Do You Know How To Attract An Emotionally Mature Man 

And The Signs To Look For! 

By Ange Fonce

Are you tired of falling for men who just cannot deliver when it comes to relationships, or who do not know what they want?

Have you ever been involved with a guy who said he "needed space" or even disappeared the minute things got a little stressful in his life?

Or have you dated a man for a while and thought things were exclusive only to realize that he had no intention of a committed relationship with you or anyone else?

In this article I am going to take you inside "The Mind Of A Man" and about learning how to recognize what an emotionally mature, relationship-minded man looks like so you do not waste your time - or your heart - on a guy who cannot give you the connected, lasting relationship you deserve.

I will explain the different levels of emotional maturity in a man so that you can cut straight through the guys who will never get it and find the man you can really connect with and build something solid with... for the long term.

Once you start reading so much will click into place.

You will suddenly realize the crucial information you have been missing when it comes to interacting with the men in your life, and getting into a relationship with the right man will be so much easier.

Now let me ask you something: After meeting and dating different men who you thought were good guys at first, do you really know what a man who is emotionally MATURE looks like?

Or are you finding that while you think you can tell a mature man from an immature man, you do not seem to be as good at figuring this out as you would like to be?

Since I am thinking it would not hurt for me to shed light on this for you, let us talk for a second about what a mature man really looks like.

I will start here...

How To Know What Kind Of Man You Have On Your Hands

Have you ever been dating a guy when one of those situations came up in his life that shook his foundation and challenged him - either made him re-think who he is, what he does, or what he is most passionate about?

For example...

Maybe he lost his job or a particular sport or activity he is devoted to, or maybe someone close to him passed away. If you have been dating a man when one of these kinds of situations came up in his life, you almost certainly watched him pull back from you a bit once it happened. 

Men often do this when they feel their life and significance is in crisis. And here is where differences between an emotionally mature man and an immature man show up:


An emotionally immature man will completely withdraw without warning. He will completely avoid addressing the issues he is facing and the feelings he is going through. Not only will he block himself out of his own feelings, he will block you and your relationship completely out as well.

An immature man cannot admit when he is going through a challenging time, and he cannot open up and see that allowing the people he is closest to and loves the most to be there to listen and  support him is the best thing.

Instead, he wants to isolate himself to try and make the pain and the problem go away.

And it does not work that way.

On the other hand, an emotionally mature man will handle things very differently.


While an emotionally mature man will still feel the pain and frustration of his circumstances and might even noticeably pull back a bit in all areas of his life, he WILL NOT shut the woman he loves out of his heart and mind.

In fact, an emotionally mature man knows that in order to have a truly loving and honest relationship, he has to be honest about who he is and how he is feeling, even when he is feeling down about himself. And he cannot hide away if he is going to stay close and loving with the woman in his life.

Emotionally mature men are willing to show their feelings, and more importantly, they are able to allow the woman in their life to "see" them even when they are going through a difficult time.

They will avoid the temptation men feel to shut down and go into "survival mode" all alone in isolation.

Have you ever watched a man go into survival mode?

If you have, you know that there is no talking him down from it. It is simply a matter of whether or not the man has the mental and emotional tools inside him to handle the situation in a better way.

Mature men understand that their feelings cannot simply be stuffed away or shut off, or else the relationship and the women in their life suffers as well.


Now that you are starting to get what I am talking about, start looking for signs of emotional maturity in any and all of the men around you. Practice looking at all areas of a  man's life, and you will be able to identify a man's emotional maturity level:

Maturity Area 1... Work

Is the man able to handle adversity, criticism or even intense politics at work and remain level-headed, relatively calm, or even compassionate?

Or is he spiteful, does he talk about problems instead of thinking about solutions and how to improve personal dynamics in his life and relationships?

Compassion and the ability to handle complex mental and emotional situations without coming unglued or doing negative or harmful things to other people is one of the best signs of  emotional maturity - and sensitivity as well.

Maturity Area 2... Friends

What type of people does a man spend his time around?

It has been said that you can know all you need to know about a person simply by looking at the people they spend their time around. A man's closest friends and peers are one of the very best windows into his mental and emotional world.

Are a man's friends people of integrity?

Are they doing positive things with their lives and committed to living a good life?

And are a man's friends capable of being in mature and committed relationships?

Does he have any married friends who have stable relationships where both partners are relatively happy and fulfilled?

Men spend most of their time with people whose values they share.

Maturity Area 3... Family

How does a man handle his relationships with his family members?

Sure, lots of people have challenging family situations, yet whether or not a guy's parents are together is not what is really telling about him.

It is more important whether or not he is on stable emotional footing in the way he relates to his parents. Fighting intensely with parents, high and low emotional swings, or completely estranged situations without a clear reason can be signs of deeper emotional turmoil that is unresolved and might mean that a man will have trouble being there and being present and stable with you emotionally.

So you know, there are other key areas of maturity you should look for in a man to make sure you are not wasting your time with someone who is not capable of the relationship you deserve.

When you understand these hidden dynamics in a man you can separate the relationship - ready guys from the players.

When you work with me and have Coaching you to get to understand the inside story from the mind of a man and find out the tell-tale (and not so obvious) signs that a guy is just wasting your time.

So that the next time you wonder if a guy is stringing you along, just ask me and know right away what kind of man you have on your hands and how to handle him:

You will also learn the NUMBER ONE thing that scares a great man away and how to make sure a fantastic relationship never slips through your fingers.



Now, there are two ways to go about talking to a man and getting clearer about what kind of man he is emotionally.

You can be direct, or you can be indirect.

It is easiest to start off with being indirect.

All you have to do is start talking about your friends, family and work (the three areas of maturity). Once you start talking and connecting, just simply ask him about these three areas in his life one at a time.

When he answers, dig a little deeper and try and get him talking about how he FEELS about these things.

How does he FEEL about the people at work and his family?

Get him to talk about his friends and tell you what he likes about them and what makes them tick.

You will be surprised by how much a man will share about who he is and how he lives his life if you simply ask great questions about all three of these important areas. And once you have talked with a man and perhaps you feel more comfortable, feel free to be direct with him. Asking more direct questions about him and his life once you have both been talking and opening up will feel MUCH more natural to a man than if you spring a direct question on him at the start of a conversation.

There is a method to this where you can get deep into a man and his thoughts with out doing what I consider one of the worst pieces of relationship advice going... having the "talk" with a man.

Many women wonder "why" after having the "talk" with a man. He disappears and withdraws. It is complete about the worst way to connect with a man.


Now that you know how to zero in on a mature man who is capable of a stable, committed relationship with you, all you need to do is attract him.

Of course, if you have been through your share of dating disappointments and immature men, then this does not sound easy. Yet it is - IF you know how attraction works for a man and how to embody the kind of qualities a man finds irresistibly attractive in a woman.

When you work with me I explain what draws a man in to connect deeply with you so he cannot help to want to see you again and again. I will tell you what makes a man see you as a "cool woman" he wants to get to know on a deeper level.

You will also learn what to do and say - and what not to do and say - with a man during every stage of interaction with him from dating through exclusivity.

Once you I have shared the male dating secrets with you, you will wish you had known about all this stuff years ago.

So make share you get to learn them before you even think about going on your next date

In order to get into a committed relationship with a mature man, you need to know how to identify him AND the specific ways to attract him.

Once you master these two steps, I know your love life is going to get much, much easier and a whole lot more fun.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

Ange is an Dynamic Personal Development Coach who works with those men and women who want to personally develop their confidence, relationships, sexing, health and wealth!

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