Have you ever had a man flirt with you, tell you that you are "amazing" and "special" and when you started responding to him or having feelings for him, he suddenly pulled away for NO GOOD REASON?

Why do men do this to you?

Why do they start out hot and then get distant and shut down without telling you why or even wanting to TALK ABOUT IT WITH YOU?

Is there a man you are interested in and attracted to that ACTS like he is interested in you, and he has not asked you out yet?

You see him at work, or he is a friend-of-a-friend that you run into at parties, or is a member of the same club or organization you are involved with.

Every time you run into him, he seems happy to see you.

He flirts, he smiles, he teases you and tries to get your attention.

He seems to remember every conversation you had and makes you feel like he is actually PAYING ATTENTION to what you are saying.

He asks you about your life and makes you feel like he is really interested in what you are doing.

He compliments you on the way you look... he looks directly at you, and there is just something about the way he is looking that makes you wonder what he is really trying to say.

It feels good to you.

It feels like he IS attracted to you.

And you find yourself attracted to him.

You look forward to running into him or spending time with him.

He makes you laugh, and every interaction you have with him makes you wonder what it would be like to be "courting" with him.

Yet you also feel a bit OFF BALANCE around him, because he does not seem to do what you expect him to do, or what you WANT him to do.

Like suggest you go out for a drink or coffee... or ask you for your number or email... or want to take things beyond just a casual friendship with a lot of flirting to something a little more "real."

Sure, he ACTS interested, he flirts with you and tells you that you are beautiful and smart and interesting, band then he pulls back and makes you wonder if you are just IMAGINING THINGS.

Is he really interested? 

Or is he just messing with you?

It confuses you, which makes you think about him even MORE... and it is driving you crazy.

Will he ever ask you out? 

Should you make the first move and ask him? 
 
Is he shy?
 
Is he waiting for some kind of "signal" from you?

If you have ever been in this kind of situation, you know how confusing it is.

One minute, the man is laying on the compliments and flirting with you like crazy.

And the next minute, he is off talking to someone else and "ignoring" you, without ever following up or ASKING YOU OUT.

It can even be extra irritating when this happens over and over... when he continues to act interested without ever DOING anything about it... driving you a little more nutty each time.

What does it mean when a man acts like this, and what can you do when you are attracted to a man who just will not make the FIRST MOVE?

I can tell you that there can be many reasons a man will flirt and act "interested" in you, and never ask for your number, call, or make plans to "meet up" with you.

One may be that he is actually involved with someone else, and he does not want to be honest about that, and he enjoys your company and thinks you are a great woman...  and he just does not want to "go there" with you.

Maybe he is attracted to you PHYSICALLY, and does not yet feel that gut-level of emotional attraction to want to take things to the next level with you.

Maybe he is getting mixed signals from you... one minute he thinks you are responding and interested, and the next minute he senses some kind of "vibe" that makes him wonder if you will reject him if he were to ask you out.

OR... maybe he has his own personal reasons for not wanting to become more involved that have nothing to do with who you are or what you say or do.

These are all things you may have wondered about and guessed by yourself at one point.

Unfortunately, unless you ask him directly, there is no way to know for sure what is going on.

And there ARE a few things you can do to increase the likelihood that he will want to spend time with you alone and get to know you better.

In this article, I am going to give you 3 powerful tips on getting a man's attention and interest, and then a game plan on how to create the right situation so that he can feel comfortable asking you out or taking things to the next level with you.

This way, you can stop over-analyzing everything he is doing or saying, and stop feeling bewildered about why he keeps flirting with you and not making a move.

And then you can RELAX, create the right circumstances, and let it all work out and the flow of the energy between you both will be natural.

Ready? 

Here goes...

TIP 1: LEAD WITH ATTRACTION
 
If a man is looking you up and down and staring at you, or already telling you things like...

"You're the most attractive woman in the room" or "You're really hot."

That is a no-brainer.

He is physically attracted to you.

You already have that going for you.

Yet that is NOT the kind of "attraction" I am talking about here.

That is PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, and a man can feel that kind of attraction for any woman - whether she is his "type" or not... a man can appreciate an attractive woman... he might even want to ACT on that kind of attraction alone.

By flirting with you, or kissing you, or even getting "physical" with you.

And a man will not stick around for the long-term if ALL he is feeling is that "you are hot."

Because there will not be any of the EMOTIONAL or INTELLECTUAL attraction that will keep him wondering about you or actually LONGING for you (in more than just a physical way.)

If you know how to trigger that deeper, more alluring kind of emotional attraction in a man, he will want to spend time with you and be around you and it will have LITTLE to do with the way you look or the way you are dressed.

Sure, you looking and feeling beautiful will be a big bonus in his mind, and in order for him to want something more than just a fling, or to feel addicted - he has to be into to you for another, deeper reason.

He will be "attracted" to you because you are playful and unpredictable.

Because of the way you carry yourself and the way HE FEELS AROUND YOU.

If you know how to LEAD with attraction, how to set up that "feeling" inside a man from the first 5 minutes you meet him, then it is going to be very easy for him to ask you out, because he is going to wonder about you and want to be around you.

He will be "intrigued" by you.

Leading with attraction is different than leading with physical appearance, or leading with your "book-smarts" or letting a man "know" how independent or successful you are.

