Femininity & Masculinity. Do You "Understand" Your "Femininity" As A Woman In This Changing World?
Posted by ANGE FONCE on Sunday, August 11, 2013 Under: DYNAMIC RELATIONSHIPS For Men & Women
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Femininity & Masculinity. Do You "Understand" Your "Femininity"
As A Woman In This Changing World?
As A Woman In This Changing World?
First and foremost, as a Man, I think that being a feminine woman requires an enormous amount of strength in this modern world.
In a society where the role of a woman is changing and things like focusing on motherhood are no longer as respected (at least in comparison to the career woman’s achievements and ambitions), it can sometimes feel almost impossible to just relax and not feel the need to conform to modern ideals, and to compete to get to the top of the corporate world or workforce.
Every now and then I get an email asking me about femininity and how to be feminine whilst wanting to chase masculine ambitions.
Sometimes I will get a woman telling me that my writing is an insult to women all over the world.
Well, let me say that I passionate about building a greater "understanding" between men and women.
I passionate about men and women meeting and "relating" each other.
I am passionate about men and women getting to share the greatest of "intimacy" with each other..
I would never promote something that is an insult to women, or something that marginalizes women.
Whilst I love that women have much more freedom now than they used to, and can work as well as provide for their children alone if they have to,
However I do not accept that a woman’s worth should be judged by her “achievements” at university, school, in the workplace, in sports or her physical looks.
The real worth of a woman is much more than all of these things put together.
Ironically, a strong woman is not what society tells us it is.
- No woman is a strong woman because she got a degree.
- No woman is a strong woman because she got promoted.
- No woman is a strong woman because of her intellect.
- No woman is a strong woman because she can do something just as well as a man can or even better than them.
- No woman is strong because she is an athlete.
- No woman is strong because she can lift heavy weights at the gym, or run fast (although I used to think so).
True strength lies in her ability to embrace her feminine core, and whilst she may be a high achiever, and whilst she may be very intelligent - her real strength is in her true femininity.
And in her character.
- Can she care for others?
- Can she care not only when it is easy, but when it is hard?
- Can she truly feel, rather than hide her feelings?
- Can she tell her truth, and influence people for the better?
- Can she influence without aggression?
- Can she influence without manipulating?
- Can she give without expecting anything back?
- Can she accept a man, without trying to change him?
Whilst I have nothing against women working or playing sports; all I am saying is that this is not how a woman’s worth ought to be measured.
In looking for a message that sums up the strength of a woman simply, I came across this picture.
How hard it must be these days for a woman to remain strong to be a "WOMAN" in a society that expects women to conform to being "model perfect."
How hard it must be these days for a woman to remain strong to be a "WOMAN" in a society that expects women to conform to being "model perfect."
It is important that women spend time giving and enriching their own lives and relationships.
Despite what the media and society says.
Despite what the media and society says.
Women are not always taught, in the “education” system, how to be great mothers, how to be great friends, great daughters, great girlfriends, great wives - great people!
Women are mainly taught how to do that equation, or how to write the best essay.
Or how to be the "best" at something.
You are lead to focus on your own lives and achievements.
By all means, yes, we are all taught to be "good people" to the extent that we are encouraged to contribute to society and be philanthropists.
We are also taught to be nice.
But nice is not enough.
It has to be accompanied with REAL care.
REAL understanding.
REAL compassion.
But, how can a woman ever truly understand the pain and suffering of others, and truly give to others, if she is not encouraged to feel her own pain and suffering?
How can a woman develop compassion, relate to other human beings, revel in her femininity and live in her feminine core if everything is about getting the next thing done and getting the next thing done and all the time expected to look perfect?
And then you go on to enter the work force - and whilst I think this is fantastic, that it is great how women have so many opportunities - what about respecting what a truly feminine woman can give from her heart?
What about respecting her worth simply as a woman?
Simply through her ability to love, think and to feel?
To be "Feminine!"And I’d like to just reiterate some thing here about "Femininity."
"A feminine woman is one who feels deeply and loves fiercely.
Her tears flow just as abundantly as her laughter.
A feminine woman is both soft and powerful.
She is both practical and loving.
A feminine woman in her essence is a gift to all the world."
There needs to be a balance!
A balance between the "natural feminine" energy inside of a woman and how she relates to the "masculine" world.
For a lot of women, your complexities (something that is at the heart of the feminine energy) is being conditioned out of you, and you are becoming like "menfem" (just like men who have lost touch with their own masculinity are becoming "femmen") and are not really happy, and not really ‘alive’ and radiant like a woman truly can be - but not necessarily unhappy enough to do something about it.
