Are You The ONE Killing Your Mans Sexing Drive?

By Ange Fonce

I want to start this article by asking you a simple question...

"Are YOU the kind of Woman who makes herself available to be Ravished by your Man?

If he is not in the mood as often as you are then you already know that it is not just a matter of not getting sexing satisfaction... it can be emotionally painful too.  

It can make you feel less desirable... it can make you feel frustrated that you have committed to a man who seems less interested in sexing than well every other man you meet all day long and the longer you have been together and the older you and he is the more often this can become a challenge.

The reality is different people have different levels of libido and the chances of you and your man having an exact match in appetite is unlikely.

And if he is just never in the mood or you feel like the attraction is just dying out then here are some quick and powerful tips that will help.

Go On A Criticism Diet

This is just powerful and you just will not understand how powerful it is until you try it and realize how critical you have probably become.

Couples have a way of making each other wrong much more than friends would ever do.

He has got a bunch of little habits that are just plain annoying to you and you forget that he is sweet and that he would take a bullet for you... that he is a great father or that he is funny... smart... wonderful or any other things you love about him... because when he does THAT THING that ANNOYS you it is just so dam ANNOYING and becomes the total focus of your ATTENTION!

It is easy to take all the good stuff for granted and just constantly nag each other about those little things.

So here is the drill...  stop the focus on the petty stuff and go on a no criticism diet for 30 days.

Would you like to be a really be a powerful... fearless... goddess woman?

TELL HIM that you are going on a no criticism diet so that he can hold you accountable and make a fun penalty... maybe a spanking if you like that sort of thing if he catches you messing up.  

Challenge him to go on the diet with you.

I know it sounds like this will never work yet a mans libido is DIRECTLY attached to his ears when it comes to criticism and you will not know how horny it makes us when we feel like you are not constantly telling us that we are not good enough in tiny little ways.

Let Him Be Your Hero 

Okay so this turns out to be EXACTLY THE SAME as 1 above just from the positive side.

Our penis and our sense of being masculine are connected and when you LET a man fill up the MASCULINE space in a relationship and note the capital letters in the word and let him be Masculine it will give his erection for you a lot more power.

Let him open the jar lids for you and Smile and show appreciate when he opens the door for you... loop his arm around you and snuggle into his protective presence when you are walking together.

Let him be a man and you will get more man behaviour from him in the bedroom.

Day Time Play And Coffee

The sad fact is that stress is a sexing killer and so is mental exhaustion.  

And since most of us get busy at the end of the day sometimes we are just too tired and that is a shame because of all the things we prioritize during the day much as sexing which deserves a much better spot than last thing before falling to sleep.

What usually happens after a long day of work and dealing with the logistics of life like finishing dinner and the dishes is that we are just too tired to get it on.

DYNAMIC NOTE... in large studies it turns out that people who drink coffee have on average more sexing.

Is that because caffeine is an aphrodisiac?

Well maybe... yet the much more likely conclusion is that SOME of the people who drink coffee drink it after dinner... they have more sexing because they are AWAKE.

And here is another factor especially if your man is older than 30.

As men age their testosterone levels slowly drop off and you probably already knew that... yet what you might not know is that it drops off during the course of the day too so in other words he is much more likely in the mood after breakfast than after dinner.

So prioritize accordingly.

Be Sexy For Him

This is the advice I usually have to give the men.

After the first few times they have sexing with a woman they figure... 

"Well I got that seduction stuff out of the way."  

After that they think that when they are in the mood they only have to say... 

"Hey I am kind of horny you want do it?"

Taking your partner for granted like that is death and slowly sexing becomes a routine and then it becomes a chore.

From the womans side it is not that different after a while you stop doing your hair and putting on that good smelling stuff that we love... you stop flirting with us and laughing at our jokes... you stop wearing that sexy underwear and you stop preserving the mystery of your seduction... in other words you start taking him for granted.

A healthy libido requires what I term sexing polarity you need to be Feminine so that he can be Masculine and he needs to be Masculine so that you can be Feminine.

Otherwise you just end up very neutral friends without any sexing spark and paying attention to this stuff and keeping up your Feminine and romantic spirit with your man is WORK and so it is easy to get into the trap of just doing it less and less without realizing the price you are paying.

And when you invest and do the work you reap the benefits and rewards.

Of course he has to do his side of the work too and if you want him to do that remember that criticizing him for NOT doing it is not going to work!

These tips are really pretty simple and I will say to you that if you were thinking of trying something like watching porn together or getting a boob job that if you try these little tips they will be much easier and will WORK much better.

Now... this is for you if you already consider yourself GOOD and you want some ideas that will make you GREAT.

The biggest mistake that women make who are already very good in bed is doing what works all the time and you know what I am talking about... that thing you do with your tongue or your hands or your ass that from the first time you discovered it and makes your man go crazy and act like a teenager and then act very grateful afterwards.

Okay just for fun some of those things that work according to mens surveys...

Deep Throating

If you can you are probably proud of it and if you cannot I would not worry too much about it.

Swallowing... if you hate it sorry... those that enjoy it are treasured and bragged about.

That up and down booty shake thing when being entered from behind... there must be over a million youtube videos of women showing their skills in this department.

Wild vocal displays of pleasure... yes... yes... oh God... oh God... spank me... spank me and if you want to be more expressive Dirty Talk!

As for you flexible girls hooking the ankles behind the head also known in yoga as kurmasana really allows for deep penetration which you are both going to enjoy LOTS!
And of course sometimes it is just that face you make or the thing you do with your eyes that you know drives him crazy... yet the problem with doing what you know works is that it is second best as it is a well rehearsed dance instead of getting lost in the music.  

What if you dropped EVERYTHING you thought you knew and completely surrendered your body?

What if you made sexing like it was completely new and you were feeling your way through the experience with your partner at every step?

The other piece of this is not just what you do physically as there is something else that women who think of themselves as good in bed and sexually open and aware do when it comes to sexing that also works very well.

Which is that they...

Lead With Confidence

They can talk frankly about sexing and they can be knowledgeable about sexing and they can be sexually aggressive and they can get what they want from sexing.

And let us face it with so many men being timid about what they want or just doing what they think they are supposed to do to be macho... it is not a bad strategy for a woman to take the lead!

Most men find a woman that knows what she is doing and takes the lead very sexually attractive.

And the other possibility is again to abandon what you know and help your man to get out of his head and into his masculine strength by risking deeper surrender.

This is an emotionally dangerous place to explore and it takes courage to be yielding and feminine and receptive and make him feel it... make him KNOW it so that it awakens his inner hero.

It turns out that surrender takes about 10 times more courage than being bold and it is unlikely that he will have the courage to go first on this one... something to think about at the very least.

I think every woman deserves a man who can hold a safe and powerful space for her explore her deepest feminine desires in total trust... the catch is it is not just up to HIM. 

In a loving sexual relationship we create ourselves and each other in the context of who we are together.  

If you are not getting what you need from your man to some degree you are creating him that way.

Knowing this and learning how to play in this space is not just what makes good sexing great. 

It is what takes great sexing into soul searing... unforgettable intimate love making.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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