A man will not fall for you because of your physical fitness or the kind of job you do.

He will fall for you because of the way you make him FEEL when he is around you, and because you trigger that gut-level of intense emotional attraction in him.

If you know what this is and how it works, you will realize how EFFORTLESS it can be to get a great man to ask you out.

TIP 2: ENGAGE HIM ONE-ON-ONE AND GIVE HIM THE SPACE TO RESPOND
 
Do you know that a man can be just as afraid or even MORE AFRAID of rejection than you are?

In order for a man to overcome "shyness" or even his fear of rejection, he has to feel pretty confident in himself, or in the idea that if he were to ask you out, you would respond with a "yes."

If you are always surrounded by a group of people, he may not have had the opportunity to see for himself whether or not you are really available and interested.

If he is never had a one-on-one conversation with you, where you are leading with attraction and flirting back, he may not feel too sure of the situation.

You may THINK you are flirting back or being friendly, and he may be just as unsure about YOU and what you are feeling or thinking as you are about HIM.

This is why it is important that if you want to maximize the chances that a man will follow-up with his attraction for you, you have to find a way to ENGAGE HIM that tells him that you are both interested and available.

Look him directly in the eye when you are speaking to him and SMILE.

And do not forget to lead with attraction.

Which means avoiding things like...

  • Complaining.
  • Talking about "boring" subjects like the weather or what you do for a living.
  • Letting him "carry" the conversation.
The fact is, if you do not know WHAT TO DO AND SAY in order to create enough interest for a man to both FEEL SAFE asking you out and creating enough INTEREST in him, then you are going to have a tough time with men and courting.

These first few moments and following "meet up's" are critical for setting the stage for a successful relationship down the road.

So what if you do both of the above tips and that guy STILL is not asking you out?

Is it OK to ask a man out yourself?

The answer is YES! 

It is perfectly fine to ask a man out if you feel attracted to him and suspect he is interested, too.

A lot of women have no problem doing this, and it can actually work out and lead to something positive.

And maybe you are not comfortable with that for some reason.

Maybe you want a man to make the move, or maybe you are just not 100% sure that he is interested and available, and you do not want to risk feeling embarrassed if he turns you down.

I get it... I totally get it.

The thing is, you CAN do something to let a man know that you would be up for getting to know him better without actually having to ask... 

"Would you like to go out sometime?"

Here is how...

TIP 3: "BACK LEAD" HIM
 
There is a way to show a man where you want things to go without actually doing it yourself or telling him straight-out what you want.

In other words, there's a way to tell a man that you want him to ask you out without actually saying the words, appearing desperate, or being too "aggressive."

You do it by initiating HIM to lead.

In social situations, there is always a "leader" and a "follower" - and the energy FLOWS from the submissive to the dominant person, not the other way around.

A friend of mine who is a ballroom dancer taught me this.

In dancing, she SHOWS a man the way she wants him to go without actually pulling or pushing him there.

She does it through a technique she calls "back leading."

You show a man where you want to go, then you relax and CREATE THE SPACE for him to take you there, and you do not fill the space for him.

This way, a man can feel like he is the one who pursued you, and you can feel more relaxed knowing that this was "his" idea.

Because the LAST thing you want to be doing or feeling is that you are somehow "chasing" the man.

So anyhow.

Here is an example of how you might do this.

You might say something like... 

"You seem like a great guy. I'd love to get to know you better. Here's my number. If you were to ask me out for tea (or coffee) sometime, I'd say yes."

Here is the caveat for this technique...

It is NOT back leading when you are calling him all the time, texting him to meet you somewhere, complaining that he does not call you enough, or pushing him to "make good" on a suggestion that you two do something together.

That is not back leading.

That is YOU trying to CONVINCE him. 

And it is a total turn off for a man if he is not yet sure where the relationship is headed.

And if you feel like you have no problem with meeting lots of great men, and you do not understand why time and time again, the man suddenly withdraws or gets distant for no reason...

Or tells you suddenly that he does not quite feel the same "chemistry" with you and wants to meet other people...

Or tells you that he is "not ready" for anything long-term or serious with you - EVEN AFTER TELLING YOU HE LOVES YOU?

You are not alone if you are frustrated that relationships with men often start out intense and passionate and quickly and unexpectedly turn cold and distant.

Nearly all women have had the experience of feeling like they have finally found something "real" with a man - and sharing themselves both emotionally AND physically - only to have him suddenly PULL AWAY.

And what is worse... when this happens, there often seems to be no explanation... and NO GOOD REASON AT ALL.

These types of situations make it easy to feel pessimistic towards men in general... and can definitely lead you to think ALL MEN are just "screwed up."

You Contact me and when you work with me I will share with you deeper methods of how to build lasting "Attraction" with a man.

You will learn how to UNDERSTAND why men say and do these confusing things and what exactly you can do to STOP a man from withdrawing and keep him wanting to be with you for the long-term.

If you are "genuinely interested" in the "hidden" attraction that draws men and women together and you would like to know more...

Then please do Contact me.

As always leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. 

Average men and women know only the rules. 

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are Passionate DYNAMIC Lovers!

For Love and Intimacy...



Ange Fonce


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