Are You Sexual And Loving With Your Own Body? 

By Ange Fonce

Having a poor body image means that you view your body in a negative light. 

You look at yourself and see only what you consider to be the negatives.

This often occurs when people with low personal esteem only see their physical flaws most often when they look in the mirror.

In my practice I often find body image is often one of several issues that interfere with a persons ability to enjoy sexing and intimacy as there are multiple causes for poor body image. 

They include the following...

Perfectionism or feeling down and frustrated about your physical flaws.

Conforming to certain ideals which are usually found in advertising and other media.

Being overly focused on looks.

Thinking that you must be a certain weight or size to be happy.

Judging parts instead of paying attention to the whole. 

When you look in the mirror often people with low personal esteem only see the body parts that they deem unattractive and sometimes poor body image has some basis in reality. 

For example... 

Cancer treatment can include disfiguring surgery another example is people who are born with physical defects including those to the sex organs. 

When someone has been abused sexually... emotionally or physically they may also suffer low personal esteem and problems with appearance due to feeling belittled or devalued. 

And eating disorders can also result in major difficulties with body image.

How Does Body Image Interfere With Sexing Pleasure?

If you do not feel good about your body you probably are not going to want to be seen naked or even partially undressed in front of a partner. 

You are unlikely to initiate sexing

You may also be out of touch with your bodies desires and pleasures since you see your body as a source of distress. 

You may not want certain parts of your body touched because you feel embarrassed about how look. 

It may surprise you to learn that in my professional practice about half the people who have body image issues are male. 

It is also why I made a point of discussing this topic in this article.

 Tips To Help Improve Your Body Image

How can you improve your body image so that you can have more sexing enjoyment? 

Here are five suggestions to help improve your personal esteem and love the skin you are in.

1... Focus on what you do like about your body or face. 

Do you have a nice smile? 

Neat ears? 

Pretty hands? 

Strong calves? 

Broad shoulders? 

Everyone has something about themselves to like.

2... Notice that there are all types of bodies in all shapes sizes and skin tones. 

What you see in the media is not a representation of the human race. 

Appreciate the differences you see around you and appreciate your own individual looks.

3... Exercise and if you move you can be grateful for what your body is able to do rather than how it appears. 

You do not have to do an extreme sport. 

You can just take a walk and appreciate how your legs can take you from one place to another.

4... When using a mirror look at your body in its entirety and try not to look at your body as individual parts. 

Do not use a magnifying mirror when you look at your face and look in the mirror and observe your whole body. 

When you do this you might like what you see. 

Be at peace with your personal image by giving the mirror a rest.

5... Heal your body image by taking note of how you talk to yourself about your body and change it if necessary. 

Instead of saying... 

“I am so fat and ugly I hate myself.” 

Tell yourself... 

“I have beautiful eyes and I am a good friend and the package may not be perfect and it does need to be loved.”

It is a good idea to take stock of how you feel about your body which is a big part of your sexuality

Make now the time in which you learn how to love the body you have and experience the pleasure... love and intimacy you deserve.

Feel sexy... sensual and attractive to yourself and others will feel and see this in you too.

And be attracted to YOU!

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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