3 Steps To Open Up A Man So He Connects With You 

By Ange Fonce

If you are having a hard time talking to your man... no matter WHAT you say or HOW you say it... there may be deeper issues here than simply putting a positive spin on what it is you are thinking and feeling.

If your man is misunderstanding what you are trying to tell him or ignoring what you have been telling him or has simply SHUT DOWN and is not telling you anything about what he is feeling... then it is time you took a whole different approach.

I mean unless you are completely open and honest about what you are BOTH experiencing in your relationship and what your expectations and needs are... there is a big danger in having your man drop the bomb on you when you least expect it.

You will be going through weeks or months of silence or tension... only to have him come to you one day to tell you... 

"I am not in love with you any more I think we should stop seeing each other."

Do not allow this happen and let me help you get things on the right track right here.

It is really in your power to have a rock solid COMMITTED relationship with an amazing man if you commit yourself to making it happen.


Learn everything you need to know about what men think when it comes to courting and how you can be the kind of woman a man would want to be with for the long term.

Do you sometimes think to yourself that men could just be more HONEST with you?

Do you feel discouraged by courting because the men you meet actually LIE about what they want from courting... what their background is... what they do for a living and sometimes even lie about whether or not they are AVAILABLE?

To where sometimes you end up involved with a man who is already seriously courting another woman or worse is married?

Not good and if these are situations that you run into a little more than you would like... then keep reading because in this article as I am going to share with you that AUTHENTIC ATTITUDE that actually inspires a man to be completely up front and honest with you about such things as...

If he is looking for something serious or casual?

If he is seeing other people?

If you are the kind of woman he is drawn to?

If he is ready to settle down or not?

As a matter of fact with this authentic attitude you may be able to get a man to reveal a lot more than he would ever reveal on his own without prompting and the ADDED BENEFIT of this is that he will feel more connected with you because he will feel he can tell you just about ANYTHING and he will feel more attracted to you because he will feel more understood and appreciated by you.

This is why I call this attitude authentic as it not only inspires honesty from a man... it makes him feel more connected to you at the same time... nice.

If you are single and courting right now... this mind set or attitude can actually help you qualify the right man and avoid Mr. Wrong as early in the courting process as possible... perhaps even before you meet in person for the first time if you are online meeting men.

And if you are in a relationship it can help you get to the bottom of what he is thinking and feeling so you can know why he is withdrawing... if he is open to taking things to the next level or what is holding him back from fully committing to you.

First though there is a fundamental question that seems to bother a lot of women.

Why does this even have to be an issue anyway?

Why cannot a man just be up front and honest with you?

Why for example is it so hard for a man to tell you why he is not calling as often or why he stopped asking you out especially when he seemed so into you in the beginning?

You go out on a few meet ups with a man and you think everything is going great then he stops calling... he does not respond to your emails or texts... it is like he has dropped off the face of the earth and YOU DO NOT KNOW WHY?

It is not that you are so particularly heartbroken about this... maybe you even realized that he was a nice enough man and you did not know him well enough yet to fall in love or anything... yet still you would like to know and hear WHY he stopped calling... stopped asking you out and stopped responding to your messages and that he could be HONEST with you.

It is no big deal you can handle it... right?

Hmm perhaps... yet that could be not how HE may be seeing things.

Why Men Will Lie To You

Imagine this scenario... you are on a first or second meetup with a man and it is going really well.

You are laughing... you are having a great conversation and you seem to have a lot in common... it is almost scary how similar your attitudes are about certain things... you feel an intense chemistry between you... he is staring at you with that look that tells you he is very attracted to you... he even talks about places he would like to take you to someday... you are almost positive that this is the beginning of something meaningful with this man and then a few days go by and you do not hear from him... then a week... then two weeks.

You send him a message... 

"Have not heard from you in a while how are you?"

And he does not respond... you never hear from him again and you beat yourself up thinking about everything you did and said on the meetups to see if maybe you accidentally put him off... months later you find out the truth from someone else that during the time he was seeing you he was also seeing another woman and was now getting more serious with her.

You feel confused... disappointed and a bit annoyed that he did not just tell you the TRUTH about what was going on... why did he not tell you the truth... either before... during or after he went on a meetup with you?

The truth would have been a whole lot better than days or weeks WONDERING and beating yourself up over nothing... right... of course it would.

So why does a man lie to you... why does he avoid telling you the truth about a situation?

The answer is simple... a man will lie to you because he hates confrontation... he FEARS your emotional response... he fears your rejection of him... he fears that HE will not be able to handle your response... he is imagining that you are going to cry... scream... be disappointed... argue or complain... he fears being put on the spot or attacked.

Understand... I am not saying you would do any of those things... I am just telling you what that man who maybe does not know you all that well yet is thinking... you may be a cool cucumber totally able to maturely handle whatever he tells you... it does not matter... somewhere in his past there was a woman or two who did in fact overwhelm him with her emotional response... and it FREAKED him out.

He could have just said... 

"Hey I am seeing another woman right now and I haveve decided that I want to get to know her better... I think you are great and I also feel that I want to give this other situation a chance."