How often have you been walking down the street, or sitting on the train, and women look like they are machines, tired and worn out?
It is particularly sad to see women like this.
Personally, I would rather meet a woman who is feminine and hates me than to meet a woman who is bland and her femininity dead inside.
No matter how fit looking and rich she maybe.
No matter how fit looking and rich she maybe.
I like to see some kind of emotion; something feminine, something human in her.
Something "womanly."
Do You Know How To Relate To The Masculine?Imagine attracting a man emotionally and intellectually in such a way that he absolutely can not resist wanting to be around you.
Not only that, but imagine all the obstacles and excuses falling away.
No more "I'm too busy" or "I have to work through some issues."
The only thing he will know is his desire to be with you.
Your "Feminine" essence attracts him and draws him to you.
When you work with me, I reveal specific ways to subtly communicate to a man the things that will trigger that intense level of attraction inside him.
Who will take notice and see and recognize the things inside you he simply did not look for or see before.
I will show you how to turn up the dial on the level of attraction a man feels and experiences with you on both a physical and emotional level.
You can begin seeing some amazing changes in your love life right away and feel the kind of confidence and security with a man that you've never experienced before.
Now, let's get down to what is really going on in your heart when it comes to men and relationships.
Wouldn't it be great to know for sure that your man was going to take you in his arms and let you know without a doubt that he wants you and only you?
Wouldn't it be amazing never to have to worry again that he is losing interest when he becomes distant or that you've done something wrong?
It's entirely possible when you understand the reasons a man has for acting distant and what to do about it when he does.
WHY HE ACTS HOT AND COLD
You know how it is.
A man will seem really excited to be with you, he will ask you out, maybe even bring you flowers, call all the time, and then... something shifts and he pulls back.
He stops making plans like he used to, and you start to feel like you did something wrong or that he does not like you as much any more.
WITHDRAWING IS NATURAL FOR A MAN
Here is an insight about men that is fascinating and strange and that, once you understand it, is going to stop a lot of the pain and frustration you experience with dating and relationships.
When a man gets truly close to a woman and deeply intimate for any extended period of time, he loves that feeling and wants more of it.
But the strange part of this is that the moment a man experiences this period of intense closeness, he will take some space for himself.
I know this sounds counter-intuitive, but it's how most men work emotionally.
Most men will actually seek some amount of space to "recover".
It is kind of like how after a muscle gets worked out it needs to rest before it can grow stronger and be active again.
Men can become distant even in good relationships, and if you know what to do, you can keep your guy physically and emotionally engaged...even when he needs time to recover.
And there is another reason why a man might withdraw that has nothing whatsoever to do with you.
He is not living his "purpose".
THE IMPORTANCE OF PURPOSE FOR A MAN
It is important for a man to be clear about what he is doing in his own life and what his purpose is.
A man's purpose can be anything from something straightforward like excelling at work or building his own company, to something more creative like starting and working at a do-it-yourself project at home or training at his favourite sport.
The point is that a man has some goals and is engaged and focused on doing something and doing it well.
A man's purpose is essential to his overall emotional and social well-being.
But often times, even men themselves are not clear on what their purpose is, or do not really go after realising their purpose and assert themselves.
When a man is not going after his own purpose - or has fallen away from it or forgotten about it - it often gets in the way of the relationship he is in.
Men become withdrawn, restless, irritated and seem generally disengaged in life as a whole.
They stop initiating plans.
They stop spending as much time with people - even their own friends.
They shut the world out.
And of course, they become emotionally withdrawn and distant as well.
Too often men are not conscious that this is what is happening to them, and they end up pulling away from their relationship and making things even worse for themselves.
This is when they often seem to go in and out of being present and engaged in the relationship, and then completely withdrawn.
They slide between the two largely because of the way that they are feeling about themselves or how things are going for them in the world as it relates to their purpose.
And often women take on the problems the man is going through and try and help, or even mistake his behaviour to mean something about his feelings about them or the relationship.
So now that you know that a man's withdrawing is not automatically your fault.
So what can you do about it?
First off let's start with...
WHAT DOES NOT WORK WITH A MAN The Mistakes Women Make
WHAT DOES NOT WORK WITH A MAN The Mistakes Women Make1) Convincing him
When you are with a man who is feeling or acting uncertain with you, trying to convince him otherwise puts you in a very dangerous and weak position for your relationship - even if you give him an ultimatum that would move things ahead to the place in your relationship that you want.
