Intimacy lives in the tension. 


It is the drive to get your own needs met and the drive to ensure your lovers needs get met... love both covers your lovers vulnerabilities and calls out their inadequacies... love accommodates and demands growth. 

The beauty of loving tension is that it has something powerful residing within it... energy. 

You do not get to choose when that energy will get released from the tension... you do get to choose whether it will be intelligent creative empowering energy or blind destructive destroying energy... it comes down to your personal intent... to rise and empower or to control and manipulate?

When two lovers stand right in the middle of their relational tensions and extend themselves to invest in their own highest best and the highest best of the other... a powerful astonishing energy is released...  it is named and known as INTIMACY! 

And intimacy is a key is to building deep TRUST between lovers... and TRUST is the solid foundation value for those of The Tribe of  Dynamic Lifers!




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Social Courting Turning Anxiety Into Excitement By Ange Fonce

April 26, 2017



Social Courting Turning Anxiety Into Excitement


By Ange Fonce


I want to address a question that my male readers of Intimate Communion often ask for advice on and that question  is simply this...

"How do I get rid of my anxiety with women?"

Now that is a complex question in fact it is a BIG question that I am going to focus on one part of this problem and I think you are going to get a lot out of this if you listen close.

Here is the question...

"What is the fastest way to force the anxiety out and how do I fight my way past my fear?"

Let me explain it like this...

If you do not already know I am a student of language because we all THINK in language... I grew up speaking English... so all my thoughts are in English and when I think... I am limited to the concepts that the English language is built on... if this sounds strange to you then just think about it this way... in English we put adjectives the words that describe something in FRONT of the word we are describing... so if I say... 

"I have got a LONG... HARD... SOLID... sausage roll."

What did you think as you were waiting to get to the sausage roll part?

Your mind had time to make up a lot of stuff there... did it not?

And for many of the languages of the world... adjectives DO NOT come first so people who think with the nouns first do not imagine the same things... okay this is a lot of what NLP or neuro linguistic programming is based on... so let us get back to the question about "forcing the anxiety out" and "fighting past your fear."

What kind of images do those words create in your brain?

Force... fight... all you see is CONFLICT and struggle!

And what you end up doing is FIGHTING something instead of learning how to work WITH its energy... this is the foundational principle of a great many Martial Arts... when force meets force you have a battle of wills AND when you think in terms of conflict and fighting... what must you assume to think that you have a fight?

You must think you have an ENEMY in other words... if I think I have a fight on my hands I simply MUST have an opponent an adversary to fight... when you assume you have to fight anxiety you actually give your enemy more power over you... you start to imagine your enemy in all kinds of detail... you see his armour and his weapons and his intimidating battle stance... you hear his words of doubt whispering in your ear... you feel him holding you back when you see a woman you want to talk to.

Look I will be the first to admit that this fear is VERY real... you do feel it and it does exist... I am not saying it is a figment of your imagination yet what if the fear had nothing to do with courting and meeting up with women... what if it was something else you could actually control... what if you could turn its energy around to HELP you?

This falls under the category of self limiting thinking... because you are giving more power to your enemy by pretending that it is something you need to fight.

What if your anxiety was clown and dressed in a ridiculous outfit?

And he is carrying around a bag of pretzels that he keeps pushing up his nose and every time he tries to talk you out of approaching and meeting up with women he rips a wicked fart... what do you think of your enemy now?

Not so scary now in fact he is downright laughable... here is the most important step you can take to get past your anxiety...




STOP ARGUING FOR YOUR LIMITATIONS... 

THE LOSER BOY.

Let me give you another metaphor to work with here...

When I was first starting to learn play drums... I had all kinds of reasons why I thought I would suck at playing them...

My fingers were thick...

My hands were weak...

I was confused by all the drum beats and combinations...

I could not possibly play as good as those men and women I was learning to play with... as I started to learn and apply myself I found that playing drums was actually pretty easy... all my perceived limitations were all wrong.

My thick fingers served me because I could play complicated scales easier than if my fingers were normal sized...

My hands grew stronger in just 4 weeks of playing...

And so on.

What I see is that many men will argue for and give all their power over to the thinking that is holding them back... their own fear of approaching and meeting up with women... their loser boy has control and loser boy when he is arguing for your limitations sounds like this...

"But... I think that women are scared of men... they do not want us to approach them."

"But ... what about the women that just want us to approach to get compliments?"

"But ... I think that women are just being polite when guys approach."

But what about...?

But... But... But...

The list goes on and on.

If you want to you can keep giving your loser boy attitude more and more power by finding reasons to believe in him even more and KEEP coming up with those "buts" or you can accept that arguing for your enemy the loser boy is really holding you back and just agree to not fuel him with any more of your fear... can you imagine how that would change your perception of you fear?




