Have you ever made the mistake of telling a woman how you felt about her?

It is a common mistake... and I am going to reveal why in this article... first a am going to share with you a letter from a reader.


"Hi Ange

I have a problem, quite a big one in my opinion.

Well where shall I start, a few months ago I met this girl at college, she's smart, funny and I feel we connected. 
We gradually became better friends and we spend a lot of time together and over the past few weeks I suspected that she
may have some feelings for me (I did too).

Feeling quite confident about this looking at the way she acted around me I thought on New Years Eve I would try and tell her how I felt and see if I was right in thinking she felt the same way.

Here's the bit that destroyed me:  All night she was getting quite friendly with one of my friends and she was spending most of her time next to him. 
So stupidly as I was a little drunk I took her into a quiet room and told her how I felt.  I have to say I was expecting a little more reaction, she didn't really say anything back, and eventually just went back and sat with my friend.

I was devastated at this. I kept telling myself that it was different this time, I wasn't wrong.  But I was, I feel depressed about it, Ange I really thought she liked me in that way.

So where do I go from here, I mean, do I continue to try and express my feelings, and how? 
Or do I quit now, and keep my friendship the way it is.

She's one of my best friends and I love her, I'm so scared of losing her as a friend, I just, for once in my life want something more out of it.

Please Advice, I really need some advice from a expert like you.

Thanks a lot"

Ash... West Yorkshire UK 

My Reply...

Hi Ash,

Thank you for contacting me and your message.

Well... my friend... you came to the right place.

First of all... you know where your mistake was... don't you?

Let me replay your words...

"I took her into a quiet room and told her how I felt..."

Smart men everywhere are saying... "OOOH... Big mistake" ... and shaking their heads... especially me.

The one sure-fire way to kill attraction with a woman is to talk to her about your feelings... it is the ultimate buzz-kill... Why?

Imagine that you are sitting there watching a movie... it is a really good mystery... you are keeping track of all the clues... and you are getting close to the end... right then,... your room mate walks in and says...

"Oh, the guy's wife killed her." 

And he goes to the kitchen... how would you feel?

Probably like stomping on his head... we humans enjoy the build up of tension... what ruins it for us is to have the mystery destroyed... that's why I hate those show's on TV that shows you how all the magic tricks are done... I do not want to know how they are done... that's why I like watching magic shows... I know they are tricks... and I like to figure them out for myself.

This is exactly what your girl experienced when you told her your feelings... you probably thought she would just jump into your arms... relieved to find out that she liked you too... and what telling her your feelings does is remove all the mystery... and uncertainty from the situation... and that is what creates attraction... and romantic interest in the first place.

Second of all... I want you to never make a move on a woman that you are... "so scared"... of losing.


Because you are setting yourself up in what I call a... "double bind"... this means that if you are scared of losing her friendship... that fear will taint any attempt you make to attract her. you simply cannot have it both ways... you cannot walk the fence... fear of loss is one of the most deadly killers of a man's CONFIDENCE because he will never act like a man who is living his life from ABUNDANCE... and SECURITY... instead... he acts like he is a wuss that is scared of making people angry at him.

Think about it for a second... think about any man you know who is attractive... and charismatic... does this man run around with a... "Oh please oh please... I hope you like me"... attitude?

No... he does not care if you like him or not... and THAT right there is why we are attracted to those types of people... they communicate strength of character... and confidence that is not shaken by other people's opinion of them.

Really... take a second here... and read that over again... it is big... and important that you understand this essential characteristic of men... and how they communicate their Masculine Confidence.

Third... if you do make a move on a woman that is your friend... be willing to risk LOSING IT ALL.

This is the other side of that fear I just told you about... you have to be willing to lose what you have got to get something more...  do not be lured into that false sense of need where you try to play with... "scared money"... that is when you are gambling... and you change your winning strategy because your emotions are jacking with your decisions... you said that this... "destroyed you"... no... I do not think so... you just lack options.

From now on... no more emotional discussions with her... women do not need to know that you are interested in her... or have feelings in her.... all she cares is if SHE has them for you. you can talk about your feelings later on... when you have built a relationship... and you two are really getting together... until then... keep your mouth closed.

Next...  make sure you are out there... and not just focusing on this one woman.... obsession is the number 2 killer of relationships... and it is unhealthy to focus on just ONE woman when courting... it screams out... 

