Have you ever felt completely obsessed by a man and do not know what to do?

Obsession...

Where you cannot eat, sleep, or look at a telephone without thinking about him?

Where you spend most of your time trying to figure out what went wrong or why he has not called, or why he is all of a sudden so distant?

I remember that feeling myself of dread in my stomach over a woman.

Most of my clients have been through that - sometimes over and over again.

It just makes you feel like you are back in high school?

Like your hormones seem to have complete control over your body and your mind and you are just living off of the crumbs he gives you?

Or what you remember he once gave you?

It does not have to be like that.

Just because you are a women, because you are sensitive, kind and caring does not mean you have to give yourself up to keep your man.

In fact, it is just the opposite.

You keep your man always moving toward you by reducing his importance in your life.

Sounds easy, I know, there is a way to make this change for yourself that is not hard work or painful - it just takes a step-by-step approach, and you have to know the steps.

I remember a woman taking over so many of my thoughts that it seemed like she was taking over my life, too.

And I remember that happening over and over again, like a record I could not turn off.

It would be a different woman, and the same record.

I felt humiliated, frustrated...

Why did this keep happening to me?

And I figured it out, and when I did, the record stopped and the women who showed up were completely different than those women I had been so hung up on.

And if I did it as a Man - I KNOW you can as a Woman.

Here is a simple and effective "tool" to help you get started...

Even if you have never had a full-blown obsession with a man, where you can barely imagine living without him and always live in fear of him breaking up with you.

Let us start using this tool by me asking you some questions?

  • Have you ever run your schedule around him?
  • Made your plans around him?
  • Watched what you said and did not say around him? 
  • Wanted to make him happy and make him love you so much that you forgot how to just be yourself?
  • Thought his moods were your fault? 
  • Thought when he withdrew that what you needed to do was be "nicer" and "more understanding?"
Well, the first thing to do that will work the fastest to reduce the importance of a man in your life (even if he is THE most important thing - I do not want you to allow him to become the ONLY important thing) is to stop doing all of the above.

That means - no scheduling around him, no making plans around him, no watching what you say and do not say, no trying to make him happy or make him love you, no "nice" and no "understanding" when something he does or does not do makes YOU unhappy.

The second thing is to get something else IMPORTANT into your life.

And that would be YOU.

Here is how it works...

First step... you look out a window and imagine what it is that you love (aside from him).

Imagine the love in your heart, all that energy and sweetness and passion, going out the window to that thing you love - it might be painting, or the beach, or giving to those less fortunate, or helping people in your special, unique way.

These two steps sound easy, and they are.

If you are willing.

Because before you can make any kind of change, you have to want to change yourself.

And it is hard to want something you have never seen or done before (except with men you do not care about.)

It is hard to trust, if you have never seen it work, that it WILL work.

And yet, I have seen it work brilliantly in my own life, and in the lives of all my clients.

It works.

You will not be the one woman it does not work for.

No matter how unusual you think you are, no matter how low your self-esteem, no matter how scattered your thoughts or how negative you feel right at this moment, it will work.

Now, let us work with this "tool" to help you with obsession...

As soon as you stop doing all the man-pleasing behaviours you have been doing, you will see two things happen...

One, your man, or the man emailing you, or the man you are meeting for a first date at a coffee shop, will sit up and notice that YOU ARE A VERY COOL WOMAN!

He will notice you are cool, because you will probably be the first woman he has met who does not need to think about how HE IS doing before she thinks about how SHE IS doing!

  • He will notice that there is absolutely no pressure in being with you.
  • He will notice that you trust yourself enough to be yourself instead of wondering and caring what he thinks about you.
  • He will notice that you TRUST HIM enough to be yourself instead of wondering and caring what he thinks about you.
And it will be such a relief, such a powerful, mysteriously sexy thing for him to be with a woman who puts herself first, he will be like a kid in a toy store, and you are the best toy.

You will see his energy come toward you in a different way than you are used to.

Instead of working hard to get his interest, instead of working at being smart, clever, charming and appealing, you will be shocked to notice he just thinks YOU ARE smart, clever, charming, appealing, and totally sexy.

You lean back, and he leans forward.

And that is only step one.

Step two... lets you come alive with the passion you feel for YOUR OWN interests.

He gets to be around while you share your deepest feelings about small things - like the weather, the restaurant atmosphere, the trip you took last year - and almost immediately, he starts to feel that.. 

"Here's a woman with EMOTIONAL DEPTH. She GETS me!"

And he leans in toward you. 

And he listens to you.

And he asks questions.

And then when you gently toss the ball back to him with a "And how about you?" 

He feels so comfortable with you, he tells you everything.

Because you are so not caring about impressing him with how you understand and hear everything he says (if it is interesting, right?) you are able to just lean back and listen, and BE THERE with him.

He is so unused to any woman JUST BEING, instead of always doing around him all the time, you completely capture his attention, his energy, his heart.

And this is how it works.

Even with just this bit of information, you can completely turn around a relationship are already in, or completely change your love life.

These two steps will change your mind set - the way you think about being in a relationship and what you have to do to keep it going.

Let me know how this simple tool works for you - it is very, very powerful, and I look forward to hearing from you about it.

Here is a letter from Lizbeth, who turned things around so fast - overnight - she is amazed...

"Hi Ange, Maybe not even 5 minutes of me sending this message, Jim buzzed my apartment! He held me and told me how much he had missed me (the last time I saw him was Sunday) - What the?

Surprised, ...u-huh. I'm staring at this man with eyes as big as jumbo marshmallows and not knowing what to say. It was awesome!!! There was absolutely no tension, and it was like there was never any worries or problems between us. BUT I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!!!!!!! I don't get it!!

Today he worked during the day and I just got home from working the evening shift. I didn't call nor did I feel the need to. Sigh. Big sigh. We are planning on seeing each other tomorrow, according to him. And I'm just going to let him do all the work. In the past, he would show up in the morning and we would go off and do our thing for the day.

Now all of a sudden things have gotten back to what they were. I can't help but feel really cautious about stuff since it seemed like such a 180 over night. Just like you said. Wow, unbelievable and what do I do to continue this. Nothing, right?

Lizbeth... USA

If Lizbeth did it, with just this simple tool, you can, too!

Let me know how things are going for you, I look forward to every success that happens for you.

As always leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. 

Average men and women know only the rules. 

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are Passionate DYNAMIC Lovers!

For Love and Intimacy...


Ange Fonce


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