How Mutual Masturbation Can Create Emotional Sexual Intimacy 

By Ange Fonce

Please Be Aware This Article Contains Content Of An Intimate Nature

If you and your partner are new to one another’s bodies, or you are looking to re-invent your sex life mutual masturbation is a great way to start intimate encounters. you can make mutual masturbation with your partner a great way to increase the pleasures of foreplay and yes, even climax.

Masturbation also offers a lot of opportunities for sharing... and sharing masturbation with a partner, can be a wonderful way of sharing intimacy, and a great way to share sexual secrets. 

As with all sex, there is no one way to do it, and here are some love making tips to get the mutual masturbation ball rolling.

The best way to enjoy masturbating with a partner is to make sure both sides are pleasuring each other, rather than one person doing all the work at one time. 

This will create a heightened sexual moment and encourage you both to enjoy the sexual charge between both lovers. 

Another advantage of having mutual masturbation in your sex life is that you will both be given a lot of control in how long you want to prolong the climax. 

Having a gentle lubricant handy is ideal to get the most from mutual masturbation, preferably you will want to use water-based lubes. If you want to really make the most from your pleasure sessions, invest in some good quality lubes. These lotions are generally formulated for the extremely sensitive skin.

Another advantage to some speciality lotions is that water-based lubes are edible, meaning if you decide to go down on one another, you are not stuck with having to rinse off the oil or consuming lubricant by the tablespoon. 

When starting your pleasure session, it is advisable to make sure you both have very clean hands... nobody wants to get dirt down there! 

This is true for any sexual escapade though... cleanliness is a good thing. Get dirty and sweaty during sex is pleasurable, not before. One more reminder: make sure both of you take off your rings and bracelets. If you are both shaved, bracelets might be okay, and you want to avoid getting hairs caught in watches or jewellery while you are getting hot and wet..

What Mutual Masturbation Can Do For You Both...

First and foremost, mutual masturbation provides a lot of opportunity to be completely connected to your partner’s pleasure. You will not be face deep in her crotch, and you will not be in the throes of intercourse... you will both be able to communicate about what feels good or what does not. 

Talking dirty to each other while you are masturbating each other is sure to feed the fire and increase sexual pleasure

Probably the easiest first way to set up yourselves for mutual masturbation is to lie slightly upright on a bed facing each other. This way you will be able to relax (because you will not have your body in an uncomfortable or energy-sapping position), and you will both be able to explore each other. Once you have found comfortable positions, it is time to start lubing up and getting down to business. If you have already started fooling around, she might even have enough natural lubricant so that you do not need to apply any on your hands. 

The secret to lubricant is to remember you can always apply more later. If it gets too slippery, the friction is diminished. As friction goes, so does pleasure... so keep the amount of lubricant limited to just a small amount every few minutes. Use your fingers and palms to explore her inner thighs and her lower abdomen; if you create physical tension in her upper legs, your touch on her labia will set off a wave of relaxation and amplify her pleasure.

Another great way to find out how she wants to get off is to have her hand guide yours to find her pleasure spots. 

Not every woman is the same; what worked on one might not work on another. Just like you know what feels best for you, she will know what she wants you to do to her. Follow the exact motions her fingers make so you can learn where to touch and how much pressure to apply. Depending on her mood, it might be fast and furious, or calm and caressing. You may have to show her the best way to please you as well. 

Some women just go for a zero-pleasure tugging session thinking that is all it takes. Encourage her to explore your body as well, and to caress everything that you have got to offer.

As long as it feels good, there is no right or wrong way to do anything in the bedroom. Try experimenting with different positions. 

One of the best ones is to have your back pressed against the headboard or wall, upright. Put her body on top of yours facing each other. This will give her a great angle to work on you, and you can slide your fingers against her spread thighs. Another position is the 69 (facing one anthers genitals), and make your fingers and hands do the work your mouth normally would.

And remember, as with any sexual opportunity with your partner, do not be selfish! 

The more you give, the more you will receive in the end. Mutual masturbation can be your entire love making session, or just the starting point to an evening of erotic and sensual lovemaking. Take the time to explore each others bodies and you will enjoy the experience, as well as guarantee a satisfying, climactic finish!

 Why Mutual Masturbation Is A Good Idea...

Because most of us still have some embarrassment about masturbation lets list some benefits of exploring mutual masturbation.

It is a great way to deal with differing sex drives... you do not both have to be in the mood at the same time.