"I have no other options but you, which means no other women want me..." 

Which is a BIG red flag to women... they want a man with social value... and confidence... and I want to warn you about a problem I see coming up... I think you might be falling into the Nice Guy trap...  and you know where that leads to ... "THE FRIEND ZONE"...  man hell on earth... you know how I can tell? 

From the tone of your email at the end... it sounds like you are sobbing into a hankie... and you might go out... and rent a bunch of chick flicks tonight while you sit home eating chocolates... you need the antidote to cure you... and rehabilitate you... and it is called having an Masculine Attitude.

What is Masculine Attitude?

Well think of it this way... it is the inner confidence of a man who knows he can create the kind of relationship he wants with a woman... have you ever seen an attractive woman on the street... and thought to yourself,

"Man, I wish I knew what to walk over and say to her so that she'd stop right there and really want to know more about ME."

And then you usually disqualify yourself in your head thinking... 

"What do I have that she'd want?"

The Masculine Attitude wipes all that self-doubt... and fear away.... I often explain in my articles... both here in The Intimate Communion Magazine... and on my other site... angefonce.com... the inner game mindset of the man who is confident... and has women in his life all the time... I call such a man simply... The Masculine Man... you most likely know such a man... chances are... you want to this kind of man.... being the kind of man that pulls women into his life... and keeps them... is not that hard at all.... it involves learning new skills... I want to give you that deep understanding... and ability with women that you have always wanted... I have a full set of tools... and techniques that will improve your CONFIDENCE with women MASSIVELY.

And I want to share them with you... this is experience you cannot get anywhere else... how do I know that?

Because when I was learning how to do this courting... and relationship game.... I went through all the books... and tapes... and videos... some of it was okay... and most of it was junk... and I learned the hard way by going out there in the BIG world... and finding out what worked... and what did not work with women... there are really only two ways to learn something... Trial & error... and finding a teacher.

Trial & error takes years... and years... and usually the results take even longer to get... if you ever do... and I can say from personal experience the so called... "rule book"... us men are raised with... and given to live by... is for the most part... "Utter Crap"... and leads to so many men living unhappy...  living unfulfilled lives without any real MEANING!

Finding a teacher is the fast-track... the easiest method... because you will get the exact information you need to win this game more times then you lose.

I have spent years of learning... and practising to know what really does work... or does not work with women... putting together... "The Knowledge"... that I would have loved to have when I was learning about women... and courting... I would not have made the choices I did that later on cost me dearly in Life... like getting with the wrong type of woman.

Think about it this way... I have spent lots of of my own hard earned bucks... and HUNDREDS of hours learning this stuff... so that you... and other men can benefit the results without wasting any time... or lots of money on the stuff that does not work.

Let me walk you step by step through the process of getting the best results imaginable with women.

I totally love... and enjoy sharing... "The Knowledge"... I like helping both men... and women with their romantic lives... showing them a better way to get to the goals that I really think all men... and women want in one form... or another.

  • Better love life...
  • Better career...
  • Better finances...
  • Better relationships with friends...
  • Better relationships with their family... 
  • Better quality of life.
Really that last one sums it all up... quality of life is the best focus a man can have... a life with Meaning!

When you invest in your self... and on your own personal development to improve all aspects of yourself... your entire quality of life goes up... in fact... by focusing on that one thing... you positively impact everyone around you... when you improve yourself you... "enrich"... yourself... and others in your life too.

So again... I want you to get back to me... and we will talk about how best to Help You!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

Is it more information you are needing... or one on one help... and advice?

Will you let your ego take over... and tell you that you do not need to learn about women... think about this for a moment... who would not want to KNOW and LEARN about women... you are going to spend most of your life with them!

Because I know you do not want to keep getting the same results you have been getting for the last however-many years... it is your choice... not every man will choose the right path... eventually when he is done being frustrated... and sick of going on a... "meet up"... and getting yet another "friend"... or another divorce... think on that one... she gets half of everything... and a big cut of your future earnings... and most likely the kids too... that is PAIN!

You do have a Choice!

Now if you have not started learning yet I would really like to hear from you... and I am sure you can give me some quality information on what you are looking for... or if there is something that you are waiting on to take a step down the path to self-enrichment.

You can Contact me.

As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. 

Average men and women know only the rules. 

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are truly Passionate and DYNAMIC Lovers!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce


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