Why?
Because he is not really making that decision based on what he wants or feels.
What you really want and need is a man who is truly committed to being with you on a physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual level.
Not coerced, not forced, not convinced.
2) Over sharing your feelings
If you are like most women, then you think sharing your feelings with a man first - and often - will somehow get him to share his feelings in return.
But this is not how it works for a man.
You can share your feelings with a man, but to expect that this will encourage him to do the same with you will only lead you to unnecessary frustration, especially if a man is already acting withdrawn.
When a man acts withdrawn, that is a signal that he is undergoing his own emotional process and needs time to recharge.
Once he is ready to share his feelings, he will be back.
But trying to stimulate him to do so by becoming overly emotional will not work.
3) Setting unrealistic expectations
Women tend to think that if things are going well with a man, that he will naturally want to move things forward to the next level.
They will just assume this even when the guy has never talked about the future.
So you know what happens next.
Things will be coasting along, and suddenly the guy will change gears and she will find out he is dating other women, or he does not make plans with her every weekend and she is left wondering what the heck happened.
The answer is that the woman created all these expectations about what the relationship was supposed to look like and how he was supposed to behave, and when he fell short of that, she became disappointed and unfulfilled.
This usually winds up in a confrontation that causes tension and maybe even creates more distance.
The flip side of this is that a woman will try to pretend she is okay with just a casual relationship, gets closer to him thinking he will "come around," and then become disappointed when he does not.
4) Having "The Talk"
As an independent, thinking woman who is used to getting out there and getting what she wants in her career and the rest of her life, it might seem like laying your cards on the table and having a talk with a man about "where the relationship is going" is the sensible, adult way to move things forward.
You might think that if you give him all your reasons for why you two are perfect for each other - like you would do in a job interview, it will make him open his eyes and realize he has be a fool to have things any other way.
But think about this...
Do men truly commit and choose to love and become loyal, caring, affectionate, etc. just because a woman asks them?
No.
A man needs to have his own reasons for being and feeling this way, and this happens when he feels a deep emotional attraction for you.
A man needs to have his own reasons for being and feeling this way, and this happens when he feels a deep emotional attraction for you.
Your "Femininity" has fired his "Masculinity!"
To get to "know" about how the commitment process works for a man, his reasons or committing, and how to transition to a deeply committed relationship in an easy and effortless way,
Then contact me and I will work with You!
I will help you discover how to help a man get in touch with those hidden feelings inside him that will have feeling deep "attraction" to you.
No drama, no tears, and no convincing that he needs to "go there" with you.
I will guide you to understand men and work with how a man thinks and feels to create a great relationship.
A relationship that will withstand those ups and downs.
You will learn to recognize when a man is just "doing his thing", so you never again have to worry that you are driving him away.
Instead, you will learn exactly what it takes to support your man during his periods of "recovery" and what to do to keep his attraction for you strong.
Now that you know what not to do when a man goes cold, here's how to handle the situation the next time it happens and inspire the right guy to "recover".
HOW TO MAKE HIM HOT AGAIN!I would like to help you quickly get to that great place you know is inside you where love and amazing experiences and emotions simply flow in your life.
And draw the right man and the right relationship to you all on their own.
Remember: A man cannot read your mind, or know all that is in your heart.
And if you are carrying around pain or fear, it's surely getting in the way of him seeing that beautiful and real you underneath that he would want to get to know and love.
Unfortunately, it is very common to come across women who are more like robots these days.
Women who have become disconnected from their "Femininity."
I trust that a strong feminine woman would never be content with just being content and making do in life..
Women are a symbol of beauty; of femininity and you ought to live enriching lives and bring LIFE, energy, love wherever you go.
And, I KNOW that there needs to be more manly men, more masculine men to respect, ravish and love you for the contrast you brings to him; and for the many ways in which you completes him!
Don't keep a man from seeing the best of the real you that is inside.
Make it easy for him and for you.
Help a man recognize the feminine beauty inside you.
And if you have problems "feeling" beautiful about yourself.
You might just want to Contact me.
And together we will work on building your "self-confidence!"
That alone is "highly attractive" to any man!
Add that "self-confidence" to your "glowing femininity" and you will "attract" the attention of a "Masculine Man!"
And as ever...Always leave a man or a woman all the better for knowing you. Average men and women know only the rules. Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!
For Love and Intimacy...
Ange Fonce
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