wonder anymore if the person in front of you liked you. So next time you are having a conversation looks for those 6 positive non-verbals to see if you are heading in the right direction.

You think there would be more, yet there are not.

The path to social courting does take some time and a lot of practice, and the reality is that all it takes is mastering and implementing these 5 things. And if you are not seeing the 6 non-verbals that indicate someone likes you (smiling, eye contact, proximity, initiating new conversation topics, laughing, mimicking facial expressions) it is likely because you have not mastered or implemented the 5 keys to social courting.

What are the 5 Keys to Social Courting?

1... Structure

Before getting fancy and trying to run before you crawl, you have to understand the structure of human interactions. There is a sequence that produces an engaging interaction.

It is important to know each part of that sequence and how one sets the stage for the other. Skipping or ignoring a part of the structure could lead to awkward or unfavorable interactions.

2... Content

Knowing the structure of a good interaction is just the first step. You need to be able to fill that structure with engaging content, or rather good conversational pieces.

This comes in the form of identity stories or displays of personality.

Most amateurs fill the structure with just anything which leads to inconsistent results. Social artists, however, fill it with conversation pieces that are known to be engaging similar to the way a comedian has a stack of jokes that he knows will get the audience laughing.

3... Delivery

Without knowing how to deliver your conversation pieces, you will just be repeating words.

It is not the words that are magical, it is how they are said. A lot of people go out and repeat the same things and get confused when they do not get the same results. That is because the delivery is off.

Practice adding inflection to the way you talk. Monotone ways of speaking bore people whereas changes in pitch, tone, and speed capture attention like no other.

4... Volume & Velocity

One of the biggest reason most do not get good at the social courting is that they practice only a couple of times a week. If you want to start seeing results, you want to increase your volume and velocity.

Volume refers to how many people you talk to at a given time. If you are talking to only 3 people per week, imagine how much better you would get if you talked to 20 people per week?

Velocity is the cousin of the volume in that it refers to how fast you go from one conversation to the other. If you go out to practice 4 times a week, yet during those times, you take 45 minutes between conversations, you are limiting how much practice you can get in as opposed to taking 20 minutes between conversations.

In short, if you want to get better, increase the number of conversations you have and the frequency.

5... A Coach's Feedback

This is probably the X factor that, once implemented, could skyrocket the results in your social life tremendously.

No matter how much we practice, we will always have blind spots that hold us back from getting to the next level. These blind spots can only be called out by an outside source - preferably a source with expert experience and knowledge.

Having a coach there to call out your mistakes is a crucial aspect of social mastery in that it will prevent you from repeating the same things that have been secretly sabotaging your chances of success. Implementing their advice could save you years of failed attempts.

This is difficult for a lot of people because there are not that many good experts out there to learn from, let alone opportunities to learn from them. Working on their social courting skills to focus on principles of building a romantic relationship, though the underpinnings of this stuff could be used for all different types of social interactions, and if taught right, it applies to anyone of any gender or sexual orientation.

The principles behind them are part of human communication and are relevant for business, family, friends, politics, and romance.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Coach Ange Fonce

Ange is an Dynamic Personal Development Coach who works with those men and women who want to personally and powerfully develop their confidence, relationships, sexing, health and wealth!

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