Erotic Sexy Sweet And Spicy Or Are You Just A Plain Vanilla Lover?


By Ange Fonce 


Please Be AWARE That This Article Contains Content Of An Intimate Nature!


I would like to talk about in a totally different way the relationship between sexing and food to what you might have read before.

Most sexing experts suggest using food to give an erotic new experience and to add some spice like melting chocolate so it is just warm and pouring it on your lovers breast comes to my mind. 

Another way to add the taste sense to sexing is feeding your lover in bed like strawberries... sweets and mango slices... one of my favourite ways to kiss is having a chocolate ball in my mouth.

I suggest you try some of these suggestions to add spice to your next sexing session. 

Another way of looking at the food and sexing is in a totally different way... after a few years in a relationship most couples do what I like to call left over sexing. 

Let us look at this in more detail...

Most of you make sexing in ways that do not make you anxious or uncomfortable... you do not try new activities that push your boundaries. 

You also do not tune into your partner and read your lover in sexing and instead of tuning into their sexing energy and body... you do not do anything that would make your lover uncomfortable... when your lover says no to a new suggestion it really stops the sexing energy flowing and most men and women feel rejected.

So after a few years of doing all the things that are left sexing becomes routine... you are doing the same sexing moves again and again.

You are actually doing what I call left over sex.

When you and your lover explore all the acceptable sexing activities that you are both comfortable doing and over time... these become repetitive and boring.





So Do You Do Left Over Sexing?


Sexing for most couples that was once fantastic and many times a week is now a distant memory... the frequency of sexing drops right off and for some couples to once a month or longer.

The way out of this situation is to try new sexing activities that are new and could create anxiety... now trying new things can actually be very simple... for some couples even making eye contact in sexing is transforming.

I suggest you try the following simple exercise in this article...

Stillness Orgasm 

Try this with each other!

One of the things I like most about sexing is the feeling when I first enter my lover... now if you watch any porn movie the man just thrusts his penis into the women in one second or so. 

What I like to do is usually totally the opposite and take a lot longer in the penetration as this is such a great experience?

I like to call this the... 




10 minute penetration method. 

I first place my penis on my lovers wet pussy for a few minutes... I just love the feeling of having my penis on her hot wet pussy... I really get into the sensations in my penis and what it feels like to connect to my lover in this intimate way... usually I do not move my penis at all.

After a few minutes I very slowly penetrate just a little... I move in about 1 millimetre or 1/8 of an inch at a time... I stop after each movement and just feel with total awareness of the wonderful feelings of penetrating my lover... the whole process of penetration takes up to 10 minutes... the feeling at the end of having full penetration and being totally inside my lover is just so wonderful.

Have you ever tried this way of entering your woman? 

If you are a woman just get your man to read this article and ask him to try this wonderful exercise.

Men take note... most women just melt when being entered this way... this method is a good way for men who tend to come too soon to avoid squirting to quickly... you are entering your lover in a more relaxed frame of mind due to the lack of a lot of fast penis movement... you will also find that the sexing that follows is more connected and more relaxed... you are in your body more and more present.

If I just have 10 minutes with my lover and we are not in the mood for a quickie... I like to just connect for a few minutes with my penis with my lovers pussy... sometimes I am not even erect... it is also possible to use your fingers to place the soft penis in her pussy if she is wet or you can first use lube.

Those who practice Tantra will understand this... it is about the connecting of masculine and feminine energy... I find it is a wonderful way to start the day with this practice... during the day I feel more masculine as I have touched my lovers pussy with my cock... I have mixed with her feminine essence.

Another way that is more challenging for most is to add anal stimulation to sexing... the number of  nerve endings on the anal opening are actually many more than on the head of the penis.

If you have the yuck factor come up when anus play gets mentioned... I suggest to buy some vinyl or latex doctors examination gloves at a chemist... this way you can add anal play in sexing and just take off the glove... I like to turn it inside out and just tie a knot the end... in this way you can now touch your lovers pussy without any chance of cross contamination.

Most men completely miss out on prostate stimulation in sexing... which is a pity as adding prostate stimulation can result in an orgasm that is much more intense compared to a normal ejaculation orgasm... slow prostate touch can also be very relaxing and take you to deep trance states.

Sexual teasing is really working on bringing anticipation into the sexing act. 

One of the great lovemaking skills is for a man to find ways to increase anticipation rather than reduce anticipation... there is not much anticipation in the common 10 minute foreplay routine.

You probably have heard of the saying that sex starts 12 hours before actual sexing... like hugs and caresses during the day... sexy text messages... all help build up the anticipation before sexing... everyone has different turn ons and it is important to let your lover know what works for you. 

Men it is essential to really find out what turns your lover on... maybe your lover loves being in nature when sexing or being naughty or kinky... having a frank discussion about your past peak experiences is one way to communicate what works for you... what really turns you on could be called your erotic map... most couples never discuss these deeper areas of their erotic map... sometimes couples have different erotic maps... so communication is an essential step for passionate sexing... one of my past lovers just loved sexing in nature... to me this was okay and not one of my best turn ons yet she just adored sexing in nature so who was I to argue!



 

Aphrodisiac Foods And What They Claim to Do


The following is a list of foods that reportedly act as aphrodisiacs. 

