Find Her Orgasm Blueprint. Sex Tips For Men to Give Your Woman Explosive Pleasure!

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Now and again when I am writing these articles for "Intimate Communion" I like to use either a readers question or a question that has been sent to Me on Facebook as a basis for an article.

And this article is based on a question that was sent to Me via Facebook. So read on and lets get going....

QUESTION

"Hi Ange

Thanks for your article tips.  I enjoy reading them.

I am especially interested in the oral tips.  My wife is not a big fan of oral.  She prefers heavier pressure than a tongue can provide and she does not like the pinpoint feel of individual fingers.  Whole hand and cupped finger pressure is what she prefers.

Any suggestions for oral improvements or do I just have to resign myself to her preferences?  Are there techniques for somehow improving her sensitivity?"

Steve....Northen Ireland

MY REPLY:

Hi Steve,

Thank you for your message.

I'm really glad you wrote in with this question, because it illustrates a really important point about women that I talk about all the time--

Every woman is different.

Of course we read everywhere that MOST women prefer oral sex to intercourse or anything else, but the reality is that no two women are exactly  alike, and the true gift is learning how to push  the buttons of the woman that you are with.

Which you have done.

But now let's take a look at how we can make it even better!

First of all, your wife's preference is not uncommon and it probably comes from her own experience of making herself come for the first time when she was first becoming sexually aware and began masturbating. 

The "whole hand" thing is the way most women begin touching themselves, because they usually don't know much themselves about their own anatomy.  They just find what feels good.

The easiest way to do that without probing around too much is with a broad surface to touch herself.

After a while, she just blueprinted this idea on herself that THIS is the way she has an orgasm.

The first thing I'm going to ask the two of you to do, is really work on changing your attitude about love-making.

Stop making it all about the orgasm.  Really tune in to just enjoying touching each other and all the sensual sexual feelings you can have other than just coming.

More specifically, stop making it all about HER orgasm. 

There is this idea that the man's sexual pleasure is no big deal.  He's going to come every time anyway, obviously he's liking it, so it's all about whether or not SHE is going to enjoy it.

But the fact is, you like going down on your wife - and even though that is not how you are going to have your orgasm-- it is part of YOUR sexual pleasure.  And so it should be part of what you guys do together to just enjoy love-making.

Even if it doesn't drive her towards her orgasm, I'm pretty sure she can enjoy the sensations she will get when you are down there.

Once you've both come to this realization of just spending time enjoying each other and it doesn't matter if it's what makes her come, you might find the rest comes naturally and she will discover sensitivity she didn't know she had...And maybe even surprise herself and start having orgasms from just a very gentle touch with your tongue.

However, here are some more specific tips on increasing her sensitivity:

Place your thumb at the very top of the fold of her vagina, on the hood of the clitoris, and pull the skin firmly up and back.

This will expose the head of the clitoris and make it MUCH more sensitive.

As she becomes more sexually excited, the hood will try to move down over the clitoris-it almost seems like the clit is trying to hide as she gets closer to orgasm (this is sexual female biology), so you may have to use more pressure with your thumb to pull it back and keep the clit exposed.

As I said, this will make her much more sensitive - and for other guys reading this, note that I began this response by saying that every woman is DIFFERENT... 

Some women will find this way TOO sensitive and even unpleasant, and your girl might yowl and leap right out of the bed as if you just gave her vagina an electric shock. And I know this to be true as a one of My past lovers just found the sensations to powerful for her the first time. And I had to slowly educate her body to get use the powerful sensations she was experiencing. Until she finally experienced a total mind blowing full body orgasm!

To increase the sensation even more, try sucking the head of the clit up into your mouth. The pressure of the suction is a very powerful sensation, and you can experiment with combining this sucking action with stimulating her with your lips and tongue.

You could also, at this point, insert a finger and curl it upwards onto her g-spot.  For most women this combination is incredible powerful.

Play with this stuff, pay attention to what's working, and most of all have some fun and enjoy each other.

These few little tips should work to drive her completely crazy and seriously re-wire her own ideas of what can make her come.

Have fun!

Ange Fonce

NOTE: Is there an easy way to give a woman the orgasm of her life - that ANY man can LEARN?

Yes. 

Are you aware though that every woman is different?

Every time I see an article in a men and women's magazine about what women like in bed, it always says the same thing:  
"Women want oral sex."  They like oral sex more than intercourse (and even more than chocolate)...

But in reality, no two women are exactly alike, and plenty of women don't even LIKE it when their man goes down on her.  
That's why, instead of reading what women like in some article, you should learn how to push the buttons of the specific, individual woman that you are with.  Find her INDIVIDUAL blueprint....And then learn how you can take her blueprint and make it even better and more powerful than she has experienced it in the past.



Many women prefer the broad pressure of three or four fingers across the entire outside of the vulva in a firm, circular motion.

Why?  

Because for many women, that's the way they first began touching themselves when they were younger... before they figured out which parts of the anatomy were which (they can't see down there without a mirror, after all)... So they just found what feels good.