Instead he tells you NOTHING... he avoids you... stops calling and thinks that he will not ever have to face your criticism and judgement... it is not a particularly mature and considerate thing to do and that is the reality of how it is with a lot of men... not all... definitely a lot though they do not even realize in the moment how YOU ARE feeling... all they know is that they have to do what they must do to avoid that confrontation they fear.

Despite this there is ways that you can create the space for a man to be honest with you with really no effort and here is something else you need to know... there is a window of opportunity for getting the most honesty right away so you can screen out the men who are Mr. Wrong from the start... be sure to know when that window is open for you and take advantage of it.


This is an interesting fact... a man will be MOST HONEST with you when he is NOT YET emotionally engaged or invested in your relationship yet... in other words you can probably learn a LOT about a man on a first or second meetup when you are just getting to know each other... this is a time when he is not so afraid to share because he is not afraid of disappointing you since you do not know each other well enough yet... this is when you should be listening VERY closely to what a man tells you... this is when he will tell you things like... 

"I am just looking for something casual and fun right now as I just got out of a long term relationship and not into getting into the same situation any time soon."

Or he might laugh and say... 

"I am a lifetime bachelor and settling down does not interest me in the least."

Or he might reveal some other dark secret... 

"My ex was an unhappy woman and always complaining about one thing or another about me."

And that is when you need to HEAR what he is saying and take him seriously and know what you are in for as the man you choose is the man you get.

The ATTITUDE And The 3 Words That Inspire HONESTY

When you want to inspire honesty in a man so that you let him know that he is safe when he shares with you... you have to have what I call the anything is okay attitude.

Now this does not mean that anything is okay for a man to do and that you are supposed to accept anything he does and have no boundaries or limitations... the attitude is more like you thinking... 

"Anything is okay for you to share with me and I know what I will and will not tolerate in my life and what I want and you can TELL ME anything as I can handle it."

How do you communicate this attitude?

Easy with these simple little words... 

"I am just curious."

It can go like this...

"Are you seeing anyone right now I am just curious?"

"What kind of relationship are you looking for I am just curious."

"What kind of woman do you most admire I am just curious."

"Where do you see yourself in the next five years I am just curious."

Using these three words not only lets a man know that you will be okay with whatever he tells you and that you are not needy or too aggressive and he can feel safe telling you just about anything... just do not stare at him holding your breath waiting for his answer as that defeats the purpose BIG TIME!

Here is the deal.... it is not that a man is afraid of certain questions it is just that the WAY a woman asks those questions makes him feel strange and if a woman warns... 

"You are not seeing anyone else right now are you?"

It almost automatically invites DISHONESTY in a man... if you want to inspire sincerity in a man you must have the anything is okay attitude and use those 3 words to get the most honest response possible as that way you will not waste a lot of time going on meetups with unavailable men... men who have skeletons in their closet... are not over their ex or are actually interested in a different kind of relationship than you are.

Would you not benefit from knowing exactly how to use the anything is okay attitude to screen out the right man from all the wrong ones? 

How to know if the man you are with now is really being honest with you about where the relationship is headed or if he is lying?

You can learn how to screen for potential jerks by knowing what to do and say even BEFORE you agree to meetup for the first time and you can learn what to do and say to create amazing chemistry with the RIGHT MAN and how to constantly be increasing the level of ATTRACTION between you... how certain phrases you speak can be a DEAL BREAKER for a man when he hears it the first few times and how to avoid these at all costs and how to make a man see your VALUE by the things you say or not... so that he will feel your status to be high and therefore will be naturally attracted to you and how to make a man feel ATTRACTION from the first five minutes all the way through the courting process using specific counter intuitive actions and how to draw a noncommittal man closer to you by making yourself a challenge in his eyes

If you have a handle on courting... flirting and seduction and you are often confused by what men do and say... then there is something I want to ask you....

Would you not love to have more insight into why men do the things they do so that you could feel like you UNDERSTAND men better and therefore have better relationships with men?

Over the years women have asked me the same kind of questions over and over about men... courting... relationships and sexing.

What makes a man fall for a woman... what is the secret?

How can I get him to really listen to me and get me?

Why do men cheat and do all men want to cheat?

How can I affair proof my relationship?

What do men look for in a woman before they decide she is The One?

Do men go through stages of maturity and if so what stage is my man in?

I do not let these questions go unanswered.

So when I work with women... coaching them... I answer ALL of these questions including more in depth insights into why men lie... why men SEEM to be more cold and in control emotionally and how knowing your man inside and out can bring you closer than you ever thought possible and I help you understand what a mans words and actions really mean and I bust the common man myths that are keeping you from truly and completely connecting with a man.

I know that the easiest way to help you find and connect with a GOOD man is to teach you the skills to get the most honesty possible from a man and then know what it takes for a man to feel deeply in love with you.

Do you ever wonder why a man will spend time zoning out in front of the TV or totally absorbed in sports or tinkering in the garage or browsing the Internet or why he hates to talk about the relationship?

Men have different needs when it comes to relaxing and unwinding... they also have different needs when it comes to intimacy and getting physical.

You probably know what those are or do you? 

Do you REALLY KNOW the truth behind what men REALLY need and want?

You can Contact Me to KNOW more...

As always leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. 

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely

Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

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