It helps you learn what your partner likes, and teach your partner what works for you.

It is another side of you... sharing talk about masturbation and masturbating in your partner’s presence can be a powerful way of sharing a new level of intimacy
 
The first step to sharing masturbation with a partner is getting comfortable in your own masturbation. This may mean educating yourself about masturbation myths, or exploring masturbation more on your own first. If you have not thought much about how you masturbate, start to give it some thought, notice any patterns or familiar fantasy you use. Ultimately you should be able to show, if not talk with your partner about what feels good, so give your self time to figure it out first.
 
Do not pressure yourself or accept pressure from a partner, to explore mutual masturbation. While it can be a great way to enhance your sex life, it is also very intimate and exposing, and you should only do it when the time is right. 

If you are unsure about it, think about what smaller steps you can take to share masturbation with a partner.
 
Talk About Masturbation With Your Lover...

It is a good idea to talk about masturbation with your partner. Even though most people continue to masturbate while in relationships, many couples hide their masturbation. The conversation does not need to be serious or heavy, and it could even start as more of a curiosity, sharing stories about when you first masturbated, or how you learned to masturbate. The point is to get masturbation on the table as a topic as a way of gauging both your and your partners comfort with the subject.
 
The first time you masturbate with someone else in the room it may feel strange and very vulnerable. Most of us have a way we like to masturbate, and for most of us this includes feeling like we are alone and have some level of privacy. One way to get over the hump that first time is to keep your eyes closed (or if you do not want to focus on that, use a blindfold or scarf to cover your eyes). For most people this is the easiest way to masturbate in front of a partner the first time. 

Talking and sharing is also part of building and sharing INTIMACY!
 
One of the best things about masturbating in front of your partner is the lessons learned about what turns you on. Each of you should get an opportunity to simply watch the other masturbate without any distractions. The first time you share masturbation, if it feels awkward, you might agree in advance to take turns, one of you starting and masturbating until you are done, and then the other goes. While simultaneous mutual masturbation can also be fun, letting yourself be the focus of attention can also be both arousing and intense.
 
So play with eye contact and talking... making a lot of eye contact and talking is intense. And if you find you both enjoy mutual masturbation and get more comfortable with it, adding eye contact and talking can take it to a different level. 

Gazing into each others eyes during any kind of sex play can be intensely intimate and hot. 

Sharing sexual fantasies or describing what you would like to do to or with your partner while they masturbate can be another form of sexual fantasy role play.
 
 Mutual Masturbation Sex Positions...

Once you are comfortable with mutual masturbation it is time to mix it up and play with different positions and situations. Doing this can enhance the sexual response you get from masturbation, it can also spark different fantasy scenarios, and lead to more learning for your partner. Try mutual masturbation on different pieces of furniture... if you are always in bed, try it in a chair, in the shower, on the floor and experiment with different sex positions.
 
Mutual masturbation can also mean masturbating together without touching each other. From the perspective of intimate sexuality, the sexual energy built up with masturbation can be shared even if you are not physically touching each other. Some people make a game of it, and try to masturbate in sync so they finish together. If you do not have a lot of time you might compete to see who finishes first. One of the great things about doing this is sharing your feelings as you both lie there satisfied by your own hands, and sharing an intimate moment together.

This might include you focusing on another part of your partner’s body while they masturbate, or you might be right in the centre of the action. You might use parts of each others bodies in your own masturbation technique. Or maybe you come in right at the end, to help out with the big finish.

Adding Sex Toys...

Sex toys can add a lot to both solo and mutual masturbation. For starters, toys remind us that sex is play, and lots of times it’s just meant to be silly fun. Sex toys also provide a kind of strong, consistent stimulation that we can’t create on our own. Introducing sex toys during mutual masturbation can also be a great way to bring sex toys into your partner sex, and it makes room for you showing your partner first how you like to play with sex toys before they take over.

This is by no means an exhaustive list and I am sure the more imaginative lovers out there would find various other innovative ways to enjoy each others bodies and sharing sexual intimacy with each other.

Have you any "hot and sexy" ideas to add? 

And if you are experiencing any relationship and sexual problems and you would like some help and support... then please do Contact me to know more.

As always... leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you.

Average men and women know only the rules.

Masculine Men and Feminine Women know and are the EXCEPTIONS!

They are truly Passionate and DYNAMIC Lovers!

Yours Sincerely

Ange Fonce

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