The easiest way to do that without probing around too much is with a broad surface, which stimulates everything at once... and after learning to orgasm for the first time, she'll do this same thing over and over again until it is "blueprinted" into the way she reaches orgasm.

Another common orgasm blueprint for women is the shower head... a lot of young girls discover early on that the feeling of running water from the bath tap feels... FANTASTIC!!... and they start experimenting with it whenever nobody is around until... bingo... their first orgasm.  



They grow up to be women who love shower-heads and vibrators.

Still another common blueprint is the girl who first learned to orgasm touching herself with her panties still on, because as a child she felt like it was "yucky" or "wrong" to touch the wetness of her vagina... and they grow up still loving the feeling of being touched through the barrier of their pants or underwear.

Then there are the women like firm pressure on their clitoris because they blueprinted on the seat of a bicycle or by rocking back and forth while sitting with their legs folded beneath them and leaning their clitoris on the heel of one foot when they experienced their first orgasm.

Obviously I could go on and on here, but the point is, most women have a "short cut" that they have been doing for years.  It's what works most easily for them, and for many women, it's the ONLY way they can come.  

So the first thing a skilled lover might want to do is figure out what her blueprint is...

But that's really just the first step.  The really interesting subject is to learn how to expand her sexual pleasure PAST her blueprint. Give her NEW sexual experiences that she didn't know she could have...

And the first step to doing that is kind of counter-intuitive:

You've got to stop making it all about the orgasm. And to be more specific, you've got to stop making HER orgasm the "goal" of the love-making.

When you set the goal of getting to climax, it causes you, as a couple, to constantly take the easiest or fastest route to that goal so that you can feel like you "succeeded".

Here's what to do instead:  Really tune in to just enjoying touching each other and all the different and crazy good sexual feelings you can have in bed OTHER THAN JUST ORGASM.

The new goal is pleasure, and giving, and receiving, and enjoying, and touching...

Because focusing on orgasm as the goal of love - making is cheating yourselves of 90% of the pleasure.

Because so many couples are focused on goal - oriented sex, they either go straight for the blueprint... or she just gets frustrated because he doesn't know what her blueprint is or isn't good at that particular thing... and then they miss the ALL of the other possibilities.

And here's the big secret...

Once you stop making it goal oriented and she's just enjoying the feeling of being touched and loved while you you do different things that feel good, she may very well surprise herself and start having powerful orgasms that are completely new, different, and exciting.

If she has been blueprinted with preferring oral, she may start having orgasms from penetration...

If she thinks her blueprint is hard and fast, she may have an orgasm from the lightest and most gentle touch of your tongue.

Or she may begin to have orgasms from touching other parts of her body, or from complete stillness during intercourse.

Women can experience all of these things, and many more... probably many that even I don't know about yet.  



And when a woman experiences a new "type" of orgasm for the first time, it is usually an incredible powerful experience... often much more intense than her usual sexual pleasure because she is not accustomed to it.

The first step is just to let go of the goal - oriented, "gotta make her come" thing.

Then just take the time to play and enjoy the touching, pay attention to what's working and what's exciting for each of you, and most of all have some fun and enjoy each other.

You do this just by setting the intention, either verbally or non-verbally, and then just confidently leading her into the experience.

"Shh, we're not trying to make you come just yet, how about laying back and telling me how it feels for you when I do this..."

Your confidence and congruence and your positive intention to make it an emotionally safe place to lovingly explore is all it will take to get her to enthusiastically enjoy it.

And, by the way... for some women the blueprint is,

"I take a long time to reach orgasm" or, "I CAN'T have an orgasm".

For this type of woman, you will be amazed at what can happen (and how quickly their blueprint can be re-wired) if you just do this one, counter-intuitive thing of getting rid of the goal-oriented behaviour.

Let me explain something here...

I write this stuff so that you'll go out and TRY it.  

Some of the things I write might not work for you...everyone is different and everyone enjoys different things.  I don't expect you to go out and do the stuff that doesn't sound fun or exciting to you... but some of the stuff I write can dramatically improve your sexual relationship.

The important thing to me is that you go out and TRY them, because that is the only way you are going to have PROOF that the things I am revealing here are very REAL.

And, in case it's not obvious, the reason I want you to have the proof is because I know that when you try these simple sounding things and your woman goes crazy with sexual pleasure, you're going to RUN back to your computer you will find some of the articles I have published and try a few more of my tips.

So try this one TONIGHT.

For Passion,

Ange Fonce

FURTHER READING:

Female Orgasm: 3 Essential Tips You must KNOW as a Man. "The ABC's Of Great Sex"

Sexual Intimacy. The Sensual Art of Touching And Caressing Skin on Skin! 
 
The Different Types Of Orgasms Women Can Experience

Her Orgasm Trigger Points That Drive her Wild!  Do You Know Them?

Powerful Massage Method For Mega Orgasms For Women ("The Welcoming "G" SPOT ") 

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