Can A Cheater Ever Be Trusted  

By Ange Fonce

I have a question that I get asked quite often... 
The crux of it is, if a man or woman has cheated in the past, can they ever be trusted?
I would like to open this up even further. How can you ever know if ANY man or woman can EVER be trusted?
Here is the question:
If a man or woman cheated on thier exes, they will certainly cheat on the next one. What if he or she is on their journey all this life to find the RIGHT one, how could you trust him or her based on their past? can you forgive them? can you believe what they said?
I always wonder who "they" are in all of these "they say" statements...
It has been my experience that "they" are almost never in agreement with the way that I see the world.  And that is probably because "they" always speak in generalities, and you, your partner, and your relationship are INDIVIDUALS.
So, first off, if I thought that a person's past predicted what they are capable of in the future, I would quit this business right now.
I HAVE TO TRUST that the men and women that I am writing for can have massive transformationsin their lives... their sex life, their emotional life, and in the happiness and contentment in the way they relate to each other.  If I did not KNOW that was true, then I would be a complete fraud.
And the fact is, every single day I get the most beautiful proof in the form of emails and personal conversations that people CAN change literally anything in their life and live their love life in their romantic relationships.
So, the short answers to this question are...
Could you trust him or her based on their past?
Can you forgive them?
Of course!
Can you believe what they said?
Yes... if you choose to.
Now here is some ESSENTIAL tips to actually GET the trustable man or woman and relationship you want...
First off, you MUST TRULY UNDERSTAND this all-important point:
Humans are 100% predictable in that we are flawed, imperfect, and we are going to f69k up.
The idea that you cannot trust someone because of a past mistake is an idea that will doom you to a life of loneliness, mistrust, emotional denial, and immature judgement.
All humans screw up, and when you judge THEM for it, you are essentially lying your ass off by denying all of the mistakes you have  made that you have ever been ashamed of.
Your ability to love another person in spite of their WORST mistakes is DIRECTLY RELATED to your own ability to accept yourself for your own mistakes.
And when you bring those two things together in your heart it allows a man or woman to sink into a trusting, open, and honest space with you.
If you make them bad and wrong and shake your finger and say...

"Now how can I ever trust you again?!"

You may as well be saying...

"From now on just lie to me because I cannot take the way you reflect my own shame back at me!"
And if you cannot see the truth in that paragraph, then you should copy/paste it someplace and read it every single morning until you GET IT.  Because until you do, you will never have the kind of deep connection and intimacy that you a truly capable of.
The second tip I have for you is just plain human psychology:
If you play the... 

"I am not sure if I can trust you" game, you will be training them to play the, "then I better be sneaky" game.
If you play the, "Even though you are probably going to break my heart, I am going to show what a good person I am by trusting you like a martyr" game, then you are training them to play the, "I am a bad-ass heart-breaker jerk in spite of my best intentions" game.
Only real trust is real.  Only open honesty is going to get open honesty in return.
In a life-long relationship, mistakes will be made.  I am not saying they will cheat, yet you will both do things you wish you had not.
That is what it is to be a human, and if you cannot accept that, then you are going to always disappoint yourself. And you will always be disappointed by everyone around you who you love.
The big wisdom move here is to trust love enough to hear and accept whatever happens, and reveal your own mistakes with faith in their ability to forgive no matter what you do.
That is how you show him or her that they can trust you... and that is how you get a man or woman to truly work hard at becoming the kind of man or woman that can be trusted.
People DO grow and change.  You probably used to like playing with Barbie or Action Man, and if you are under 40 you probably once loved Britney Spears.
I forgive you.
And I know you have changed.
See how easy that was?
Well, easy for me.
YOUR road will require much more trust and courage in keeping your heart open to Love.
You might get hurt along the way. Yet the alternative is to live with a closed and unforgiving heart and then hope somehow that a magic man or woman will arrive who is so obviously without human flaws that you can finally open up and trust them.
Does such a man or woman exist? Good luck with that.
I suggest you live with an open and forgiving heart and take your chances. I am not a bit worried that if you follow that advice that you will be sorry about it on your deathbed. Because we all screw up and not one of us are perfect.
Accept we are all Human!

Either way:  Be courageous and work at trusting love. Really trusting and no faking it!

You will discover that no evidence will ever be enough.  They say "God is love," and it may be true and it maybe not, because they both require trust and faith to be real in your life.

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Yours Sincerely

Coach Ange Fonce

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