Some are said to be aphrodisiacs simply because of their shape and some because of their aromas... while others claim a chemical basis for their "love" powers... this is by no means a complete list and unless otherwise noted there is no readily available research to back up their claims.

Aniseed...

Also known as anise... the ancient Greeks and Romans believed that you could increase desire by sucking on anise seeds... aniseed does include estrogenic compounds which are female hormones that have been reported to induce similar effects to testosterone.

Avocado...

The avocado tree was called a "testicle tree" by the Aztecs because its fruit hangs in pairs on the tree resembling the male testicles... its aphrodisiac value is based on this resemblance.

Bananas...

In addition to the phallic shape of the banana itself the banana flower also has a phallic shape... bananas are rich in potassium and B vitamins which are said to be necessary for sex hormone production.

Sweet Basil...

For centuries people said that basil stimulated the sex drive and boosted fertility as well as producing a general sense of well being... the scent of basil was said to drive men wild... so much so that women would dust their breasts with dried and powdered basil... basil is one of the many reported aphrodisiacs that may have the property of promoting circulation.

Cardamom...

Cardamom is an aromatic spice... certain cultures deem it a powerful aphrodisiac and also claim it is beneficial in treating impotence... it is high in cineole which can increase blood flow in areas where it is applied.





Chocolate


Chocolate has forever been associated with love and romance... it was originally found in the South American rainforests... the Mayan civilizations worshipped the Cacao tree and called it "food of the gods"... rumor has it that the Aztec ruler Montezuma drank 50 goblets of chocolate each day to enhance his sexual abilities... researchers have studied chocolate and found it to contain phenylethylamine and serotonin which are both "feel good" chemicals... they occur naturally in our bodies and are released by our brains when we are happy or feeling loving or passionate... it produces a euphoric feeling like when you are in love.

In addition to those two chemicals... researchers at the Neuroscience Institute in San Diego... California... say that chocolate may also contain substances that have the same effect on the brain as marijuana... the substance is a neurotransmitter called anandamide... the amount of anandamide in chocolate is not enough to get a person "high" like marijuana yet it could be enough to contribute to the good feelings that serotonin and phenylethylamine produce. 

Does that mean it increases sexual desire?

Probably not... yet if it makes you feel good it might lower your inhibitions so that you are more receptive to suggestion.
 
Carrots...

The phallus shaped carrot has been associated with sexual stimulation since ancient times and was used by early Middle Eastern royalty to aid seduction.

Chili Peppers...

Eating chili peppers generates physiological responses in our bodies like sweating... increased heart rate and circulation that are similar to those experienced when having sexing... the capsaicin they contain is responsible for the effects and is also a good pain reliever... another reported effect of eating large quantities of chili peppers is an irritation of the genitals and urinary tract that could feel similar to sexual excitement.

Cucumbers...

Aside from its phallic shape the scent of cucumbers is believed to stimulate women by increasing blood flow to the vagina.

Figs...

Figs are another fruit that claims aphrodisiac qualities based on its appearance... an open fig is thought to look similar to female sex organs.

Garlic...

Long ago Tibetan monks were not allowed to enter the monastery if they had been eating garlic because of its reputation for stirring up passions... garlic increases circulation.

Ginger Root...

People have deemed ginger root an aphrodisiac for centuries because of its scent and because it stimulates the circulatory system.

Honey...

In medieval times people drank mead a fermented drink made from honey to promote sexual desire... in ancient Persia couples drank mead every day for a month which was known as the "honey month" or as we know it now as the "honeymoon" after they married in order to get in the right frame of mind for a successful marriage. 

Honey is rich in B vitamins needed for testosterone production as well as boron which helps the body metabolize and use estrogen... some studies have suggested that it may also enhance blood levels of testosterone.

Licorice...

In ancient China people used licorice to enhance love and lust... the smell appears to be particularly stimulating... Alan R. Hirsch MD neurological director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago... conducted a study that looked at how different smells stimulated sexual arousal... he found that the smell of black licorice increased the blood flow to the penis by 13 percent... when combined with the smell of doughnuts that percentage jumped to 32.

Nutmeg...

In ancient China women prized nutmeg an aphrodisiac and researchers have found it to increase mating behaviors in mice... there is no evidence to prove the same happens in humans... in quantity nutmeg can produce a hallucinogenic effect.

Matoya Oysters...

Romans documented oysters as aphrodisiacs in the second century A.D. they are known to be high in zinc which has been associated with improving sexual potency in men... an additional hypothesis is that the oyster resembles the female genitals.... recently mussels... clams and oysters have been found to contain D aspartic acid and NMDA N methyl D aspartate compounds may be effective in releasing sex hormones like testosterone and estrogen... scientists have not determined whether there are enough of those compounds in the shellfish to make any difference.

Papaya...

Papaya like aniseed is estrogenic... meaning it has compounds that act as the female hormone estrogen... it has been used as a folk remedy in promoting menstruation and milk production... facilitating childbirth and increasing the female libido.

Pine Nuts...

People have been using pine nuts to stimulate the libido since Medieval times... like oysters they too are high in zinc... pine nuts have been used for centuries to make up love potions... the Arabian medical scholar Galen recommended eating one hundred pine nuts before going to bed.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




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