The Winner Man Attitude


By agreeing not give it more fuel by having a loser boy attitude and instead give Winner Man your energy and focus... because you can REFRAME that loser boy anxiety into the EXCITEMENT of  a Winner Man Attitude  by changing the way you THINK about yourself. 

Now is it hard to change the way you think?

Yes... I will be honest with you it can be and depends on how long you have let loser boy run the show... so can you change?

Yes... absolutely! 

When you have the right tools and methods for REFRAMING that loser boy attitude into a Confident Winner Man Mindset!

When you work with me I will share with you all the methods and techniques that will enable you to do that and to change that loser boy attitude of anxiety into a winning Confident Man Mindset and attitude. 

All it takes is one simple step to start making that change in your life starting right Now!

As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you.

Have you any thoughts or comments you would like to share with me on what I have written?

I would love to hear from you.

Thank you and may you enjoy a Loving... Prosperous and Dynamic day!

Yours Sincerely




Dynamic Lifer... The Tribe of Dynamic Lifers

1... A person with a penchant for Science... creativity... books... writing... communication... fitness... women... sexing... sexuality... human relationships... psychology... physiology and any other area involving heavy use of the Intellect.

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How To Handle A Breakup With Your Man And Avoid In Damaging Your Esteem By Ange Fonce

April 20, 2017




How To Handle A Breakup With Your Man

And Avoid In Damaging Your Esteem


By Ange Fonce

 
Ladies this may come as a shock to you...

Did you know that a man will LEAVE a woman he LOVES if he is not feeling a certain kind of attraction for her?

That is right a man can feel that he cares about you and even wants more than anything to remain your FRIEND and if he is not feeling a very specific kind of emotional attraction and connection with you... he is not going to feel IN LOVE with you.

He might tell ...

Continue reading...
 



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Gender Education and Sexual Awareness is about improving  "Intimate and loving relationships" as one very powerful way to cultivate "getting-each-other-ness"


I am committed to the possibility of men and women really "getting" each other... I do not go with the view that you need to hide any aspect of yourself... your truth and who you really are in the world. 


When you cultivate the courage to really BE yourself and say what you mean... to your friends... your family... your boss and your lover you become incredibly POWERFUL in your life. 


The secret sauce is being ready and willing to accept others regardless if they agree with your perspective on what is  right or wrong. 


I have seen over and over again that this is the master key to...


Great sexual relationships .... deep love... commitment and trust... general happiness and contentment with life and being the SUCCESS you want to be!


Because intimacy depends upon you sharing exactly who you are - which means sharing exactly how you feel no matter how ugly you think those feelings to be... it all starts with being Truthful and Authentic  as YOU.


It is beautiful when you find someone that is in love with your mind, the essence of you... someone who takes the time to undress and appreciate your conscience and make love with your thoughts... someone that wants to help you slowly take down the walls you have built up around your heart and let them inside to share "intimacy" with you and you alone. 


To love all your vulnerabilities in embracing you... that is "Intimate Communion". ~ Ange Fonce




MASCULINE PENETRATION


FEMININE RECEPTIVITY 


In Intimate Communion


"Spirituality is a Divine Gift... Sexuality is a Divine Gift... They may together be called... Intimate Communion.


The Art of Loving maybe the ultimate gift... to connect the Mind... and Body... the absolute in non-denial." ~ Ange Fonce


People who regularly experience pleasure tend to be more happy... and are almost certainly a lot nicer to be around... sex is one of the healthiest... and most beautiful ways to experience pleasure.


A committed long-term relationship legitimises sex... and offers the needed safety... and security to help you open to the many delights of sexual pleasure.


Sacred sexuality practices such as Tantric and Taoist sex offer the further possibility of elevating your relationship to become a spiritual practice,.. thus reuniting sex and spirit.


In this way it is possible to set your self free by celebrating your body rather than denying it.





 ARE WOMEN SEXUAL CREATURES?


"Women are Highly Sexual creatures...  women crave really good SEX and for many women... really good sex is rare to find.


Sometimes they have it... and do not realize how rare it is until later... once a woman has experienced it with a Masculine Lover nothing else will do... she will always crave it... period. 


Woman make the investment to make Sex better and they are frustrated when their man is not willing to do the same... giving a woman an orgasm is not the "goal"... it is the very  minimum requirement... it is the BEGINNING!" ~ Ange Fonce



 THE CORRECT MOTIVATION AND INTENT!


Do not think about getting sex... instead think about giving really GOOD Sex! 


There is certainly opportunity there... that is the correct intent and motivation  to bring out the decadent... primal... carnal... insatiable... hungry... ruthlessly... expressive... natural sexual being in you... that drive will do the rest!






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